Would you date your best friends ex?
By Sheri
@tuckersheri (1327)
United States
September 14, 2009 9:30pm CST
To date your best friends ex is wrong. If you care anything about your best friend you would not do it. This has alot to do with respect to your best friend. Dating your best friends ex is disrespectful and could cause issues with your best friend. If you are a true friend and not have trust issues I would recommend not crossing your boundries by dating your best friends ex. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. In my mind I feel that it is not right and could cause alot of hurt feelings and cost a good friendship.
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
15 Sep 09
I've heard that before, and it seems to be a universal rule, but I've never understood it. Why in the world should their be trust issues in dating the ex of your best friend? If they're no longer involved with each other, doesn't it mean they have no claim on the person and no right to act like they have one? I'm not in the situation, but I don't believe I would feel betrayed if my best friend dated my ex. In fact, I'd feel kind of childish and selfish, like I was saying even though I had no use for the toy, I still don't want my friend to have it. And, if I was the ex in the equation, I would feel that anyone who isn't currently dating me has no business telling someone else who I can't date.
I know people will disagree, but that rule will never make sense to me. As an ex, a person gets no say and no vote in who their former partner dates.
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Man I wish you could edit posts, instead of having to start a new comment every time you think of something. But, could someone explain why they think it's wrong? It's so accepted that it's wrong, that no one will say why, just that it's a betrayal and breaking a trust. How does it betray someone to date a completely free person? And, if they aren't free, they aren't an ex. And, what trust is being broken exactly? I'm serious I really would like to understand why something that I don't get seems to make sense to other people.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
16 Sep 09
hi tuckersheri,
Well i have set my eyes on a guy who was ex of a close friend of mine though i wont call her my best friend. The guy is really superb and the girl never ever valued that guy. I would give my arm to be in his arms. so i am trying my best. So i think this answers your question. He is her ex now, and if she is so worried about him that none else should get him then she should have valued him when she had him. And some girl has to get him and if it is me whats wrong in this when my friend is no longer involved with him.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 09
Just like your best friend's brother, her ex is a no too. Avoid it if possible. We don't know our real destiny and we might end up dating him in the future but at least we should try our best not to. I mean, I was there when she broke up with him and comforting her and all. But if I date him, it's a betrayal to her.
