Does Love Choose Age in a Relationship?
By angeljenn
@angeljenn (894)
Zaragoza, Spain
March 1, 2008 9:07am CST
They say that "Love conquers all." And i really do believe in that saying, even though there are lots of sad love stories out there...Nowadays, i can see lots of people who were having age difference in their relationships...i don't think age does matter in a relationship...for me, it's totally ok, as long as you truly love each other, then age wouldn't be a factor or even a problem...but i don't know why some people would react and say that age does matter in a relationship...they say having relationships with the same age partner makes a long term relationship...which i totally disagree, because my dad is 5 years older than my mom, and thank GOD, they're still together...they've been married for almost 26 years...
I guess, as long as you and your partner feel that you two are just the right people for each other, nothing, not even a decade or two's difference in age can keep the relationship apart...as long as both of you are comfortable with each other, i don't really see the age gap is a problem...
Does love choose age in a relationship? Do you think age really matters in a relationship?
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18 responses
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
Love doesn't need criterias to suffice in order for it to work. There is no checklist to consider so that one could positively admit that they are in-love. It is something innate that it would just be realized sooner or later.
Some people consider age in a relationship vital. Biologically, couples tend to compliment each other for their same age also implies on their same needs. Different age often gets them into conflicts with interests. It is also not socially accepted at the moment since people do still have inhibitions and quite conservative in a way but surely, not all are like that.
People should distinguish things like that. Given that certain things do influence relationships, love, if strong enough for both parties involved, can hold even the most contrast couples together and stronger.. I think.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful response to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yes, i do agree with you've said that, love doesn't need criterias in a relationship...there are different views in love but i don't really think age should be an issue in a relationship...for me, age doesn't really matter as long as there is true love...thanks really for sharing your good thoughts...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 08
age is just a number, my dear :) ..if you love someone and you make each other happy, then age shouldn't be an issue and would not be a problem at all. love knows no boundaries :)
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
3 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yes, we do have the same views, age is just a number, and it shouldn't be an issue or a problem in all relationships...yes, i do agree love knows no boundaries...as long as there is real love then there would be a good relationship...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Although there are still people I know that would have a certain reaction of disbelief when it comes to age gaps, I personally believe there really isn't anything wrong with it.
I am actually almost always more attracted to guys that are older than I am, ranging from 6 years to even 20 years older. I find them more interesting for they are more mature emotionally, they are much more grounded in life and decision making, they have more sense of responsibility and that is what I fond really attractive in them.
I haven't been in a relationship yet, but I have always foreseen myself with someone older, maybe around 6 years older minimum. I just cannot imagine myself being with a guy the same age as I am..
It is the level of emotional maturity that matters between the two people when it comes to relationships, and some people are more mature than their age as some are quite immature for their age, therefore it calls for a balance, not with regards to age itself but more on the level of maturity.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, i agree with you there isn't any wrong with age gaps in a relationship...and yes, emotional maturity is really important in a relationship...being matured will make a good relationship, because both of you know how to balance, understand, and know how to handle a good relationship...one thing is for sure, as long as you really love truly each other, then that would be perfect...not to forget to put GOD in the center of our lives...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Most of the time the women is younge then the man but not all the time like in your parents case. It depends on the maturity of the people and the love they have for one another. Love is sometimes blind and does not see age as a factor but what is in the other person's heart.
I had age differences ten years older and ten years younger and they both worked out for awhile but in the end I stay married to a lady about seven years younger then me who was never married and did not have any children. She was 33 and I was 40 but it was not a "bed of roses" and we had a lot to adjustments to make and still are not taking each other for granted and keeping the relationship interesting after 22 years.
Relationships can last a lifetime and some do but even after a long time people have been know to go their own ways. Its sad but it happens. Good luck to all people in and out of relationships...it never gets easy?
