How do you treat ralations?I am so confused
By kekexinfeng
@kekexinfeng (1295)
China
April 7, 2008 8:58pm CST
Yesterday,I was so sad for I felt I had do a wrong thing,I don't know how to say,but it realy made me unhappy for hours.Now,I understand it is the relationship betweeen people.I often don't know how to get on well with my boyfriend\myfriends and my colleague .I asked my boyfriend for help,he told me to be care of everyone arond me with all my heart.Itry again and again,but it doesn't run,I even lose hearn on this thing for I find I am often careless and i don't have confidence.oh!What should i do?Have you been in this situation?Do you have this experience?
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3 responses
@maomaoxiong (19)
• China
2 Apr 09
I think may be every one has this trouble,because we often don't feel well,so we don't want to make friend with others,may be they have forgived us,but we don't think so,I think you can relax yourself,then you will feel better.
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@nanguofong (726)
• China
8 Apr 08
very bad news.
perhaps, you are too care about these, or breadth of mind with incapacious.
Don't think other people's thought, no matter what you think, in fact, what's your think is your personal thought but not others'. For example, perhaps when your friend think you are right or kind, you think he/she is thinking how bad you are. That's all.
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
8 Apr 08
Perhaps you are right,but we live in the sotiecy,we play a part of daughter,wife,mother and so on,often I think why should I care about other people's thought.I feel a little better,but it makes things even worse.i'm adnire of you.Maybe you have your opinon.
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@nanguofong (726)
• China
8 Apr 08
yes, we play a different part at different moment of life.
we need care about other's opinion, but I think you are more sensitive, that's the problem.
it is difficult to understand or forecast others' thought, I felt your care is apt to guess subjectively others' idea, in fact, at most time you are wrong, as what I said when your friend think you are right or king, you think he/she is thinking you are bad.
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@x3temptationx (677)
• United States
8 Apr 08
If you feel careless when its comes to friends, boyfriend, and colleagures than just try to put forth more effort. It might be that you just feel pressured trying to balance relationships with all of them at once. I sometimes feel like that too. Don't get down on yourself about it because everyone feels like that at one point. Wear your heart on your sleeve and be as kind as you can to everyone in your life! Do good deeds and be very caring, it will make you more confident in the relationships you have. And hopefully won't feel as bad. Feel better!
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
8 Apr 08
I agree with you ,I always do good deeds and I feel well,but I feel i don't have confidence,though people treat me well,and they all help me when i fall into a mess,i am gratefull for their kindness.As you said,i should be hopefully and feel better.i know very many people have this puzzle,i hope to comunication with them,i will make an all out effort
