Which do you prefer: live-in before marriage, or marriage immediately?
By rhine09
@rhine09 (56)
Philippines
July 28, 2007 11:54am CST
At first, I prefer marriage immediately because I think this is what should be done morally.
But after hearing my friends' opinions, I prefer live-in first before marriage. I think they have a point: in live-in, you can get to know your partner better and how he behaves and acts when you are both alone and living together (minus the parents and relatives). In this way, you get to see how you can do things together, stand (or not) stand each other, balance money and other financial means, and fix things when there is trouble in and out of the relationship, without the full commitment done in marriage.
I think it is better to experience the good (and bad) traits of your partner in live-in than experience it in marriage...and then lead to separation or divorce. It is, what they say, "to avoid more damage".
What do you prefer?
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6 responses
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
30 Jul 07
seriously, with me, any will do.... my hubby and i talked about it before... he asked me the same question...
well i just said its really okay with me if we live-in first before marriage because i guess that's the time i'll get to know him more.. but just make sure that he'll marry me coz i wanna be his wife legally...
its okay with me to live in first but i guess that wouldn't happen ever... my mom would definitely react violently about that Lol coz she's really old fashioned, conservative and closed minded..
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@rhine09 (56)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
Maybe one way to know more about your partner without having a violent reaction from parents is to live with your partner once to thrice a week. So you still go home, but at the same time, still have to live with your partner.
Hehehe...it is the only way I can think of. :D
@sopranosfan (15)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I live with my husband for three years before we got married last year and it was the best decision I ever made.
It was the best decision I ever made because before I met my husband,I was dating a guy who was abuser. I would of never known this if I hadn't lived with him. He was a control freak and he hit me.
I know a great deal of people are against living together, but I believe it could save a great deal of divorces because when you live togther with someone, you really get to know them inside in and out.
I'm so glad I met my husband and that we lived together before we got married.
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@rhine09 (56)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
Well, that is good to hear.
I really think living-in with your partner is the best way to get to know him and see if he is the one you will be with for the rest of your life.
the only thing taht is against living-in is, of course, the Church. Especially for Christians.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
I think it is important for a couple planning to, or hoping to get married, to live together first, so they will have a better idea of how compatible they are. It would be awful for a couple living apart to get married only to discover that they can not live with eachother.
@rinaaus (1201)
• Australia
29 Jul 07
Soon or latter you will live together! marriage is just a form. You don't need to get marriage and you can live together. We are the highest animals compare to another, but we can see the other animals do not need to marry and they can live together.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Jul 07
I'm really happy that I lived with my partner before we got married, because it's easier to break up than to get divorced, and if things hadn't worked out it would have been less hassle. It gave us a chance to know what life together was going to be like before we made the marriage commitment.
However, since we got married, our life hasn't really felt any different than it did before. In fact, the only thing that is really different is that our relatiosnhip is more socially accepted, and that we have certain legal protections.
Of course, there's the moral issue, but honestly that strays into religious territory, and my religion really doesn't have anything to say on the issue. So it's not something I would have been worrried about.
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@nikko84111 (368)
• China
29 Jul 07
i think i prefer marriage immediately~
because i think my partner and i know each other~
and i think i can stand him~
i think we don't need to live together and we can have a further step~
