Preference to be married or remain single
By victron88
@victron88 (41)
Malaysia
March 5, 2008 8:43am CST
MyLot community is made up of many married and single people. At times when you see the marrieds and their spouses, you feel that they are having a wonderful and satisfied life. On other occasions when you see the singles having fun with their friends, going out and having late nights, eating out in restaurants and having no problems whatsoever in raising up children etc..etc., you feel its nice to be single. Married people too have a lot of fun and satisfaction in other areas which the singles may not experience. What has the myLot community to say on this or what are your preferences.
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
5 Mar 08
I am married and would not change it for anything. We have fun we go out (grandparents look after my son) If we get sick of each other we can have some time alone to do our own things.
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@victron88 (41)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 08
I notice you have a splendid arrangement there when you say that if you are sick of each other, then you have some time alone to do your own things. There seem so be some flexibility built into your relationship. Thats wonderful!
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
5 Mar 08
You have to. You are in each others face every day and if we dont do that we would go nuts. My husband takes my son for a walk or to the park so I can relax with some music or book or tv. I take my son shoping so my husband can have some time off. We also send our son to my parents 1 a week so we can have some time together. At night when my son goes to sleep we sit together and talk about our day or whatever. Then we have often watch movies together. In our situation we are lucky that we have family near by and they get upset if we dont take my son there every friday.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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5 Mar 08
Well I am married and I sometimes wish I wasnt, and thats not because I dont love my hubby I do very much. But there are times when I crave my own company so much. As a child I was always a loner, we never stayed in one place very long and I was an only child so I grew up with my own company. I had friends of course but prefered to do my own thing. There are times I would love to be single so I could enjoy my own company and do my own thing without having to consult anyone else. But at the same time marriage has its own rewards in that we have 4 lovely children, someone to talk to all the time if you need to talk and we have some lovely times out.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I like being married, we've been married 28 years now and we still party with our friends, maybe not every night! or even every weekend! but we do a lot especially on the weekends, lot of harley riding and visting and partying with friends 'old' and new.. And we still have the finacial obligations, and raised our kids but they still live with us, at ages 27 and 25, along with our daughter's daughter and a new one coming.. guess we were too good to our kids.. but that's ok, it's almost like a ready made party around here anymore.. (I'm exagerating a bit!) Tho we do go camping at least once a year with our son and some of his rowdy friends (ride the harley there).. and we have an annual big bash right here, once a year that's pretty multigenerational.. kids running around, the whole bit.. bonfire at night.. Don't get me wrong, we're kinda serious.. but if ya can't have fun.. what's the point? 
@victron88 (41)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 08
You have been blessed with a beautiful married life. You must be thankful for this as many married couples after years of marriage tend to loose that magic which existed when they wer still young. You have a very strong united family which is a real virtue everone would desire for. Wonderful!!
@JAY020582 (406)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
we'll I think it's really depend on the people, if he/she wanted to single or not. for me single or married doesn't matter as long as it is you choice and your happy and you won't regret it go for it....
@heathcliff (1415)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I think we all have a tough decision to make in this regard and I don't argue with the decision anyone makes, either way. I personally knew I was a "marrying-type" very early on, and I was fortunate to find someone with similar leanings at a very important point in life. Now we are very happily married and approaching our 20th year together. Other people ruin their lives and the lives of others by trying to live against their nature.
