Do guys only see the bad times???

It sounds like a defense mechanism to me, Pixie, and my husband sometimes tries to get away with the same thing. A few weeks ago he was being a grump on a Saturday and, after being really niiiiiice to him for a couple of hours I finally snapped and growled at him. He said, "Oh, that's right, it's the weekend so you want to start a fight". That was SO ridiculous that I laughed because I'm the one who works all week...he stays home...so why would I want to spend the weekend fighting with him? Whenever he tries to pull this "you always" junk on me I refuse to let him play that game. Your husband says those things to put you on the defensive, to make you start defending yourself and your treatment of him and thereby getting him off the hook for whatever it was you were mad at him about. Next time he does it, yell "FOUL" like an official at a game and tell him old baggage is not allowed!

i don't know why this is but it is so typical and i experience the same exact thing. i could be in a good mood for weeks at a time and the one day i get upset about something he throws it in my face and says i am always upset about something.

My husband isn't that way, but my ex husband was - even I was that way when I was married to him and I am not that way now. With my ex so much of everything was bad that it was really hard to find the good. If 4 out of 7 days are bad, that is what you will remember. Unless he learns to forget the negative and focus on the positive (forgive and forget) that is the only way that he will get over that. Maybe the counselor can help him?

I think Men remember the bed stuff longer for some reason. At least that is so with me and my husband. Men like to hold every thing over your head. I say whats up with that.

i have never been that way, anytime that i have been mad or in an argument and then mad within an hour i am fine, it happened, it's done and over with and in the past and i forget about it. I would much rather focus on having a good time with my partner, and usually i am too busy acting like a dork just so i can see that smile or hear that laughter. I am the type of person that it takes a lot to get me angry but when im angry you know, however that anger is gone within an hour

thats crazy because i feel the same way about my boyfriend at times. but then again its a little different. it's like everytime i do something wrong he gets super upset but when i'm doing something right he doesn't even acknowledge it. It's like guys only see the bad in every situation but they are oblivious to the good things. I think a partner should be praised for the good things they do just as they are scorned for not doing something right.

That is a human tendency. We do not value things which we get easily. He knows that you dont get mad at him at times and keep your anger inside you and thats what he takes for granted and once when there is something wrong from his side and you getting mad, is not exceptable. This is a men's nature but its not that you cant help anything about it. Your man has to understand things between you and him more and more. He should analyse things that take place between you and him. He must see and understand what and why are you saying and then put him at that place where you want him to be , if he feels compactible and understands that you are right then he must change the thing at once, if he feels you are wrong he can just explain things back to you that no it aint like that way what do you say?

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