i have a pregnant friend and want to have an abortion? i dont know what to say

If she wants an abortion then she should get an abortion. Just because you had to work hard to have a kid you wanted does not mean you friend is required to want whatever pregnancy she falls into. And no, there really aren't that many contraceptives out there and NONE of them are 100% effective. They ALL fail and that is NOT her fault. If she doesn't want to be pregnant, she doesn't have to be. Let her get an abortion and be a real friend and support her. Don't judge her just because she wants different things out of life than you.

Never ever get involve with it.. i can tell you that.. instead tell her to think before she do this kind of crazy thing.. Because if you tell her something about abortion. youre conscience will haunt you not only your friend.. What if that unborn child is the next president or he is a genius??? Dont waste life!!! Think before you do such things like abortions.. because this world is to much sinful and your friend is adding up to this.. If you can tell her, to save it..face it and give this baby a chance.. to live.. And dont get involve with it.. Please save your soul My dear!

i and my hubby have also been trying to have a baby but we have not been blessed with one yet... it annoys me when i hear that people who are being blessed with a baby but decided to abort the baby... it is consider a murder and i think it is very heartless to do that... i hope your friend will think about it very carefully and reconsider her decision... it is not easy to be pregnant and God might not bless her with another baby if she aborts this baby...

I hope she doesn't get an abortion. How about you and your husband talk with your friend and see if she would let you adopt the baby if she isn't ready to become a parent? At least that way, she wouldn't regret having an abortion and she could see the baby any time that she wants? That would be a win/win situation right there! =D

if she really does not like the boyfriend she should place the baby for adoption rather than aborting it. killing a life and not giving it a chance to live is very unfair.

You should tell her that if she's not ready to be a full time parent yet, then she should still have the baby but give it up for adoption to families like me and my husband who cannot have any children of our own. There's lots of ways to help her make the right choice in her life.

AMke her understand that it is not the baby's fault and ultimately she has no right to kill the baby. Babies are the gift of God and they should be preseved,nurtured and loved.

It's not right to have abortion. Why would a would-be mother choose to waste the little one's precious life? There are millions of couples including me and my wife trying so hard to have baby but it's been so hard. Noriko, I am sorry to you that I have to say your pregnant friend would become a murderer. I would like you to pass my message to your pregnant friend NOT to do it otherwise she would regret it for the rest of her life. Think again of couples who were trying so hard to have baby! I have no right to interfere with her decision but I am against abortion! Console your pregnant friend again and pass not only my message but everyone's message in this post, well you can print the messages if you want to show your pregnant friend.

Hello noriko,Thanks for your post and I find two answers very commonly the first one is "I am not kid its my life,I am educated and I will do what I want" and the next one (when his/her course of action goes wrong) "I dont know" lol dont get involved directly unless you are called for,let your friend take the decesion herself afterall its her life. The diagnosis is "Lack of simple commonsense."Thanks.

Maybe you don't/shouldn't tell her anything. This is a decision that she will have to be the one making and right or wrong nobody can make the decision for her. SHe seems to be more or less certain of what she wants to do regardless of her reasons or lack of to do so. I agree with you that there are many products in the marked that can be used to prevent pregnancy, but none of them works 100%, sometimes they fail and everyone should count with that happening just in case. I am neutral in the issue itself. But for someone to make that decision I would prefer to see a better reason. ON the other hand no one should have to go trough a pregnancy that is not wanted so in your situation I would say nothing, really. Other than the comment/old portuguese saying : "If you're in the rain, you'll probably get wet at some point" :)

she needs to have councelling in order to understand what she wants. Ultimately, it is her body, and there is nothing you can do, but don't let it spoil your friendship. I understand that you would be hurting a little by her words. hang in there, your baby days will come soon enough.

hi norika.its really sad to know that your friend does not want to have a realtionship with her boyfriend and because of that the child is suffering.in a way she is doing wrong but in another she is right as well.killing her baby is wrong.but what if she is not able to grow her baby properly after she brings her in this world.its just not bringing baby.its really sad that you people had to wait for a long time ot get a baby.however just because she is pregnant does not mean she needs to bring it to this world.the guy must also think about that baby.i am sure if the relatioship between guy and thel ady is ok then they would be more than happy to bring the baby to the world.as far the pills are concerned,no preventive measure is 100%.So might be this child is a result of this.i think this decision should fully be taken by the lady.

ask her not to remove baby from her womb because for her mistake one child should not lose life i think she is going to comit another mistake by removing baby ..removing baby is nothing but killing with some chemical so its too wrong so finally she is commiting two mistakes around.

It has to be her discission what to do. She is the only one who can really decide. But what ever she decides, just be there for her. Don't tell her your views or make her feel like you are judging her. Tell her she is your friend and what ever her chose is you will back her up and help her as much as you can. It has to be the right thing for her, She has to live with her descission for the rest of her life.

Just tell your friend that abortion is a wrong doing and stop to abort the baby. Abortion is an absolutely wrong and it is a crime of murder. And absolutely I am not favor for this. And I think the fetus have life and like us she/he have a right to see this wonderful world.

Well, I am against abortion too... but I speak for myself. IF she would ask your opinion, then give your opinion to her. If you think that she do9nt have to commit abortion, then say your reasons. But do not force your opinion to her. People have different opinions and principle. So we are just here to give advice and opinion. But if she feels that she really want to have abortion then you cant do anything about it, you just have to respect it.

I am so sorry! What a painful position for your friend to have put you in. I would definitely counsel her to not abort. there are many many loving parents out there just waiting for a child to love and raise as their own. You could possibly offer to adopt the baby but if you do and she agrees make sure to get everything in writing and notarized. Go through an attorney that specializes in things like this. Abortion should never be considered. Many many children are thrown away needlessly in an abortionists office just because someone decided they don't want to be pregnant or they were raped or some other such sad sob story. I once read a great article and I wish I could find it but it listed 10 scenarios for a reason for abortion. They were such as rape and incest and teenaged pregnancy and so on. Then it went on to list why these 10 women did not abort and the babies they had. The children were listed as Jesus, and other famous persons that had their mothers aborted they would have never been. Perhaps share this story with her. God Bless you and I wish you the best.

it shouldnt be her choice...i mean..its not the fault of the baby if she is just confuse if she really loved the guy...but she should be responsible for the child in whatever means...no offense but i really think its not her right to abort the child.

abortion is illegle!donot be silly!

no ,i don't think it is ironic . i think you should think more about her and her situations and i am sure she is sad though you think she is not.every woman loves babies and want to have her own babies with her love .they want to be a mother ,want to be called mom ,and want to be told that her babies are pretty and cute . she is not really willing to have an abortion . maybe she has something you don't know!