Will you get married with a person you don't love?

its a big NO. its hard to suffer the consequences in the long run. and also, you will live together, you will sleep together, then you dont love that person, GOSH its like you are making your life uneasy and punishing yourself huh..

i will never do that cause you know marriage is set for couples who truly loves another and do not fool each other . i feel sorry for both of them cause they cannot live happy with each of they're real partners

That is so unfair for his wife especially when she is a good wife to him. If he doesn't love him then perhaps he can just try to show her that he still cares for her. Maybe if they get along then he would learn to appreciate his wife more and forget about the girl he loved. I would never marry somebody I don't love!

Hi, U mean to start a new Life with'Compromise'.Question is How Long this Compromise(possibly one-sided) will survive?No, I will start a NEWLIFE with only someone I LOVE and(beloved). =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

Oh my, this is a total nightmare! I mean if i was the girl, why should i let marry a man that obviously does not love me. I would never marry someone whom i don't love, and who does not love me in return. How will someone live a life like that. Always drinking because the guy is still holding on to his hurt feelings to his ex. Oh my, this is really the most terrible thing to do, marriage without love. I feel sorry for the girl, because she will suffer that pain to what this guy is giving him. If that guy is honest, he should have told her the first place that he does not love the girl. And if the girl still pursue, i think that was the fault of the girl now. Their lives will be devastated , a whirlwind or tsunami as i can see.

No, never !Love is the most important thing in my life .I will never marry anyone that i don't love even when i am in trouble .Nowadays a lot of girls around me get married with the rich men who are even as old as their fathers or someone they never fall in love with or even dislike .I feel so disappointed for them because they lose the encouragement to find the true love in their lives and it is the biggest loss in their lives . Marriage is the biggest happiness for me .If i get married with someone i don't love ,i will be unhappy and my life will just lose its original meaning !

I have married a person whom i haven't seen before.I saw him in one get together. That's it.I have never spoken to him till our engagement.I dont know anyhting about him personally until our marriage.Now we are living very happily.We dont have any problem.We have understood each other and love each other very much.Not only me ,in our country majority of marraiges are take place like this.Most of them live their happily.What do you say for this?

Hi there Jennyaijua! I will never get trapped in a relationship with a person whom I do not love. I will never marry someone I do not love. I have friends who have been married with people they do not love and none of them lasted long. They either ended up in an extra-marital affair or they ended up separated. This is especially true with my friends who married people they do not love because of what their culture dictates.

oh my. That is a very wrong thing to do, getting married to someone you do not love at all or even try to. I think what he did is irresponsible (sorry I know he is your friend.) He did not only cause pain to himself but to another person as well. The least he could do is try to love her or at least do not things that would hurt her more. I think it is best for your friend to be a man and tell the woman he married that he is still in love with the old gf and that they should separate until he has recovered and ready to be the husband he is supposed to be.

I think your male friend put himself in a terrible position. Marriage is difficult enough when you love eachother much less when you don't. I got married when I was 28...thought I was in love with my husband and it turns out we ended up in divorce. I realized after a period of time that I wasn't in love with him...don't get me wrong...I loved him but not in love...that too in a big difference. When I realized this I couldn't go on with it anymore and make him and myself miserable anymore. I think he should face the situation he is in and either try to work on things or just get out of the marriage. Don't get me wrong divorce is a terrible thing to go through and can be devistating but is both parties are suffering the marriage itself isn't fun either. I too believe that you should never get married unless you are "in love" with the person and one of your goals as a couple is to make eachother happy.

Personnally I couldn't marry someone I didn't love marriage is hard enough when your in love so imagine how hard it would be if you didn't love that person plus you have to respect and care for someone before you get to love.No one is responsoble for someone elses happiness your happiness comes from within yourself and the way you choose to live your life. This girl need to leave your friend and find herself before she find someone else she definiately have some issues she needs to address about her own self esteem and what she wants in a marriage. I wish luck and much happiness.

for me, marriage is sacred. i will only marry the person I love. it will also be unfair to the other person if i could not give him the love he deserves.

the guy did a wrong move. if i am his wife, i'll break it off since he wouldn't. your friend is selfish. it's another's life he's messing up with. dude, that's real life.

he is wrong.he should have waited and marry somebody he loves.it is only going to get worst not better.i think he should let her know now and leave before something other than drinking occurs.

Why on earth would he do that? What has he accomplished...now he is still unhappy and so is the girl he married. His former girlfriend doesn't care...she is happily married. And why did his wife marry him, knowing he didn't love her????I'm not sure which is worse. The man should grow up and stop being so ridiculous. It is his ego that is hurting, not his heart. Start treating his wife with respect is a good idea because that will help him feel better about himself and her...it will be a step forward in the right direction. What an idiot!

I could never marry someone I do not love. I cannot evn fathom it. Because when i get into arguments I always try to hold back my reactional statements and I know if it was someone I did not love I would let them have it. LOL Not to mention I think it is sad that someone thinks they have to do this.

It's always bad to marry on the rebound, I'm so sorry for his wife. I hope they don't have children, that will only add to the trouble.

I really feel sorry for the both of them! I know what it is like to be with someone that doesn't love you the way you love them and that is not fair. What is the point in getting married if you don't love the person? Was he trying to prove something? There is nothing wrog with being with someone and not marrying them. I also see he is in pain of loosing the one he loves, but he has to come to realize that she has moved on and she didn't have the same feelings for him as he did for her and in the end it would have never worked out any ways for the two. He needs to move on. Learn to love his present wife and take care of her or he needs to let her go so she can move on and find someone that loves her.

I don't think everybody is lucky enough to be married to the person whom he\she loves.When you go for an arrange marriage you generally don't love the person you are going to marry but gradually after staying with your partner and knowing him\her you begin liking your partner.I am not generalizing the statement but it happens.

No, I won't marry a person I won't love because I won't end up happy. Marriage are for those two people who really love each other and wants to spend their time together for the rest of their lives.