Am I worth the hassle?

Thank you...I plan to ask him over on Saturday to talk about this. I know I need to let him know just how MUCH his comment hurt. This isn't the first time he's been...insensitive--last May I was around some women that knew him and one started a huge mess. He called me two days later and said some really horribly things--I phoned back and left him a message, calmly telling him that I wasn't in the wrong, that we had talked about everything the day before and when HE was ready to apologize, he could call. It took two weeks, but he finally called and apologized. Of all of our fights, this was the first one that was because of his jumping to conclusions and I wasn't going to apologize for his immaturity.

you definetly need to love yourself first! i hope everything works out well for you, wether that means resolving the issues with your current boyfrien or looking for love elsewhere. just remember, the person you are with doesn't need to be perfect, but you should love his faults too. if you don't, maybe it's not meant to be.

Actually, I'm considering giving him 1.5 MINUTES of MY precious times this weekend to tell him how I'm feeling! I blew him off--I was supposed to call him Monday to get some information about his band but why waste MY minutes? I didn't bother...I even considered not calling him this weekend (let him think my phone was disconnected again), but I'm not that devious. I'll let him call me, be a bit flippant and try to fit him in (I'm quite busy myself this weekend). I'm also not as rude--I think when two people have been together this long, it (the relationship) deserves to be broken in person. Let him waste his gas and the toll for the bridge!

kat, yes, I know I have low self esteem. I'm trying to deal with the fact that THREE guys have asked me out in TWO days--I was such a geek girl in high school that no one wanted to date me! I'm going to talk to him and get to the bottom of his reasons as to why he doesn't feel we can live together--I think he's the one who's afraid. I even put my house up for sale over a year ago so that I could move to the city he lives in! I'm more mature--I'll tell him to his face how I feel and if it doesn't change immediately, I'm walking (he'd leave a voicemail, or just not call). I'm going back to my self-affirmations site I found and I'll start reading them each day. They were helping. Thanks!

Actually, I think it's a matter of 'having his cake and eating it too'--he's been living with someone long-term (14 or so years) that he's claimed is a roommate, yet I'm not allowed to meet her. I turned around and got a male roommate and allowed my boyfriend to meet him (he doesn't like him either, and neither do the few friends of mine that's he's met). I plan on talking with him on Saturday and letting him know how this hurt me, and get to the bottom of this. He told me five years ago that we had to get to know one another better but that he felt we'd live together one day. That I understood...but he's been playing me a little too long now.

When I first laid eyes on him nearly 10 years ago, it was like getting punched in the chest--I knew something was up, but I wasn't sure. I was still married and he was (I thought) involved with someone else. Nothing happened for 4 years, other than a friendship developed. I think he was willing to act on his feelings (I don't think they were friendly either), and he said he'd like to get to know me better. Our children are from other relationships--he's even got a grandchild. I'm thinking it's the money thing--he's been acting weird since I was laid off from the company we both worked at in 2005, and now that my home and car are gone, he seems to be more distant. I tried very hard not to fall in love with him--I really did! but it happened. I don't know how he feels--he's a widower and has been for over 16 years. I'll only work so hard--I just don't think I can go through this pain anymore!