should or should not you hide yur feelings ?

this is a good topic! I think sometimes it is better for us to hide our true feeling for one. This is not to cheat but love, which we call it "white lie". I hope I can keep the negative feeling hidden and let him or her fly freely.

There certainly are times to hold our tongues, to agree to disagree, to avoid criticism and conflict. Unlike western culture the asians are not expressive and demonstrative and prefer to bottle up their feelings. They prefer to keep their silence. Way too many marriages and other important relationships turn stale and ugly or simply end because of too much is left unsaid. It is not only the positive things that we need to say, it's the concerns, the frustrations, the hurts, and the feelings that need to get out, get aired, get communicated, get understood. We should express our feelings openly. Keeping it to ourselves will only raise our BP.

Hi kra, I am very frank and straight but when I will feel that it will not help the situation, I will rather keep what I think and hope that the person will realize in different ways, not coming from me...

In this case, it pays to be tactful. You need to tell that person in a way that they won't take offense. For instance, if a person wears inappropriate clothing you can tell them that you really like their sense of style but they wear it so well that it is distracting for the other workers.

Haan, kabhi kabhi karna padtha hai...but mostly, about 80% of the time, i dont hide my feelings no matter what the consequences are and for this same reason i am being hated by some people and loved by some people

Telling the whole truth, sparing some one's feelings, and hiding my feelings are related but really different subjects. Some people feel that You must tell the whole truth. I'm ok with that IF you use tact. There is a time and place for certain things, the way you word things changes the tone of it and how much hurt it costs. Things like that must be thought of. You can spare some one's feelings with out resorting to lying by either finding a positive, or using tact, care with your words. Instead of say "yes it's a nice dress but it gives you a big belly." you say "that color is great on you" Hiding my feelings has nothing to do with anyone else. I do that to spare myself... to spare an argument, to spare tears, to spare myself having to deal.

Unless it is better that i keep my true feelings hidden so the propper revenge is executed, I think it is better to express your true feelings, There is a way to tell a person something unpleasant without trying to hurt their feelings,It is so much better to have the truth out in the open than have it hidden.

so much depends on the situation and your relationship to that person.....the timing of your moment of "honesty", your intent etc. It is a fine line between being blatantly honest and just plain tacky. It also depends on if you were asked for your opinion. Some people go around speaking their unsolicited truths claiming to be honest when in fact they are just plain rude and mean. I work in the public and I have been a victim of this type of "honesty". Ok so I am well aware that I have a big zit smack in the middle of my chin. Is it ok to be honest and tell me that you see it...remind me that it is there just in case I got my mind off it for a minute? That is just an example but come on...keep that sort of stuff to yourself. Unless you are a close friend and are trying to help, then there is no need to open up critisism on another person just to let them know their negatives. Now if the truth about the person is really in the greater interest of the community....say you know something of this person that others would benefit from knowing...do tell. You have to think before speaking on whether divulging your true feelings will have any positive affect. This is actually a case by case question.

yes there are some reasons why we hide our feelings because we think that it is not a right time to tell to the person what really the true feeling we have. And sometimes it become too late for us because of some circumstances that being occurred in the situation.

I think truth and honesty win out in anything. To save feelings? Why? To be a true friend or whatever it is important and ethical to always tell the truth. Truth will win out 9 times out of ten. I have had some bad scrapes in this area. Truth made me look like a fool, even made others upset with me[if you can imagine] but it is something to stand by and respect.

Hey there! For me there are things that can be hidden, at least for a while, and there are those that should be bold. Like what you said, if it affect a greater number of people, even if it may have a bad effect on others, it should divulge to the people. For me, personally, it depends on the situation that I am in. If the situation is like I'm the one being pointed out with the wrong then I'll not hesitate to tell what I feel to defend myself specially if I know that what they are accusing me of is not true and malicious.

Hello Rajib! I do agree with you. Being too tactless or frank is not good sometimes. When talking, we should also consider other people's feeling. We should be very careful with every words that came out to our mouth. I am always careful when talking or when saying something to that person. There are person who are too sensitive and that's what I am careful about.

Hi, Rajib, your express is quite reasonable aiming to this topic. Most of time, we should make a consideration on thier feelings by putting ourself in their shoes, if it is good for them, but they would be not willing to listen, I think it is better to tell them. Our final purpose is for the good for them, though we will be blamed by them, I will do it, too. So how do you think of it?

I think in most cases, it is best to say what is on your mind. In the end, if you do not, it could come back to hurt you. It is also a nice feeling to get something off your chest. I have to say that sometimes it is better not to say anything. If you know that someone will be very hurt by what you have to say and there is no real reason for saying it, it may be better to keep the information to yourself.

It depend on the situation. If you are not hurting others' interest and also your own, you can also make your feelings known. But I will rather try to think about situation.

Case-by-case basis. If it's potentially physically harmful, then obviously it's better to keep a low profile until you can get out of that situation. If it'll lead to worsening a crisis situation, it's better to keep yourself together, to be real but to try to radiate strength for those around you to calm the situation and keep everyone level to deal. In every day life, and all our various kinds of relationships with people...it's your call. But mostly I think honesty's best in this case. The key is to have an outlet for expression somewhere, elsewise, none of it's super good for you. It helps to be aware and thinking about your actions and observant of yourself.

Sometimes you have to say what you are feeling or thinking but other times it is possible that you don't need to say something that might hurt someone's feelings. What always bothers me is when someone insists on an answer when you really don't want to tell them something, and it isn't all that important anyway. It usually depends on the situation and what is being said and who is involved in the conversation whether something has to be said. My mother taught me that if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.

I just responded to a previous post that the thing I dislike most about anyone is lying. However, I do not consider keeping your mouth shut is always lying. The policy of "Don't ask. Don't tell" is frequently the best. When I was a teenager my mother gave me this advice, "Don't ever lie to anyone, but you don't always have to tell everything you know, either."

Do what I do hear no evil.do no evil. and say no evil ,it could be construd as gossip and scandel mongering so follow my rules, and stay safe,unless you know the murderers name then tell the police.xx

In my opinion,without violating the principle of circumstances are required in good face lie.For example,If a lie is not harmful anyone,but make somebody happy,why not do?