Why are they your best friend?
By lakerfanster
@lakerfanster (2577)
7 responses
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
i don't know why we say we're best mates, most likely cause we've known each other since birth 28 yrs ago. we don't talk often and live very different lives and not seen each other since 03, but we can still phone up and have a good chat or online.
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@lakerfanster (2577)
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10 Sep 09
It's always good to keep in touch. Out of the blue I phoned up a friend from Primary School a couple of years ago as I had always remembered his number and his mum gave me his phone number at Uni. He couldn't come to my birthday do but we had a long chat and he was really pleased to hear from me. I am now facebook friends with him and have also found many other old friends on Facebook.
@elenyae (388)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
My best friend is a absolutely whacko chick who is so different yet so similar to me! I don't know exactly when we reached "best friend" status, but we met about 6 years ago at the end of primary school. What the funny thing is, is that I used to be best friends (like kiddie best friends) with the girl who actually introduced us. And I hated her when I first met her because I thought we had nothing in common and she was annoying.
A couple of years down the track and I kinda realise that I always have fun with her and she shares a very similar value system (although...in a very different way) so yeah. I mean, we've had our fights the the greatest thing is that we've pulled through them and still remained friends (after 2 day sulking periods) which means that we both know that our friendship can suffer conflict and still bounce back in the end. In my opinion, that's what makes a good friendship - that it can be battered about by the winds of misfortune, but it will still come out of it intact and possibly stronger than ever. :)
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@lakerfanster (2577)
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10 Sep 09
Hi there, thanks for your comment.
I have been friends with my best friend for 12 years now and At 24 that's half my life. I would probably say that he was my best friend in Secondary School and all the way up till about 2003 when I became best friends with another friend who lived with my best friend for a few months this year. I used to spend loads of time with our friend Matthew and became best friends with him as at the time we had similar hours of work so we could meet up when our friend Michael was not able to.
I have been best friends again with Michael for nearly four years I'd say and although we have different music tastes we still have a lot in common and we have been to concerts together with the music we both do like. He helped me through a bad time with our friend Matthew when I had a falling out with him, things are fine now and I also have another very close friend who I have known for two years who loves the same music and films and his enthusiasm for me is clear to see.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
My best friend is my husband. We have been very happily married for almost 50 years.
We disagree on almost nothing, but in some ways we are opposites.
I am very organised and he isn't. I believe in "a place for everything and everything in its place" but he believes "near enough is good enough".
I am a workaholic who begrudges time wasted. I need very little sleep. He was a hard worker, but has always loved his bed and needs a lot of sleep. He can sit and do nothing, which would drive me insane.
Despite our differences, we have very few disagreements. We accept each other the way we are. Each of us complements what is lacking in the other, so together we make a complete, happy unit.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
March next year, and my hubby turns 80 in April, so a big year.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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10 Sep 09
That's really good to hear. Nearly 50 years of marriage? when's your 50th anniversary?
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Well my best friend is now my husband, he has always been there and been solid for me and I to him. We became friends before we got involved romantically. We both liked each other but it took him about a month to actually ask me out, but we would sit and talk for hours getting to know each other. We have always been able to talk which is what makes us so strong. My longest female friend who I have been friends with for about 26 years is just a wonderful person. Very sweet and never judgemental. It is hard not to like her.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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17 Sep 09
That's another good story to hear. It's always great to have a "best friend" or "best friends" as you really get so much out of the relationship. Like going out for the night is always much more fun when you have your best friends there and also when you are going through a tough time you need your friends to be there for you.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Well, I would have to say that my husband is my best friend. We share a life together, which means we share everything within that life. Even when we fight, we still are there for each other. We could be in the middle of a fight, and something might happen that one of us needs the others help, and we will be right there to help the other, even though we are still disagreeing about the original issue. True friendship does not mean that you have to agree on everything, but you do need to be there for each other.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Thanks. We are in it for the rest of our lives. We have a child together, so it helps us put things in perspective. I'm not saying that people with children can always work things out, but we can't be as selfish in saying "I'm right" or whatever, because it isn't just about us anymore. Besides, every relationship has some kind of disagreement, so it is just important to keep things in perspective and try to see the other side.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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20 Sep 09
Another nice post. Sounds like a great relationship. It's good that some people have that great thing between them and their partner everyone seems to talk about the divorce rate it's nice to hear about couples who can look beyond their arguments and get on together.
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hello my friend 
My best friend had been a big influence on my life, although we have lost touch, I talk about her all the time, ask about her, hoping she will pop up it never happens, she has guided me in the right direction throughout my younger years, i have never meet anyone like her since that is why she is my best friend, I love her and thank god for her, although she was much older than me, she took me under her wings, for that I am grateful, hard to find older people that will take youger people seriously enough to actually trust them they way she trusted me ,she taught me so much about life and what I should do to maintain a good life 
I miss her so much.
Thank you for asking this question, again talking about her will hopefully put me back in touch, I hope.
My best friend had been a big influence on my life, although we have lost touch, I talk about her all the time, ask about her, hoping she will pop up it never happens, she has guided me in the right direction throughout my younger years, i have never meet anyone like her since that is why she is my best friend, I love her and thank god for her, although she was much older than me, she took me under her wings, for that I am grateful, hard to find older people that will take youger people seriously enough to actually trust them they way she trusted me ,she taught me so much about life and what I should do to maintain a good life I miss her so much.
Thank you for asking this question, again talking about her will hopefully put me back in touch, I hope.@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hello my friend
Thank you so much, who knows with your help maybe this time it may happen 
its always good to befriend people of all ages you never know something simple you may say can actually change the course of their life, younger people seem to gravitate toward me, I feel it may have alot to do with the person I am as well as being influenced by an older person when I was younger, only difference these younger people are nothing like me, they are hard headed and don't seem to take advice very well, all I can say to that is thank god I am the person I am.
Thank you so much, who knows with your help maybe this time it may happen its always good to befriend people of all ages you never know something simple you may say can actually change the course of their life, younger people seem to gravitate toward me, I feel it may have alot to do with the person I am as well as being influenced by an older person when I was younger, only difference these younger people are nothing like me, they are hard headed and don't seem to take advice very well, all I can say to that is thank god I am the person I am.@lakerfanster (2577)
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10 Sep 09
It's good that you have friends different ages to you. I have a few friends who are 5 or 6 years younger than me and a few who I have worked with who are a couple of years older than me. It's great to meet new people from different backgrounds.
Oh and I hope you get back in touch with her soon.
@celticrogue (450)
• United States
11 Sep 09
My best friend shares many interests with me, along with some interests that I don't care about. She is highly independent, and has always told me that I am in her life because she WANTS me there not because she needs me to be there. I can be who I am and she can be who she is and we love each other for it. We have been together for 27 and 1/2 years now. And married for 23 years. Yup, my best friend is my wife. And I am the luckiest man on earth!
