Guilty by association

It happened to me in terms of family members. I've often been accused of being a bad person because I come from a bad family, as if it were my fault! It frustrates me to no end. I've even had people tell me I should not have children because I would abuse them like I was abused as a child, though thankfully no one has said this since I actually had my son. I did have a friend pretty much cut me off from himself over something another friend said to him for a while. I don't play those kinds of games, and I told him so. Either he would be my friend for my own sake, or not, and that was all there was to it. In this particular case, that approach worked.

It has not happened to me personally but I have heard where this kind of thinking has destroyed lives. It's sad that society can't get past condemning people by association.

I think it is sad that we are not looked at on our own merit. Just because you hang around with another person doesn't mean you are doing the same thing that she is. I am who I am and no one makes me do something that I don't want to do. I have been around friends in the past that wanted to do something that was not very nice to another person. I simply said no and walked away. They hollared after me that I could no longer hang around with them and all I did was say so be it and threw my hand up at them in a wave. Guilty by association is not true.

This has never happened to me (not yet anyway). I don't think it's right that someone is instantly guilty just because their spouse or someone they know has committed a crime. In fact this is downright unfair! But I'm afraid that this nonsense will never end...unless of course officials like the president, judges, and the like have this happen to them. Then maybe things will change, though I wouldn't hold my breath. =/

I am sure it has. For me the shoe is on the other foot. I had someone I considered to be a good friend, and we ave been friends for years. Any evidence to the contrary I have doggedly ignored, even when it was becoming difficult to do so. A month ago she said something I can't forget or forgive, and she has finally come to realise I am really upset with her and don't even want to talk about it or sort it out. I just don't want to do anything beyond the hi-bye when we run into each other. It is getting really akward for everybody else though, husbands, kids, mutual friends...I am not sure how it is going to work out!