My Boyfriend Dumped Me, What Should I Do Next?

United States
August 20, 2009 11:12am CST
You definite loved him, but now he is gone. He have left you for another girl, or just started that he needed time to think. Whatever his reason was, there is a good chance that it just didn't make sense to you. If your boyfriend dumped you, there is only one thing you can do about it, and that is to try everything you can to get him back. What is the next step to do?
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25 responses
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 Aug 09
I think the next step should be, just try to forget him . It is tough I know. But why should you beg to your BF who has dumped you? May be you deserve someone better . He was not worth you.
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@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
becoming a loner is the last thing u need right now. get busy. be with friends who can give u a positive look in ur life. be active...maybe into sports, movies or whatever u can do to keep u busy but do it with friends and family. as for family, we tend to seek for them as the last resort. yes. it's true, but family also happened to be the biggest comfort. what goes, comes around. it happens. stay happy.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
You are definitely right about that. A person in pain can derive the greatest comfort from family.
@malou17 (270)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
you have to move on.. it means that the guy is not deserving for you.. that the real guy for you is not yet there.. the better one.
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
there's no reason for dumping you, too bad, for him.am pretty sure either he lives with it or regrets it later.let him go and move on to something else if you like. maybe not easy at first but you'll get to it later on.
• United States
23 Jul 10
I feel powerless but your comment is powerful and I hope to live pass this
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
if you did everything just to get him back,and yet nothing happened. your next step is let go of him for the meantime.coz if he really loves you.he will comeback no matter what...
• United States
21 Aug 09
If your bf dumped you...and if he's WORTH trying to get him back..then go for it. Otherwise, move on...it may benefit you later. Everything happens for a reason.
@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
don't try to get him back.. try to move on..
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
21 Aug 09
There is no reason to get him back. I had boyfriends that left me but getting them back is not the way to go. If you get them back what have you really done. You should just thank them for making you a stronger person and go about your business.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
21 Aug 09
Hello, If he dumped you then you should move on, he might lost something that is very important in his life. You dont have to get him back, and Im sure there are many men that are better than him. Another thing you should change come attitude that he didn't like about you... change some bad to good and move on. One day, he will realized how much important you are. So, try a little bit at a time to forget him... go out with friends. I know you are better than him and he will desired what he did some day
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Be it another girl, or space needed, the thing that your bf dumped you is really painful. I can feel your pain because you said that you definitely loved him. It would not really make sense to you right now because you are in deep pain. You are in the phase wherein the pain has become so deep and so real that you have lost your focus. Do not control it. Allow yourself to feel the pain. In time you will come to accept your situation and you will eventually move on. Only you would know how long you are going to be in one stage. Try to talk to someone, it helps a lot when you unload all the pent up feelings inside you. Have support from family and friends. It is at this point in time that you will be needing them.
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
If your boyfriend dumped you, you should carry on. Its no use trying to woo him back. Its a waste of time because obviously he no longer loves you nor care about you. Why try to get him back? It won't change how he feels anyway.
@croamer (165)
• Taiwan
21 Aug 09
what gone is gone! so just forget him, don't worry time will heal all the wounds. maybe go to a short trip is better, then get prepare to start a new life.
@vj0007 (28)
• India
21 Aug 09
You loved him and he dumped you...Then he is most unlucky person in the world stop thinking about that jerk..you deserve more loving and trusting guy move on u will find Mr Perfect soon...So all you gals are who just been through this horrible experience just chill.... the good days are here...
@tintukm (1102)
• India
21 Aug 09
Love has be earned not granted first of all.Dumping a person means just giving no sort of respect to his/her moral value.If your bf has done so then verify two of yours problem.A guy whom you knew for years if doing so makes no sense,grab hold of him,on the other hand if he a new guy keep up to his disobedience and show him how you feel for his indecency.Solving a deep relation is better if you are a good wisher of his otherwise give no respect and move on with your upcoming lovely life.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
21 Aug 09
Id forget him. As much as it kills me, Im most deffinately not the person to fight for it back. Only if there were special instances and he had a good explanation to his actions. Aside from that, if he didnt care enough about me to attempt to make it work, why do I want to put my heart out on the table and try so hard to get back a man that just let me go like that? Now on the other hand, there are instances when they're absolutely worth it, like my boyfriend now, he liked me but didnt want to get in a relatinship right away because he just got out of one. I was patient, although it KILLED me, and even when what he did would hurt I tried to be there and show him that I was a girl hed love to be with. It sucked, and the whole process hurt like crazy because my heart was being tugged back in forth. Evetnually I got the guy and I was happy. But I know I probably wouldnt put myself through that for anyone else EVER. But there were instances where boyfriends and I have broken up and although the relatinshiup was good and we were close, I dont want to fight for a guy who gave up on me, when there are guys out there that one day would give me their world. FOrgettttt the loser.
• Nigeria
21 Aug 09
I know this is not a forum to ask about what really happened. I tried to be fair with people. It may be your fault and it may be his. Pls dont act negatively. You are a unique individual. Look deep into your life once more. Reshape certain things and move on.Dont forget the past mistake. Look before you leap. Be wise this time around
@Aylward (198)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Move on. he has just provent that he is not worthy of your love.
• China
21 Aug 09
Sorry, I'm afraid I can't agree to your idea. Personaly, I think it's meanless to try to get your ex-boyfriend back. There must be huge problems exist between two people who have to over their serious relationship.so base on that, even though you get him back successfully, everything has changed. In my opinion, sooner or later we should move on, since tomorrow is always better than yesterday.
• United States
21 Aug 09
Do you know, if he really loved you in the sence then he wouldn't have left you. He just loved you for time pass. So no need to think of him and all you need is you have to start a new life. Forget about the past and start a new life. Life has so many things to enjoy.
• China
21 Aug 09
now,it's a new chance for you. you will meet a good man, believe me. if i have a boyfriend like you boyfriend. first,i will try to get him back, but at last ,i failed,i will give up him . and i believe i will meet a good man later.