Is Going to Church More Important to You than....
By ZephyrSun
@ZephyrSun (7381)
United States
June 21, 2009 7:34am CST
Seeing your children or spending time with your family? I am not very religious for many different reasons but, my ex-husband is very religious and it makes me very upset that he would rather go to church than spend time with the children that him and I have together. Him and I never talk unless he wants something because his current wife does not like me and doesn't want us to talk. Today is Father's Day and he is suppose to have the children from 10 am until 7pm. He called last night wanting the children early since he would be at church at the time he was suppose to get them. (Now, before I sound heartless I have to tell you that he never cooperates with me on anything including giving our children their medication) So, anyway this morning he called again telling me that he had church and wanted the kids before church and I said no I would drop them off at 10 and he said well I won't be here I have church.
So I ask all of you no matter what your religion would you give up church, temple whichever for a few hours to see your children and spend the day with them?
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Late night of early morning LOL I had a feeling that God would understand but I didn't know if he put out a new set of rules in the past 20 years
Just an update, he showed up at almost 1 pm yesterday and was suppose to bring them home at 7pm it's 4 am and the children are still not home. He won't answer his phone and every minute I get more mad.
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
24 Jun 09
LOL I've pictures my hands around his neck many times
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@frankiecesca (2489)
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24 Jun 09
Well I don't have children but, I wouldn't go to church instead anyways as I am not religious! x
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
24 Jun 09
LOL You sound like but without children
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Personally I think overall I would be Happy if he is wanting to take them to Church and see them. You need to be able to work with him as in what time he can spend with his kids in order to have them have that relationship as well. Maybe you just need to be more open and understanding with him and in time things will work out for the Best. Since he wants to have contact with your kids you need to be able to give them that chance for sure.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
23 Jun 09
My relationship with God is important but if I had a chance to see my kids in that type of situation I would see them first because I can spend time with God whenever. That doesn't sound very fair to you at all.
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I was really hoping you would respond because I know you are religious. I honestly do not care what he does to me, I only care how he hurts the children. He has always put church and his current wife before his children. My children told me that Sunday church is an event at their house, it's from 8:30-1 that's sorta long and I would think that if he slipped out for 30 minutes no one would notice. Thank you for giving me your thoughts!
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
hmmmm well i am glad my husband and i are alike, we do believe in God but then we do not confine our belief in Him to just by going to church. we do pray and we do it at home, in our bedrooms... and we do not cancel family time just for church or something, at times we do go to church bring our kids along and that becomes family time with God. there are so many ways to compromise things so as to avoid arguments and complications.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
23 Aug 09
If I could only see a family member during the time when I could have gone to church, I'd forget about church, and be with my family member. I don't believe that God's house is the building, I believe that God's house is where God's children gather, and being with my children (if I had children) would be just as good as going to a big grey stone building, and listneing to some guy stand up in a pulpit and yell...now that I think of it, spending time with family, on an interactive level sounds even BETTER!
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Going to church is necessary for our spiritual growth as we listen to God's Word, pray, worship, etc. However, neglecting our responsibility towards our family is also a big NO NO. I just believe that being accountable towards our family is one of the ways of serving our God, for how can we let our family join our faith if we, ourselves, neglect our responsibility as moms or dads? Thus, there should be a balance in everything we do. God bless^^
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