Is this just a stage?

@stacyv81 (5903)
United States
June 29, 2007 9:37am CST
My son is three and my step sisters daughter is 2...they have both been going through the same type of behavior lately, and I am hoping it is just a stage. Whenever I tell him no, or tell him to stop doing something, he just starts whining and runs to his room. Normally he is a well behaved, compliant little boy. He didnt have any terrible twos stage, but I am thinking he is having terrible threes instead, and my stepsisters daughter is going through the terrible twos. DO you think this is a valid opinion? Did you experience this? What did you do? I just let him go, and wait until he comes out happy. What do you think/
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Thats what I've been doing. Our daughter is giving "terrible twos" new meaning lol. She doesn't whine and run to her room though, she'll throw herself to the floor and scream and cry. She has always been mischievious, but its getting out of control. When you try to discipline her she most the time just laughs at you. We're just waiting it out and hoping she gets better. We encourage her when she does something nice and hope that she responds to that. Shes got a new baby brother coming in a few weeks which will hopefully not make things worse.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
29 Jun 07
My advice for when the new baby comes, which worked wonders for my son when my daughter was born is letting her be completely involved. Like getting diapers for baby, and things like that or holding the baby, and letting her hold the bottle. I did that and my son never showed any hostility towrds her, which was great, because I saw how my friends children treated their new sibling, and I didnt want that. Thanks for the support, it is good to know he isnt the only one! I was thinking he'd get over it, I just try not to reward the behavior with attention. When he is done, I try to come back and explain why it wasnt the best choice to act that way! Good Luck! =)
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
29 Jun 07
oh, yeah, congrats on the pregnancy! Hope all goes well, I just found out I was pregnant with my third! =)
@AhsetBoy (93)
• Indonesia
30 Jun 07
he has become disrepectful and bossy. but i've been assured that it's perfectly normal. although it's normal behaviour. I don't think it's acceptable, so i have been a little more strict with his discipline and i think i'm making some headway. I think you must put your mind to rest
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
1 Jul 07
yes, I agree I let him know it isnt acceptable behavior, although it is normal, they are testing the boundaries and need to know what they are you are right! =)
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
29 Jun 07
i think they will, every kid goes through their periods where they get a lil outta control, my second oldest has been at that stage since he was 1 now he's 4 lol!
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
1 Jul 07
lol! Yes, I believe that to be true as well =)
• United States
29 Jun 07
My son is 2 and he does that. We don't even have to say anything to him, if he did something wrong to his baby brother and we start to get up he runs to his room. That is one of his punishments though is going to his room so before we say it, he does it. We just him go too, cause he would have ended up there anyway for what he did to his brother. I let him cool off and come out when he is ready and he is usually a little better then.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
1 Jul 07
yea I am thinking that is why he has started just running to his room, he knows...=)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I am sure you hope its a stage, and to put your mind to rest. I am going to tell you it is, and they will grow out of this.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
1 Jul 07
thank you! =)
@Hybr1d (19)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Nothing says discipline like a belt lol...of course thats only me .
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
1 Jul 07
no way! I couldnt hit my baby with a belt! He goes to time out or something. I dont really believe spanking accomplishes anything except teaching the kid to hit when angry. =)
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
29 Jun 07
As the mother of two sons I have always said I expierenced the "terrible threes". My sons were angels at two and terrible at three. I will say in my case by the time they were four they had worked themselves through the majority of it. Thank goodness. I understand completely understand where you are coming from but it does get better.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
29 Jun 07
That is what I thought. Thanks a lot! =)
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
29 Jun 07
My son started doing that right before he turned 3. I think the 3's are much worse than the 2's.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I agree. My son was an angel at 2...but now, he isnt THAT bad but he definitely has his moments! =)
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I was one of those parents who simply did not understand what all the fuss was about with the "terrible two's" as my son was great, he's almost 3 now, and it's like he has become a completely different person. It is amazing to me. I have upped the discipline def. He recieved 6 time outs yesterday.. and it's not even noon today and he's already had 2 and I just sent him to an early nap, because he is so whiny. He has become very disrespectful, and bossy. but I've been assured that it's perfectly normal. Although it's normal behavior, I don't think it's acceptable, so I have been a little more strict with his discipline, and I think I'm making some headway.. (only time will tell). I think the best course of action is to find a discipline that works well, and do it consistently, even if it means he spends half of the day in the naughty spot. (: My son HATES time out, he'll be on his way to time out begging for a spanking instead! He's only in there for 3 minutes, but I think it's the longest three minutes of his life! (; If my son is unusually whiney, or unhappy, I'll send him to his room to regroup. I'll tell him, that he can come out when he is happy and smiling, and ready to talk normally, if he's going to whine, he must return to his room, until he can behave. it usually works well. Good luck, I know this stage sure does take a lot of patience. (;
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I agree, although normal, I do not necessarily tolerate it that is why when he runs to his room I let him stay there until he is done with the behavior that isnt appropriate to me anf then I can explain..Time out is a big thing in this house as well! Thanks
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I found the errible three's to be much worse, lol....but I waited for the fantastic fours and it was so much better..Mine was a girl who could turn on the tears at any given moment, now she is a peaceful litle person...I sent her to pre-school three days a week to get some peace, it may work for you!