Update on "I got disturbning news yesterday afternoon. . "
By SheliaLee
@SheliaLee (2736)
United States
August 4, 2008 8:18am CST
I want to thank all of you so much who responded to my discussion I started yesterday regarding my son Stuart and his aide situation. I just got off the phone with the lady over Special Education at the Board of Education. It turns out that Stuart will still have someone coming in with him, it just won't be the same aide that he has had the past few years. They have decided to move her to another school. The reason the lady at the Board of Education gave me is that they had a student to graduate from Stuart's school and that they had other students who needed some assistance. Since we had agreed to gradually wean Stuart away from his aide they felt like it was time to move his other aide to another child. He will still have someone with him for so many minutes per day but it will be an actual Special Education teacher, not an aide. This teacher will check in with him mainly in Math which is his weak area but will also be in all his other classes so many minutes per day.
I feel much better after talking with this lady although I wish he were still having the same aide. Stuart loves this lady dearly but I'm sure he will get used to the new person also. The lady at the Board of Education also told me that it is not a parental decision on who their child has for an aide, that that is a Board and personnel decision. They just move the aides around to whereever they are needed.
All of your friendship means so much to me and I thank you again for your support!! I told my husband this morning before he left for work that it is so wonderful having friends like you all here on MyLot. Even though I have never met you face to face you still mean the world to me.
God Bless Each of You and Thanks Again!!
SheliaLee
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11 responses
@GardenGerty (158154)
• United States
4 Aug 08
It is really good that they are having your son work with someone else. He does not need to be only able to work with one person. That is a recipe for disaster. I am glad that you will still be getting the minutes of service for him that he needs. Good luck this year.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Good Morning! Yes, I understand what they mean about him needing to meet and work with different people. I'm sure this new aide will be just as good as his others, it will just take Stuart a few days to get adjusted. Once he does I'm sure he will have a very good year. Take care!!
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I thinks that's good news Shelia. Every good news is welcome
for Stuart. I hope there will be no more problem in the future.
So, how gonna Stuart accept that he no longer have his loyal
aide? I hope he will take it lightly. I know meeting somebody
new is not always pleasant.
But I'm sure that with your support and guidance he will be
able to adopt the new aide with open arms. Good luck. Give
my regards to Stuart. Have a nice day.
But I'm sure that with your support and guidance he will be
able to adopt the new aide with open arms. Good luck. Give
my regards to Stuart. Have a nice day.@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Good Morning! Yes, I'm sure Stuart will adjust fine, although he is nervous. I took him yesterday to get registered and I could tell that he is. But I'm sure once he gets to know his new aide they will get along fine and he will have a good year. Thanks so much!!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I am glad it worked out to your satisfaction! My sister actually is a para that works with austitic children in an elementary school....she is like the person that has helped Stuart so much....and many parent and teachers want her to work with their child. She has a gift.....so I totally understood what the discussion was about and how much it meant to you! Good for you and good for Stuart!
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thanks Jill!! The paraeducators are just as important as the teachers in my opinion. The work they do helping the kids goes a long way in helping them get their work done and helping the teachers also by keeping the kids on task. It truly is a gift!!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I am so glad that he will still have someone who will watch over him at school. A Special Education teacher sounds as if she or he will be good at helping your son as they should have some good experience in the field. However, I don't like how your school system does not allow the aids to be chosen if even in part, by the parents! Am glad it's working out for you and your son though! Have a wonderful day!
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Good day... I read your first discussion about this and I'm glad to have read it's conclusion. I'm happy that stuart be able to have a special teacher attending to his special learning needs. I hope that everything would be ok from then on. God bless to you to.
@fluffnflowers (1594)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Phew! I'm glad they didn't plan on just abandoning him to the system! I hope the teacher will be able to offer good assistance, and it sounds like a good step, if painful, to take. Is there a way that you and Stuart can stay in touch with his former aide? I know that I saw a few of my teachers outside of school after I moved up or transferred schools.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Aug 08
It really is a relief for sure. Yes, we will be able to stay in touch with his former aide. She just lives up the highway from us so we see her quite often and her mother goes to church with us we can can keep in touch that way also. :)
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I am glad that you are satisfied by what they told you. I would keep a close eye on what is going on, and if I am not satisfied with the aide, I would tell them so. We don't get a choice, but it has to be someone that is our children can do well with.
@AmbiePam (86277)
• United States
4 Aug 08
That is good news that they have not just abandoned Stuart. As hard as it is to get used to someone knew, I bet it will be a good experience for him to get to know a new person. It may help me adjust as he goes on in life with people coming in and out of his life. I hate change, and I'm not autistic. If I were, I know it would bother me too. And you as his mother, you suffer when he suffers.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
4 Aug 08
You're a mighty fine person and yes it is nice we can all rely on one another. Sometimes I just wish I could meet one or two of myLot friends but not to worry I'm happy this way too. Good you have the whole situation worked out and good that Stuart will still have an aide. Blessings.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
4 Aug 08
Hi Shelialee,
Hey! SheliaLee thats what friends are for to support you and feel for you so you are never alone, we are all here to listen and rant with you, although we cannot see each other we can express are our feeling so you know where to come to and I'm glad its all sorted out and your son will still someone to help him but its a shame though he can't have this lady back, we he will get used to this one soon. Take care.
Tamara
