Did i do the right thing?
By rizzu87
@rizzu87 (860)
Malaysia
April 27, 2009 6:07pm CST
I am in a foreign country where i have come to study with a friend of mine. Since the last 8 months both of us were living in a sharing room in our university hostel because we spent all the money we bought for a single room accommodation. Now after those 8 months living in the same room i told my parents to send me more money so that i stay in a single room. And suddenly some of my other friends offered me to stay in their house.
Let me clear one thing here, those friends have rented a whole apartment in the university accommodation which is alot cheaper then staying in single room or even in a single room. So i changed my room with my new friends.
It was cheaper for me and i was getting a single room with complete privacy. Now mylotters! do you think i did the right thing or i should have stayed with him? Somewhere or the other this must have hurt him... your comments please...
5 responses
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I heard one time that a friend loves at all times. If this person is a true friend, they will either understand your finacial situation; or they will talk to you about it and deal with it and get on with the friendship.
If he gets angry and does not get over it... you still made the right choice, because he is not a true friend. It may be painful, but if he doesn't make amends, he never was a real friend to begin with!
@khalel (25)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
i think if he really is your friend he would understand what is your situation right now, he must understand that you cannot afford the rent in a single room where you are staying with him. If he cannot understand it, explain everything to him,on why did you change place.
i hope this thing may help you.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
The thing is that both of us were in the same postition financially, what i have a bad feeling about is that when i got a better offer i moved out. I have never spoken to him about any reason why i moved out because i dint feel like talking to him. Any ways thanks alot for your response
@wanghui0210 (218)
• China
28 Apr 09
I think it is better to talk with him before u move out. Tell him that the reason that you change ur room is from financial consideration, not because of him. I think he will understand and support you because you are friends.
@Jules_01 (1)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
I guess it depends on a number of things. Was it a room designed for 1 person or was it an actual sharing room? It sounds like you both paid for the one single room, in which case did your friend need you there to help pay for rent? Perhaps you might find that he was looking for privacy too.
If it is a sharing room does that mean he now has to have someone else sharing the room with him?
Your friend should understand the situation you were in but I would have made sure he was ok with moving out or at least discussed it with him first, that way if he did have a problem you could work out how to make it work for both of you without damaging your friendship.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
It was actually a sharing room so if I moved out or not he has to pay only for himself. It was the middle of the semester and i thought no one would come into that room, but as soon as i left within a week it was accommodated with another student. I thought if this would not happen then both of us will get privacy. Actually i am feeling bad that i am paying lesser than him and he is paying more even though he is in a sharing room, as i mentioned that I am in apartment which we have rented as a whole apartment which is cheaper. We are both okay when we are talking and spending time together but i feel that somewhere he is not the way he was before. Anyways JUles thanks alot for your response.