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
3 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts and love story to my discussion...well, good for you...it's really good to know that you and your wife were still together for 22 years, like my parents, still together for almost 26 years, thank GOD...but like you said, it really depends, it's always case to case basis...yes, i do agree with you, it really depends upon the maturity of the people and the love that they have for one another...understanding, compassion, respect, and real love are the true basis in a relationship...i think relationships can lasts forever if there's really a real love in the first place between those people involved...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
2 Mar 08
To me, age is not a big problem in a relationship. But I am not sure whether I can accept a huge difference in age like 20 years or more because I have not been in that situation so far. Actually, I always prefer someone who is older than me. Peers seem to be naive while I love the mature one.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
3 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...yes, i do agree with you, age isn't a big problem in a relationship...i've also noticed that a lot of people like you especially girls would prefer someone who's older than them...me too actually, i want a more mature guy who has a good understanding and respect...i think the most important thing in a relationship is real love with no hypocrisy, and true respect for each other...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@bobevanse (36)
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3 Mar 08
Yes, age is really matter in a relationship. If both of you are at the same age, it is easy to find something in common.You can share the same habits, topic and friends. Gap is obvious between the young and old.
@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
3 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...i do respect your views and opinions...everybody has different views and i do respect all views...yeah, if both of you has the same age with each other, then it's easy to find something in common, you can share habits, topics and friends...but it really depends upon the situation and the maturity level of them both...for me, love is all that matters...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Age was never a factor when it comes to my relationship with my husband. There is over an 8 year age gap, with him being the older one, and it has never caused a problem for either of us in the 16 years we have been together. There may be other things that cause tension in our marriage, but age isn't one of them. Age is just a number and should not matter when it comes to love and relationships.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...we're both having the same perceptions, yes, age is really just a number, and it shouldn't be a problem when it comes to love and relationships...i'm blessed to know that you and your husband had been together for 16 years...that's really good to hear, atleast, there are also happy ending love stories...yes, you're right, age should never be a factor, and it shouldn't be a problem in a relationship...thanks really for sharing...i hope and pray that your relationship with your husband will last long and things will really be good for both of you...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@jarves (814)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
Yes it is really true that age does not really matter. But for me it really depends. An age gap of 20 years and above is insane! I see a lot of women here in our country marry old foreigners who is as old as their father or grandfather. They are just after the money and the property they would inherit from their partners.
@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, i do agree with you that age doesn't really matter in a relationship...that's so sad to know that some women are just aftering the money and the property they would inherit from their partners, but you know, there's a karma...and i really do believe in karma...they should fear GOD and would not do those bad and wrong doings...love should be the right basis in a relationship...if there's true love, understanding, honesty, and true respect then nothing bad wrongs will happen...just trust GOD, have faith professing with good works, and obey all HIS commandments...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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2 Mar 08
To a certain extent age does not matter in a relationship, I am 5 years older than my husband but it has never been an issue for us. If both people are happy and comfortable with the age difference in the relationship then good on them, but sometimes over time the age difference can become an issue and things go wrong. But I dont think it matters that much really.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, i really do agree on you that age doesn't matter in a relationship and never be an issue...it's good to know that your relationship with your husband is still going on...yes, if both people are happy and comfortable with the age difference in their relationship, you're right, there would be a good outcome with it...yeah, i do agree, sometimes people makes age as an issue making things go wrong...thanks really for sharing...keep on having a positive outlook in life...i hope and pray, things will get better with you and your husband...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, age doesn't really matter in a relationship...yes, i do agree, what matters most is love and the way people how people handle their relationships...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@newstar117 (171)
• India
2 Mar 08
Personally i dont like a partner greater than my age in my life. In our culture its usually seen that husband is always at higer age than wife.I too supports that.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful reply to my discussion...yeah, i have seen lots of people in a relationship, having the husbands as older than their wives...i think that's acceptable...people have different views and opinions, and i do respect that...for me, i really think that age shouldn't be an issue in a relationship...as long as you truly love and respect the person you loved, then age should not definitely be an issue...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@lucksath (92)
• India
2 Mar 08
Hello angeljenn,
In my opinion age defenitely matters in relationships.In my opinion relationship means sharing your life for a long time and to enjoy a long relationship you need children of your own and that makes a family.In this type of realtionship you must have a partner of your same age or with a difference of 2 to 3 years.
If you want only a relationship without needing a family, yes, there is no need of looking at age - you can have a partner of any age.
