What should you do if your kid is being bullied???
By gab192829
@gab192829 (21)
Philippines
April 3, 2008 12:38am CST
My son has just entered pre-school. At first, he was so excited of going to school and doing activities. But his excitement dwindled when his classmates started to bully him. These kids take his toys away and shove him around and tell him to just sit in the corner. Upon knowing this, I tell their teacher right away for she is in a good position to protect my child and to mediate. Though I teach my son to be nice to others, I don't want him to play the chump. I want him to assert his rights without causing troubles. How about you, do you have same experience with your children? Is your child the bully or the pushover? And tell me what do you do in such situations?
3 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
•
3 Apr 08
This is a tricky situation because the more the teacher protects your son, the more the other kids are going to think he's a pushover, in needing her protection.
I guess you're going to have to teach him to mix with the others. Why don't you have a chat with one or two of the other mum's and see if you can't take the kids somewhere together outside of school, so they can make friends again. I'm sure after a while, that they'll find it fun being together after school or at weekends, and they'll mix better at school.
Maybe a few of the mums could get together and visit McDonalds, or go to the park for a picnic, taking all your kids with you. I'm sure your son would be more confident with making friends with these kids if their mums are around, and you're around him. Try to weave one big happy family.
Brightest Blessings.
@gab192829 (21)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
That's a good idea. Getting to know each other will be a start of friendship and being at ease with one another. Yeah, i'll certainly do what will be the best for my son. Thanks a lot.
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@summerfire (427)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I taught preschool for 14 years. You want to have your son make the teacher aware of it but there is going to come a time when she is going to tell him to handle it, that its telling. You need to tell your son to use his words first off....have him tell them a) I had the toy first and I will play with it for awhile and when I am done I will come find you to see if you want to play with it still b) I have this toy but here is another one like it, would you like to play with me. c)I like that toy you are playing with too in alittle while it would be fun to trade each other. About the shoving, he needs to use his words and tell them " I don't like that." " I want to be your friend, we are all friends here." " Don't shove me, here help me do this. I want to be your friend." Good luck :)
@gab192829 (21)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Thanks a lot for your advice. I believe you were a very good preschool teacher because you know how to handle situations like this one. Yeah, that's what i want my child to learn, be assertive with his feelings without hurting anyone. And with sample situations you said, I now fully know how to teach them to my son. God bless.
@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
Hi there Gab,
I really don't know why children do that. They converge on one child and just don't let up. I know you try and teach your child right.
I found that also. My children are now 14, 18 and 22, but when they were in school, it was very frustrating because up until beginning school, my children were so well behaved and didn't curse. I am not saying they were perfect by any means, but once they got in school they found new words and new attitudes that I really didn't have much control over. I have always thought the teachers need to take more interest in what goes on in that school yard.
Good luck with your son. I hope it gets better. I know from experience, it is very heartbreaking for a mom.
Bye friend,
Cheryl
