Disciplining someone...
By iceblade007
@iceblade007 (232)
Philippines
May 30, 2009 6:50am CST
My family is really not that big, in fact there are 4 of us siblings, 3 boys 1 girl. I'm the second one and my parents are separated. My mom is very ill and she can't barely do home chores so we as her sons and daughter do house chores. The one that really pisses me off is our youngest brother. It seems like he doesn't care about the family. He takes care of his friends more than his own mother. He is always with friends playing basketball or going some place and then going home late. We always fight about this and his attitude towards the whole family. I just can't tolerate him for what he does. I'm trying to discipline him but my mom seems to interfere always. She is somewhat spoiling my youngest brother like when my brother ask for money, she'll give him without hesitation. I think he is the favorite one but I don't think it that way. My brother is only 16 years old and starts to drink and smoke although my mom don't know about it and I don't intend to tell her due to her sickness that I don't want her to worry. I'm getting lost of what to do to this brother of mine... Could you guys give me some advice? I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
5 responses
@babyfazt09 (144)
• Philippines
30 May 09
I also have a brother about the same age as your brother which also happened to be the youngest and somehow spoiled.
He also have those vices such as drinking and smoking but it's not beyond my mother's knowledge or any of our relatives.
We just let him for just like what my mother is always saying, "It's just a normal part of growing up!" ^_^
@babyfazt09 (144)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Of course, you also have to remind him of his limitations when it comes to that.
The reason why we're just letting my brother that way is because he knows when to stop it.
He doesn't smoke that much and doesn't even drink that often.
Hmmmm, I think he only drinks once a month or when there is only some special occasions. ^_^
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
30 May 09
if your dad is still in the picture somewhat i would talk with him and see what he think, if not then i would tell your mom just what all he is doing well he's out.
but the youngest always seem to be spoil,
@iceblade007 (232)
• Philippines
30 May 09
My father is not coming home anymore since my 6th grade in school. Since then, I started working so we have something to eat but I didn't stop to go to school. Yeah, my brother really is spoiled, don't how to take care of him and his growing attitude...
@k1tten (2318)
• United States
30 May 09
Unfortunately not a lot you can do with someone at that age unless you talk to your mother about it. To be truthful you have to set your foot down with her and explain what is going on with your youngest sibling and tell her they can't do that anymore. That he has to fend for himself sometime and if he wants money he can work for it.
@aikhong (661)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
It is sad to know that your youngest brother is behaving like that. Ya, something really need to be done before everything gets bad. I think you can try to inform your mother regarding this, in a proper way. I guess it is still fine to let her know now, better than when your youngest brother is really spoilt. If can, you may try to look for advice from your other relatives as well such as your uncle or aunty. Besides, try to know what's actually happening to your that brother that makes him behaving like that. Perhaps he just need some help or attention somewhat. Get to know his friends too and see whether you can seek help from them too. Good luck to you. :)
@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
30 May 09
he probably has some emotional issues that he's dealing with along with his normal rebellion. All teenagers rebel at some point. Just really think about how he must feel. Teenage boys aren't the best people to ask about thier emotions, but odds are he's feeling some resentment of you because you are not is mother or father. He's also dealing with the fact that his father is gone and his mother is ill. He probably just doesn't know how to process these emotions and deal with them maturely. No child is unaffected by having a seriously ill parent. The best thing to do is talk to him like an adult. Show him how you feel, without judging him. If everyone is open and honest about the situation it cold actually bring you close in the long run. Good luck.
