My 15yr old curses,yells, and pushes me!

My mentor in Psychology of Adolescence once told us that teens who curse and are disrespectful need more of our attention and tender loving care. My advice would be to try your very best not to compare her to the others. She is her own person. Try to communicate with her gently. Find her soft spot. She might be trying to reach out to you. It's not too late.

Ok. First of all, I'm not the right person to talk anithing, but, like you said, every diferent person have diferent personality, of curse there would be someone that is hard to control. Remember one thing, YOU have de control, until she live with you she HAVE TO respect you, don't yell her, try to give an order WITHOUT yell. Yelling she will be more revolted. Just talk tight. If you got to take the command, she even will talk back. Don't talk back too, she will act with you just like you act with her. Probably at start you will ask something and she will talk back, don't pay atention, if she do wathever you asked, then it's ok. Someday she stop to talk back when it don't have any response. AND DON'T LET HER TOUCH YOU ANYWAY WITH THE INTENT OF HURT!, if you do it right, it won't get this far, end any argument wen the emotions are taking control. Resolve pendent things when everibody is calm, INCLUDING YOU. I hope I could be of any help, really. (and sorry any grammatical error, i'm not from US^^' )

Well something is triggering that anger. Maybe you as a parent should get her some help & by help I mean maybe talk with a doctor, maybe a shrink? Maybe she needs to be on medication. She could be bipolar or many other things. Has she seen a doctor? Have to talked with a doctor about her behaviors? I think instead of sending my child off to boot camp I would be trying to see whats going on in her head & getting her help. If that fails, then do what you have to do. good luck.

There are many camps out there for young girls whom are going through a difficult time, she needs to learn to respect you. The best advice I can give you is to strip her of all her privileges, take everything out of her room except her bed and her clothes, remove her door from the hinges, until she can respect you she does not talk on the phone, hang out with friends she stays in her room, with the door off. The only thing she can do is with you, she is forced top watch television with you, if you go out she goes with you. She can not do things with her friends, she has no rights to anything. Once she shows you that she respects you and will treat you with respect she can earn back things, her door to her bedroom, phone privileges etc.

I was going thru something similar with my 15 year old son. I posted it on here a bout 6 weeks ago. I looked into camps and even military school but I just dont have the money for that. I am a single mom and my ex has not paid in a few months. My daughter is 17 and she is a blessing! I too ask myself why? Why one and not both? They went to a christian camp for a week about 2 weeks ago and guess what??? He came back saying he was 'saved' - he has been a wonderful kid since then. I keep thinking he will go back but so far so good. He has cleaned his room and the garage without me asking!!! (this never ever happens) I am driving him to youth group meetings at the church each week and we all go to church together. It was the miracle I was praying for. I was at my wits end with him. I hope you find a way to reach your daughter. Did you try the school? I also took my son to an outside psychologist for a few sessions but he loves to talk to that was easy. if you have a child that does not like to talk it might be hard. Good luck and keep us posted!

Maybe there is something else going on in her life that you don't know about and this is her way of acting out. But maybe the bootcamp will get her to open up and of course show some respect to others. I have seen these bootcamps on television. The sargeants there are rough on these kids. Sometimes the kids that think they are so tough end oif crying and begging. But in the end they are usually changed.

Maybe I can't really say much here; my kids are still young (10 & 12). But I see a friend of mine go through what you are going through with her 2 teenage daughters and it floors me. Even now at close to 40; I would never speak to my father that way. I keep telling my girlfriend that if my daughter were to treat me like that she'd be finding somewhere else to live. Even now I tell my kids that they don't have to like me or my rules but they do have to respect both. If they can't show civility and respect then there's a problem. They are allowed to get upset but I hope to instill in them the proper way to deal with it and me when they are older. At least I'm going to keep my fingers crossed. If it doesn't work; there's always Gramma's house.

my 16 year old daughter also has a lot of attitude but has never gotten physical. i knew a mom who was actually beaten up by her daughter. she didnt press charges, but i sure would have. how else will she learn? do you have any other older women that she respects and could talk to her? we are fotunate that we go to church and have some friends that will do this with our daughter.

Hello, It is hard when one of your family member is doing this to you... especially you are the mother to them. It is totally hard. I have two girls too but they are still small, I try my best to make sure they are not doing this. I used to have a neighbor has this kind of kid... she screamed and called police on her mom and always came home late. Her mom had no choice, she sent her daughter to bootcamp in Nevada. her daughter was not behave good in the camp too... Now, I lost contact with the family, so i have no idea next. well, you should send her to some bootcamps for her or something... or call some other place that willing to help out about disable kid. If this happen to me, then I will send them back to my country... over there has nothing just like here and she will learn there... but I am praying everyday not to meet this situation.

Dear,you must treat her freindly & then give her psychic treatment,she needs it.

You need to find her some sort of bootcamp or thearpy. She needs to stop this behaviour and you really do have to nick it in the butt now or it will continue on and it might get worse. Look into any possible camps or thearpy out there and get her in as soon as you can. You shouldn't have to go day to day and worry about what is she going to do to me today. I wish you all the best but get her help as soon as you can.

marlena, i am sorry for your situation and understand how you might be feeling. but, i was thinking why your daughter must be behaving this way. there must be some reason. she would not act like that for no reason. try and think if you did not allow her to do something really important in her life. even though,it is not reason enough for her behavior,she is still only 15. also, see if you can be like a friend to her and spend some more time with her. i am sure things will be ok, sometimes teenagers do go though inner conflicts themselves. all the best to you.

i don't know much about parenting but i think this is just too disrespectful for a 15-year-old to curse on your face and push you twice... you need to reach to her, i think both of you should talk in a calm manner... tell her that what she is doing is wrong... i hope you'll get through this, just ask for god's guidance and act on what you need to settle with your daughter...

Have a read of one of the supernanny books. The techniques she espouses always seem to work.