What do I do?

@mimatexas (1818)
United States
July 29, 2007 4:01pm CST
My sister asked my daughter to babysit her two sons. She went in her car and parked her car in the driveway. When my sister was backing up, she didn't see our car and hit the driver's side mirror and the door, and made a bump to it, we are having a hard time opening the door. My sister put the mirror back on and seems it's okay, but the problem is the car door. What shall I do? Should I tell her to fix it, she hasn't contacted me to let me know what happened and I am looking for a time to let her know I need my car fixed. How do I approach her? Please advise.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Since she is your sister and it was her fault, tell her about the trouble you are having with opening the door where she hit your car. Ask her if she can look into fixing it because you need to use it. I don't think something like that would cost that much so maybe you can talk to her first, then if she agrees have your mechanic look at it, or even hers, have it fixed and then send her the bill. Make sure she agrees to it though because you don't want to be left with the bill in the end.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Thank you for your advise. I have already talked to her and she understood, she will take it to her mechanic during the next weekend since they both work and will fix it as soon as possible.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
30 Jul 07
That's good to hear mimatexas :)
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Thank you for best response :)
@nana1944 (1365)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Just go talk to her or phone her. Tell her how the dooris. Take the vehicle to a shop and get an estimate and show her the estimate. The sooner you do it the better. She did it so she should pay for it.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I phoned her tonight. She responded real good and will fix my car by next week. Thank you for your advise.
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
30 Jul 07
i did the same thing to my bro in law except i messed up his back light, i told him to call his insurance company say it was a hit and run and i'd pay the deductible, he didn't get penalized for anything, so it all turned out good!
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
30 Jul 07
that's good i'm glad she responded!
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I am glad yours was resolved that way, good for you! I spoke with my sister this evening and she admitted her fault and will fix the car, she will take it to her mechanic next week.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Don't either of you have insurance? I would talk to your sister and let her know that the door is not opening properly. Tell her that it needs to be fixed and ask if she wants to send it to her insurance company. I wouldn't sit around and wait because she might think that it is all fine when it isn't. Be honest and tell her the problem.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I did talk to my sister and she agreed to pay for the damages. Thanks for responding.
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@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I think it's obviously her fault then. Just ask her that you need your car fix right away. How long ago this was happen? If she can pay it one time than ask her to payment plan with you.
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Yes, she admitted it was her fault. This happened on Thursday morning. But I have spoken to her tonight and she agreed to repair the damages as soon as possible. Thank you for responding.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Jul 07
i wouldn't hesitate to call her up and ask her about it. You would if it were a stranger right? Hopefully she has some insurance that would cover the cost. It is a minor accident with no injurys so her insurance may not even go up.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Jul 07
oops, i should have read thru the answers before posting. Well, good that you got it solved.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
Go get an estimate first and call her and let her know what the estimate is. Does she have insurance? If so, the insurance will cover it.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I don't think is necessary to get an estimate. She will take our car to her mechanic and will pay for all damages.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Being as it is your sister, I would think that you two communicate. Why not open the subject and let her respond. Then you would have an idea, which I thought you would have already, of what she is thinking. She might feel bad. Have you had an estimate done yet? That might give you more of an idea how serious it is. I hope it is low money, but with repair shops you never know. Good luck with this and let us know how it works out.
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Thanks for your advise. I started by asking her how this happened, and she explained to me that she has a sensor in her new truck and usually warns her when something is behind her but since it was to the side of her, it didn't tell her until she hit the car and realized it was our car. She understood and admitted it was her fault and will take it to be repaired with her mechanic and will pay for the damages.
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@dfollin (24306)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I would just call her and tell her the problem with the door and just say that it should be no problem for her.Just call her insurance company and get them to pay for it.So,that makes it sound like you are just trying to get one over on the insurance company.
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I did call her and she said she would fix my car next week. She will take it to her mechanic and pay for the damages.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Jul 07
try telling it to her about the damage i dont think she will get angry..and lets see what is her comment on it...does the car have insurance??
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
My car has liability insurance and her truck has full coverage. But the good thing is she will cover all damages and will take it to her mechanic by next week.
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@mummymo (23706)
29 Jul 07
Oh Honey this is obviously one that you are having problems with! You have to speak to your sister about it - tell her exactly how bad the problem is and tell her that although you know she didn't mean it it is still her responsibility and it needs to be fixed - she should be able to clain it from her insurance! Hope all goes well mima and look forward to hearing everything is sorted out! xxxx
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I already spoke with my sister and she admitted it was her fault so everything will be taken care of. She will take it to her mechanic and pay for all damages.
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@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
If your car has an insurance, it will fix it...I mean for free. There are shops catering to damaged cars and process for the insurance to pay. But meanwhile, you have to inform your sister about the damage, so she'll feel responsible to it and promise to pay the shop, or whatever arrangement you can make. It happened also to us, but this time it was my son who met an accident, using the Pajero of my sister. We brought her car (wrecked on the right side) to a nearby shop, and was fixed for about a month. When it came out, it was like brand new. The insurance paid everything; all I paid was for the motorcycle which my son hit during the accident (I paid 3,000 pesos), but not for the car...You can inquire around. But the problem is the inconvenience of no vehicle while your car is under repair...that, you can ask your sister for help. Hope this helps you...
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
30 Jul 07
We didn't make a police report or called the insurance, this happened on Thursday but the good thing is she admitted it was her fault and will pay for the damages.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
the wise thing to do is get an estimate and a police report..and tell you sister you will pay half or part of the damange...duh..yes its unfair but it is better then going to the trouble of going to your insurace and going to small claims court to get your money..let us face it..unless your sister willingly coughs up the $$'s then you will have to either bite the bullet and pay for it...or get some legal advice via a lawyer, insurance company or small claims court. this happens a lot but that is no help to you..good luck
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• Philippines
30 Jul 07
I've read your previous response that you've already told your sister that's the right move there's nothing to be afraid of besides its your family and there's nobody else you can ask for help but your sister, just be honest to her about what you need.
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Thanks for the advise, I will tell her what I need to be repaired.
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@weemam (13372)
10 Aug 07
I think you have this resolved now , I just wanted to say that I am pleased you got it all fixed between you , It is horrible when you worry about having to say something like that to someone you love , But she knew it was her fault and it is all sorted out now xx
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
11 Aug 07
Yes, she already fixed our car door and no hard feelings between us, thank God. Thank you for responding.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
30 Jul 07
I think the best way would be to bring it up face to face.. just ask her to help youpay for the cost. i am sure that she will understand that it is up to her as well =) Good luck
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• United States
8 Aug 07
I would approach her.. And atleast ask her to help pay for the door to get fixed...Or ask her to report it to her insurance and they should pay for it...
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@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I did talk to her and she already fixed the car door. It wasn't that expensive so everything is taken care of. Thank you for responding.