What is the first thing that attracts you to someone?
By trinee
@trinee (514)
Trinidad And Tobago
June 10, 2009 7:44am CST
Some people are attracted to eyes, smile,looks,personality, money and for others it is the caring ways and thoughtfulness someone shows. Some are attracted just because the other person is very much into them. For me, it is the personality and I am a sucker for the eyes and an award winning smile ! LOL
What stirs in you and attracts when you first see someone?
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. . the one I will say is I like to see if he has a weddingband on !
"You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist"
happy lotting to you ..
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
12 Jun 09
No that has never happen to me. I have however dated at guy before that was not very attractive but portrayed himself as a Godly man. After getting to know him better he was quite the opposite. Every word i could think of to discribe him was all negitive. Very bad shituation.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
The nose....I guess there are people who just have to see one feature on the body and it draws them in...for the second phase. Have you ever met someone who has the perfect nose but nothing else that attracted you? How did you handle that situation if you are willing to tell. Have a great day!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Jun 09
personality. so im with you on that. he has to be kind and unselfish. i dont care the slightest how he looks as long as hes a good person. like my late hubby. everyone loved him and i never knew a kinder person. why im not with anyone since hes been gone because its hard to fill those shoes.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Usually I look at someones hair first. I do look at other details but for some reason hair is the first thing I look at in someone.
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@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Beautiful personality, exterior and interior. I am attracted to originality and to uniqueness. When people be themselves I think that is much more attractive then trying to impress everybody. You can really find beauty in anyone because we are all beautiful people when we treat each other as equals and choose to be beautiful to everyone else.
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@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I agree with you. My attractions to a person would be the same as yours. Though I also have my rather... ahem... 'earthy' side that makes me check things out that I'm not too proud of. Like sometimes I visually size up things like hands and feet, and sometimes my eyes wander towards other places and I find myself questions if I may be attracted to everything that is available to me in this person. Haha. Some guys find this flattering... some just get mad that I may even be interested in such things. But, if a guy can look at a woman's chest, or her hind quarters when sizing her up... why can't we look at similar dimensions on the men?
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@balasri (26537)
• India
11 Jun 09
If course I would like to tell.I saw this person for the first time four years back in the school where my daughter studies.He has come to drop his two beautiful daughters.As a volunteer and a member of the Parent teacher association I was regulating the traffic at the school parking lot.I saw this guy with a very bright honest smiling face and wished him good morning to which he responded immediately so brightly.I got an instant liking for this decent gentle man.We became friends on just 'Hi' and 'Hello' terms.Right now he is my business partner in our Hr consultants.He is still the same.Honest humble and sweet.That makes me very proud of my assessment of people.
Am I not smart?
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 09
I think I am not a handsome man. I look 18 year old but my age is already 23. People always think that I am still a small boy because my face look like one. Some might call it baby face.
I hope I can make myself look more mature. At least not baby face anymore. Maybe this way I will be able to attract someone special to my life.
For me, I will choose a girl with good personality. Personality is important because not matter how pretty or handsome a person is, bad personality will make that person ugly. 
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Jun 09
Your personality can definately make you appear less or more attractive I believe. You may be physically attractive to one person and to another person you will not be; I hope you will always remember that sdas86. Be comfortable in your own skin and thank God for the blessings he has given you.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
11 Jun 09
The voice. TYhe first thing that attracted me to anyone was the way that they spoke.
@nrn2003 (661)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I dont care what anyone says, the first initial attraction to someone is their looks. Then from there you find what their personality type is and if they mesh well with you or not. Finding somone in a bar scene makes that a little difficult because usually when someone is drinking they aren't acting themselves, but getting more of a one on one basis makes it more realistic of what you two would be like together.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Jun 09
Yes.. your first interaction with someone is seeing them and their appearance draws you in or turns you away. If you get past that initial phase then you speak and their personality will either draw you in or turn you away. However, there are some situations where you not thinking of any kind of attraction and start speaking with someone and their personality is the first thing that draws you in because your mind was not on attraction in the first place.
@jen_barre (104)
• United States
10 Jun 09
This is tough because generally its the whole package, BUT he MUST have a good body and the number one thing that drives me crazy???
His HANDS!!!!
@jen_barre (104)
• United States
10 Jun 09
It's weird probably...but if a guy has soft, manicured hands - EWWW!!! I need his hands to be BIG and hairy and look like they've been used before..but not dirty or gross looking.....I've very specific LOL
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I first attract with the way he looks externally like, the way he carry his clothes, then I will look on the face. When his eyes are so warm I get attracted easily, plus the charming smile and his expression. The last part is his personality. Sometimes when I am attracted to men I used to follow his action in that way I learned about his personality but that is a little of his personality only because it is when I get to know him personally that I will learned his personallity thoroughly.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Jun 09
Warm eyes and charming smile has a way of affecting us. I think most people are attracted by these two features. It is is even nicer if while getting to know the person we become even more attracted to their personality. the combination of both can really bring a smile to our face and heart.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Jun 09
You sent me into my dictionary to find that word 'affinity" but it's always good to learn a new words. I think we are all looking for affinity at some stage when we are really attracted to someone providing that the person is good for us and we are good for them. You are right, not everyone who has attractive traits would attract us we will just have to look for that connection.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
the smile and the sense of humour. a good conversationalist.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 09
I feel you both.. as much as the good looks catch our eye... the kind heart is what makes us continue to look.. because the looks cannot love us back.
To be able to sit and have a meaningful conversation with some and have them care about us, how we are and what is happening in our life is important. To have a friend versus someone who looks good on our arm is definately a plus in my book..
