how much you love her/him?

@lextoper (573)
Philippines
August 26, 2008 1:09pm CST
I'm in a long distance relationship for a year right now and finally she came back for a vacation. Of course, as a boyfriend, I'm so excited to see her. But when I meet her, she seems like not the girl that I used to know before when she went out of the country. I feel so bad but I try to understand her because maybe she is just busy of thinking what to do for the whole month (she only have 1 month vacation). As the days went by, I notice her chatting with someone else. I tried to borrow her phone to take a look on the person that she is busy chatting with but she didn't let me. I ask why but she only give me an answer of " It's personal". Yes, it is but but I'm not used to it because before, we are transparent that we even exchange our phone for a week to know who's the persons that we are calling and texting with. To make the story short, I found out that she is doing unfaithful act. But she confessed to me about it. She said, she met a guy on the flight on her way here. Some sort of flight steward and said his cute. damn... I was hurt so much that I don't know know what to do. I feel so pathetic. I said, I will fight for you no matter what. But, if you really love the other guy and the guy will love you and take good care of you same as I do, I will let go. Yes it will hurt but their's nothing I can do if you're not inlove with me anymore. I told her that and she felt guilty of the things that she did. She ask for forgiveness and I accept it. I can't imagine myself losing her. We are okay right now and has a constant communication. I always pray for our relationship to surpass all the trials that we get across with. The thing is, all I want is for her to be happy. I love her so much that I'm willing to give-up for her happiness.
2 responses
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
God that is to hurting,and very painful for your part,even though you treated her nicely,love her so much then she loves you, accept her for what she is even her mistakes and faults you are still there. Well she was guilty and honest telling you what she feels. She is still their even she is hurting you. It's what a life. You feel like your hunging,it's until when that's a big question?Sometimes you have to sacrifice and letting go with the person even though you love her. If it comes back it was meant for you then at the end nothing happens. I believe in time and space to think of. Especially when you were not important just for the other person to think how she feels for you is real. It is enough that you proven your love,getting hurt,and did sacrifice. If I was in your situation I will just not insist myself,then sacrificing,sharing my life with someone who doesn't love me and reciprocate with my love. I proven my love to her and that is enough it is not yet the end of the world. I still have myself to go on with my life. Not because i just slip her away I don't love her, I do I really do love her but it's a matter of time,letting her think if this relationship is really ours,and our life together.For me it is better to feel love than not having love at all. But in love you cannot ask in return. For me that is how I love. Anyway God will make a way! Have a nice day!Smile even though your heart is breaking!
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Yes, you're right. have you been in this situation before? what you said did really help me a lot. However, we're okay as of these time and I'll do my best to sustain our relationship and thats how much she mean to me. You got a good heart there n30wing, keep it up! Happy posting and see in other discussions. God bless.
@roanne05 (1290)
• Oman
27 Aug 08
hands-up to you my friend... long distance relationship is really hard to maintain. it can be surpass but takes a lot of courage from both of you and willingness to make it work...good luck!