WhaT if You are nO longer In lovE with The One You're WiTh?

first, i would like to say that the more the day passes the more i feel love for the one i love whether he is with me or not i feel more love for him. He has changed a lot with time and i try to do adjustments and try to make myself understand but i cant dstop loving him. If it happens with someone that he no longer feel love for someon , either he must tell the person or i think he must think well before taking any decision as it may be due to a lack of conversation or care or due to changes in life we do have such feelings. and if children are involved, one must think well as it is a matter of the children's future also we dont have to think only about ourselves we have to think of the children also as children need support , care and love of both their mom and dad. i think both partners should have a conversation among themselves to sort out the problem.

You're almost there, why leap out before even harvest the fruit. If you'd been there, you may proceed with your separation. But I doubt if someone who had been through the last phase would be likely to step out anymore. Here's an insight that might change your mind: http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Love-Can-Fade---The-Stages-of-A-Relationship&id=742267

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I believe you are the only one who can answer the question... If it happens to me, I would really think about of working out our relationship for the sake of our kids since they will be the one who will truly be affected but if the relationship no longer works and not worth of saving then yes, I would break the relationship but ofcourse, we will talk to the kids first.

Those are hard questions to answer. Hoenstly, I haven't experience falling out of love with my partner and if it will happen I really don't know what to do I might still consider what I always believe in. A relationship without love will never work out. So if I fell out of love with my husband I'll set him free even we have a baby. I don't want him to suffer and waste his time with me. Also I don't want to see my daughter that we are just staying together for the sake of her. It may turn out wrong to her and I don't want her to grew that way. We will talk for the sake of our child. Try to make the best possible solution. But certainly I really don't want to stick in a relationship without love.

Welcome here at mylot.. Well, there's no way of dealing with it but head on I guess. You can only lie to yourself for so long and eventually it'll catch up with you and wear you off. If you not or fall out of love with that someone even if children are involve you have to let go. It will bring you no solitude living with someone you don't love. You have the right to be happy.

Honestly I never experienced that cause my first love is my first girl and up to now she is still my girl. And I dont want that day to come but just in case that day comes im gonna be honest to her so that It would be fair on both of us....

You have to be certain first if you REALLY don't love him/her anymore, or you are just hating him/her temporarilly because of a certain situation. When you say you don't love him anymore, would that mean you're ready to let go of him/her..or ready to live a life of your own without him/her...ready to do by yoursrlf the usual things you do together..or even, ready to see him/her with someone else? Just come to think of it. Love is such a HUGE and BROAD word to be defined. It entails numerous responsibilities and involvements. At any rate, if love is IMPOSSIBLE already in the relationship, acceptance and letting-go are the probable scenario. If you force yourselves to stay together because of the children, the relationship will still not work. No matter how hard you try pretending to be fine in the eyes of your kids, those negative feelings lurking inside will still emanate and kids are intelligent these days, they'll notice. They will also become unhappy. As a saying goes: the best thing a parent could do for his/her children is to love his/her spouse.

Communion brings understanding! First,trying to listen to your spouse's opinion as well as your children'sso as not to hurt them. Sencond,try to value the cost of the two choices. Last,balance the advantages and disadvantages and follow what your heart tell you. May you good luck!