Allthe best.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U lucksath...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...i do respect your views and opinions about it...people ahve different views and opinions with regards to relationships and love...in my own point of view, as long as there is real love in their hearts, then they would be both happy...they should always trust GOD and pray for things to get better between them...having a positive outlook in life, loving truthfully, having understanding, compassion, and true respect for each other would make a good and perfect relationship even if they differ from age...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@DevilHands (573)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
For me, age does matter in a relationship if it's a young guy having a relationship with an old woman. A 20 year old guy falling in love with a 50 year old lady is just too wrong! This just means that the guy must be into the girl... usually the money. If it's vice versa though... there might still be hope.
Why? Because I believe that man tend to look toward physical attraction while a woman just wants a life long relationship.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...i do respect your views and opinions about it...that's so sad to know that there are some people in relationships who were opportunists just aftering the money of the other people...that's really so bad...they should learn to fear GOD for their bad and wrong doings...this should not be happening in a relationship...but if only people would put GOD in the center of their lives and obey all HIS commandments, then there would be a perfect and good relationship...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for having a care to share your good thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...i do respect your views and opinions about it...i do understand, i know that people have different views and opinions, and i really do respect that...yeah, love fails because of ego problem and lack of understanding...it's good to have understanding, compassion, respect, honesty, and loving truthfully in a relationship...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
2 Mar 08
Age does not matter when you are young and under 40.
In general it is not a problem at all when the man is older than the woman. I know quite a few men who have a wife 15 years younger than them.
But when I was 21... I went the opposite way and had a relationship with a woman 5 years older than me. By the time she reached 38... she became terribly insecure about our age difference. And we did split when she turned 40.
At 21... I thought it was cool to have a 26 year old girlfriend. But today... at my age... I would never consider having a relationship with an older woman.
Love is not everything...
Many people divorce while still loving each other.
@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thank you for sharing your amazing thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yes, maybe i guess you're right, age doesn't matter when you are younger and under 40...and yeah, i've seen some men also who have a wife younger than them...about your story, it's really sad to know that girlfriend split up with you just because of age difference...
I don't know but in my own point of view, age doesn't really matter at all, it's just a number, no big deal...what really matters is that both of you are in love...love is all that matters...but people have different views and opinions, and i do respect that...a relationship should not end up just because of the age, for me, it's really an immature reason...
Yeah, i do agree with what you've said that, many people divorce while still loving each other, and that's really a sad truth...but people can still fight for their love, because love still conquers all if they would just believe...thanks really for sharing your story and experience...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
When you feel love to that person you even not think his age. When you love someone no matter how old is he it doesn't matter as long as you understand each other, as long as you love one another. My husband is 8 years ahead of me and our age gap is not a hindrance to our relationship because we understand, respect, know and love each other. Were 12 years this coming march and I'm happy to say that our relationship is getting stronger each day. Love does not mind your age as long as you love one another.
@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...yeah, i do agree with you, when you love someone no matter how old he is, it doesn't really matter as long as there is understanding, respect, and as long as you love one another...i'm really blessed to know that your 12 year relationship with your husband is getting stronger each day, and that age gap did not hinder your relationship...yeah, i do agree, love doesn't mind age difference as long as you love one another...thanks really for sharing...i hope and pray that your good relationship with your husband would last even long, and you'll be together forever...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@paid2write (5201)
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1 Mar 08
I have never had a relationship with someone my own age. Usually there is about 6 years difference, but I was once with a man 19 years older than myself. It did not feel at all wrong or any difference from being with a man younger than myself.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, i do agree, age doesn't really matters in a relationship...as long as you truly love each other, there's really no difference...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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@bobet17 (158)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
I dont believe that but I believe this saying that "Age doesnt matter" If the love comes in you,you cant resist it no matter what people tell you,love is no condition it always rigth even if people see this it was wrong.But we have to think also if it is truly love or just an infatuation.
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@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
2 Mar 08
hello there to U...thanks for sharing your good thoughts to my discussion...i really do appreciate it...yeah, we're both the same, i do believe in that saying too that "Age doesn't matter." Yeah, i do agree, if love knocks in your door, no one can resist, no matter what people tell you...i do believe too that there's unconditional love...and we should understand too the difference between true love and infatuation...thanks really for sharing...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
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