Will you marry the person you don't love,but loves you so much?

China
March 30, 2009 1:54am CST
Maybe I will not, there is someone who loves me, and want to marry me,but when I imagine I will go to sleep, have dinner,watch TV with him together---I cannot accept the fact.I'm not sure whether I can marry a person I love and loves me,because I can't forcast the future.
7 responses
@enciel (368)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
that kind of thing is always tricky, but for me i would prefer if i would marry someone i love and loves me too. But in cases like that in which the person loves you but you don't and only has him as a last resort i guess all that is left for you to do is get to know him, and maybe you will learn that you can love him too (this is only if you do not hate him or dislike him greatly). But if you truly cannot stand his presence i suggest you do not marry him cause you will only hurt both of yourselves by doing that. For you that you are forcing yourself to love someone you don't and for him/her that loves you a lot but doesn't ever feel the truthfulness of love you can return to that person. So in the end i suggest do not force yourself to something you do not like. :D
• China
31 Mar 09
Maybe I still have time and opportunities to wait or find other right persons.
• China
31 Mar 09
maybe I still have opportunities and enough time to find or wait my Mr.Right.
@Jankar (583)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
NO WAY! How can you call it a perfect marriage of it is only a one sided love. When you marry someone, it has to be that both of you love each other to create a perfect harmony. Marriage is not just an act but a commitment. And you are bound to live with the one you choose forever, in good or bad, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. If you can't see yourself experiencing such terrible events in married life, then don't go through it or else you'll just live a very agonizing life till the end.
• China
31 Mar 09
Jankar,thanks for your response which make my head clearly.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I think it would be unfair for the person if you marry him but do not love him. It would be better to tell him as gently as you can that you don't love him that is why you will not marry him. It would be a lot harder for both of you if you decide to marry because you will end up always hurting him because you can't return the love that he gives you. No matter how he insists that it doesn't matter, that all he wants is that you allow him to love you, its human nature to want to be loved in return.
• China
30 Mar 09
"that all he wants is that I allow him to love me, and wanted to be loved in nature " I quite agree with u.
• Pakistan
30 Mar 09
Yes i can Becoz i believe u should marry with that person who loves you. he or she will not decive you ever becoz u r his/her love. and i believe love for man or women also grownup after marrige its a fact becoz u have to spend ur life with ur Partner.
• China
30 Mar 09
Hello, bilal_park 17.Yep, we will grownup after marriage and change.Maybe one day, we will never love him or her .what can we do?
@laedyan (189)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Hello there jacqueline1. I am not the who can predict my future but for now, I'm definitely sure that i will not marry a person just because he loves me so much. Its unfair for him even though he will say that its alright. I will not be at ease and of course i can't picture what will happen after the marriage. I'll prefer to remain single rather than having a husband who is not loved by me. Maybe in the future, my outlook in this kind of thing will change but let's just see.
• China
30 Mar 09
Nice to meet u laedyan.I aggress with u exactly that remain singal is better than marrying a person not loved. wish u,me and all of friends find the right one in our marrige.
@deleepkv (38)
• India
30 Mar 09
My answer no.one should be happy in is life even though life is a mixture of joy and sorrow,pleasure and pain.but if u marry someone u don't love life would not be comfortable.what would be his/her attitude towards the other partner. definitely problems will arise.why would we simply waste our life(of course his/her also).this is same as if someone got married and they failed to understand each other.
• China
31 Mar 09
yep!let's own a happy marriage,enjoy our lives.
• United States
30 Mar 09
it would be hard for me to marry someone i didn't love. I would feel bad turning them down especially if they loved me but i just couldn't marry someone I didn't love.
• China
30 Mar 09
yep,turn them down in a gental way but every way cannot without hurt. God, find a person loves us and we loved is so hard