Does anyone want my 17 year old boy?

@dizzblnd (3073)
United States
October 10, 2008 8:50am CST
He cooks, he is semi-respectful, irresponsible, helpful when he is in trouble (which is a LOT lately), doesn't listen, doesn't learn from his mistakes, thinks he can do whatever he wants when he wants, got in an accident Wednesday that was his fault. I just don't understand why he can't understand the fine art of communication. Yesterday makes the 3rd time this week he has not communicated with us about going places that were not previously discussed/given permission to do. Last Friday he drove himself and his sister to the homecoming game. He was to come home right after. My husband and were out. My daughter had tried to call 3 times because she was locked out of the house, being chewed up by mosquitoes. Apparently, he had made sure she had a ride home, and then took his girlfriend home. Did he call? NO! We restricted his driving to going to and from work and school. Yesterday, we had a tornado WARNING in our area. One had touched down right down the street from where I lived. I got home from work, "the boy" whasn't home. I figured he went to work. My husband came home and asked where he was. Tiffany (my daughter) informed us that he had gone to the bank to get a money order. Did he call? NO! Had he had the common decency to call, we would have told him NO stay put! We could not reach him on his cell phone, it went rightto voicemail (Remember, this is a day after he was in an accident) So he comes home and we ripped him a new one. His response? "My phone was dead" He could have used his sisters phone. I am DONE. I wanted to take his phne. But my husband syas "he needs it" WHy? He doesn't use it to call us when he should. Karma is a b!tch he lost his phone at school today. I ask again... does anyone want my 17 yer old boy? Please share your teenager stories (either you or your child). I was NEVER like this (Just don't ask my mom, she'll lie to you
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Just another year and off to college? Or thrown into the streets? lmao I have a few more months until my oldest is a teen thank goodness! But, I'll get back to you then
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Sigh... unfortunately, he is not college bound. I don't know if I have the heart to throw him on the streets either. I guess I will just get myself a padded cell until he grows up. I will build an extra large one for you and anyone else who would like to join me.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
10 Oct 08
LOL My mom is the same way. My brother is 37 and still lives at home and doesn't work. I have told my children on several occasions that I will have no problem dropping them off at the local homeless shelter. I'll tell you this, if my sons grow into pain in the a$$ teens I'll send them to you since you already have experience
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
10 Oct 08
LOL! You had better send them with some meds.. otherwise.. NO DEAL!
@RenoMan (90)
• Togo
11 Oct 08
I'll take him. I'll put him to work in my business doing renovations. He'll not only learn a trade or two, but he'll also have to work hard or I won't let him take a pee break. And forget having a phone. No phone. Only the boss has a phone. I remember what it's like to be a 17 year old boy. I don't envy you as the mom. These days my mother says I was the model son, but she lies too.:)
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
11 Oct 08
OH THANK YOU! What is your address? I will stick him in a box, and if he's lucky, I might remember airholes. He is a good kid mostly.. he has a job. He is a hard worker. His dad is a carpenter he wants to go to work for him when he is 18 (if I let him live that long) I don't understand why our mothers have to lie
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• Togo
12 Oct 08
He sounds like he already has skills I could use in my business. So don't forget the airholes.:) I think mothers lie because they have idealized visions of us in their heads and have to keep the picture alive in the hopes it may one day be true. That's what my mother used to say anyway but sadly I don't think I've done that for her yet. She still likes my wife more than me.:(
• Togo
13 Oct 08
Why thank you ma'am for the best response. Do we earn extra for that? Not that it matters, just trying to learn how the site works.:)
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I will take your 17 year old if you will take my 15 year old. My son is beginning that independent thing and his favorite saying is, "You live your life the way you need to and I will live mine." I am with you!!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
10 Oct 08
WOW! Thanks but no thanks.. that would mean going backwards and having to do the 16 year old thing all over again. No thanks! As you can see, it doesn't get any better
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
11 Oct 08
This is how they are. They can't understand what's so important about their calling, you should know they're ok! My kids and I both thought we were so smart. Well, my kids still think they're smart and I'm kind of stupid. But I knew everything!! My mom was dumb for worrying about me. I've apologized to her lots of times in the past twenty years for things I did as a teenager! He'll grow out of it, they usually do! And you'll be surprised how much smarter you get as he ages!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
11 Oct 08
That's funny. I confess and then apologize for tings I have done in the past! It's great, 'cause now they can't punish us I am hoping to get smarter.. IF I let him live to grow older. It is amazing how smart are mothers get and how much they actually knew
@msedge (4011)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I think teenagers are different than we were before.Specially yours is a boy.I have a teenager daughter too.She don't go out alone or with friends that much but my problem with her is she keep asking to buy this and that.As a mom, i try to give her everything as long as it doesn't harm her.Sometimes they don't understand the difference between needs and wants.Whatever they say that they want, then thats it.Sometimes also we can't understand their mood.The scary thing is when they are in love.We don't know whats on their mind and if they want to do something they will without thinking if its good or bad for them.The ending is they come to us for help when they got problems.
11 Oct 08
Hi, Just thinking i have got all this to come.....my eldest is only 10, but with the ages of mine im going to have three boys who are going to all be teenagers at the same time!!! hugs Jessica
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
11 Oct 08
You have my sympathies I will save you a spot in my large padded cell!
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11 Oct 08
Well if you saw my post a little earlier......the padded cell would have come in handy, my 9 year old was driving me to distraction!!!!! oh the joys of parenthood!!! hugs Jessica
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Oct 08
dizzblnd oh I do remember one night when my husband and I were just going ape as our fourteen year old son had gone out on his bike and it got dark, then was ten and there was a curfew for teen agers who had to be in by ten unless with their parents, come eleven no son, no phone call, no nothing, scared sick and about to phone for the police as something could have happened to him, he pulls in , he had been out twenty miles from home just exploring and missed the last bus which wouldh have let him put his bike onthe front of the bus. we asked hime why he didnt call, he had no money, well why didnt you stop a police car and ask for a ride home. He just looked at us, duh, I was out after curfew.okay well we were so relieved that we really didnt say a whole lot but my husband told him, after this check your watch, here take this ,he handed him change for a phone, and if you are too close to curfew call me and I will pick you up in my pickup. He was a gifted child with a high IQ who tested out like a boy of nineteen or twenty.It was hard knowing how to discipline him as he was very old for his age.I was never like that as I was an overly timidteenaged girl.