When is it time to let go?

I have been there and truthfully, there is no easy way to part from someone you've invested time into. I say it that way, because you may or may not love that person, but the time always makes it harder to leave. I went through it, and found that if you two were friends before the relationship began and remained friends as well as lovers, it's a lot easier when it's time to say "goodbye" to one another. You will always have the good times, so remember them and don't dwell on the bad. That way, your friendship can continue and as they say "life goes on". As long as you are happy with the decision, you should be ok. I wish you the best of luck in your future. ~~Taz~~

I am in that sort of relationship now. I broke it off because it felt more like friends. But I still love him. I know that sounds weird but I was really stressed. I'm a sole parent and it felt like he was using me. Never putting in for stuff money wise it felt like I was supporting him. He got upset with me over that one but why should I support him when he makes more money than i do. I stuggle just supporting my son and I. So because I loved him I took him back after two weeks. We were engaged before the break up but right now we are taking things slow. He knows why I broke up with him and tried to change things money wise in his department. Trouble is we are right back where we started it seems and once again I'm frustrated. I sometimes think I was silly taking him back because when we separated we were having problems and I figured it's easier to end a relationship whilst you are at least on fairly good terms with each other. That is the easiest way I think to end a relationship. Sorry if I've dribbled on a bit here but have been feeling really frustrated tonight and needed to get it off my chest. But definitely get out of the relationship whilst you are both still fairly friendly that way you have more chance of remaining friends if that's what you both want.

Nope, haven't been in that situation. I do feel frustration sometimes when the girl is behaving in a manner that I don't like, but I've never been in a relationship where I already wanted to walk away and just didn't know how to do it. I think I wouldn't hesitate to end the relationship if that's how I was feeling already.

Yes i have been in a relationship like this. I was in the relationship for 2 years and it was just too hard to let go. I too felt like i had way too much invested in the relationship. And i think he felt the same way. Finally i knew i had to be strong and leave. I think when it gets to the point that you cant get along and cant stand each other then you need to walk away from the relationship. No matter how hard or painful it is its just something that needs to be done.

yes it sounds so odd to do that.. and the hardest part is it Hurts! You don't know if the story will end just like any other fairy tale... but it's just the way it is. But if you really want something that you know that will make you happy. Just give it try. But if you think that it's just not right to stay in your current relationship, then let go. It the best for the two of you, rather than waiting for the break up, while he/she will find a replacement for you.

Yes, once. Just months had passed. It's really very hard for me to let go. We really love each other. But time came that he wants to break up with me. I did not answer and dont want us to break up. He even found another girl. BUt i just ignored him. I want to move on then. But deep in my heart that he still loves me. He always sent me messages. I just knew and discover that he wants to continue our relationship and he really change his ways. It made me realize that through faith, hope and love. You'll come a long way. Till now, we haven't fought. I know if you just ask his guidance. The lord will really bless you.

It's kind of like that now but that's a whole different story.... When my ex-husband and I were married it was the same way. We held on a lot longer even though we really didn't like each other (as a side note I have to admit we always loved eached other we just didn't like each other anymore and that makes a big difference) any way...The marriage ended abrubtly and was smooth at first but then got really painful for a while. We've since become good friends again though so it's all fine now. I think the time to end it is when you know you are no longer happy and truly have tried everything to make it a happy relationship again (and both people need to be trying not just one, if one isn't willing to try then the answer is right there). Maturity about it is the only thing that to part and be friends but it takes A LOT of that and it's still hard sometimes.

I never been in this kind of situation though. But I know how to feel already out of relationship, but still need to grasp a hold to make it work. It's quite sad actually. Especially when you exactly know that there is no way you can make it work anymore. And I always think that if you break up with your ex-boyfriend, it's hard for being a good friend anymore.

Given my experience, the breakup can only be amicable when it is a mutual breakup. If it's due to infidelity, misunderstanding, lack of trust or some other factors, usually the breakup will be quite ugly. It's time to let go when both your heart and your brain tell you so. Many times, we do something because our heart tells us to do so even though our brain may tell us otherwise. That is the reason why sometimes we make the wrong choices. It's not wrong to listen to our heart. But it's important to be rational and listen to our brain too. If both the heart and the brain have the same opinion regarding something, then the decision you make will tend to be the right one.

I have been in that situation and looking back I should have walked away when the "respect" was no longer there.

I think it is only natural to want to hang onto something you invested yourself in but when the bad starts to overcome the good; it is time to break yourself of the habit.