What is goin on?

November 5, 2009 12:02am CST
Have you ever gone through something so traumatic, having discussed it again, you are awake all night? I have shared something, with someone tonight, i thought i had gotten over, but all the old feelings of sheer anger and despair, have kicked right back in. I cannot sleep, so might as well stay up, see my kids off to school, then try to sleep after that. Have you ever had anything so bad, it messes up your life?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Nov 09
Yes Forest I have and I still have Nightmares about it even if I have not talked about it So I know how you feel Just make sure you get some sort of rest today
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Nov 09
I am getting there slowly I am ok I hope you got some rest though after that sleepless night
12 Nov 09
Hi gabs, sorry to hear that too, so many of us seem to have suffered something major in our lives. I hope you find peace hun, and thankyou...x
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@steffi30 (105)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I believe everyone probably has things that mess up thier life. I won't go into her but I've had that experience and it almost ended my life. Discussing helps me not hurts me but I don't like to discuss it
@steffi30 (105)
• United States
26 Nov 09
Thank you. I've come along way from where I was at the beginning but there's still days when things are hard. Some things you never really get over. You just learn to work around them.
12 Nov 09
Hi stef, So sorry you have suffered something so bad as well, my experience also nearly ended my life, i am lucky to be around. Talking does help, it releases the stress, i hope you also find some peace from whatever happened to you.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I've had some pretty bad experiences as I think we all have. Yes, sometimes something can happen to trigger all the old emotions again but not usually as strong as when it first happened. I can't honestly say that I could look at anything that has messed up my life for any length of time. I don't have a lot of trouble brushing off and moving on from things. Knock on wood, it could be that I just have been lucky enough to not have experienced anything traumatic enough to have that affect on me. I hope that you are able to find a way to get beyond whatever it is that is stealing your sleep from you.
12 Nov 09
Thankyou sid, It was extremely traumatic for me, was a really bad time, and it effected me very badly. I thought i had dealt with it, but the feelings keep rushing back, now and again, but i am sure it will eventually fade away. I have to try for my own sake, but it was a massive injustice to me, and i still carry a lot of anger, and resentment inside.....which i know is not good for me, but my family helped me through it, they knew how much i was affected by what happened, it made me ill, really ill, for a while, so it is going to take time for me to forgive and forget i think. Thanks..
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
5 Nov 09
Oh yes, I get upset to the point of sleeplessness when I think of the events leading up to my divorce. He filed, not me. I didn't have the presence of mind nor the self esteem to do so but thank God I finally woke up and stood up for myself and got a good lawyer. Since it's early in my day, I can write briefly about it and be okay by bedtime--I hope! It's better now because I've let a lot of things go and forgiven some things. But yes, things can really mess you up! You have to face all that anger and deal with it before those things will go away. I found out a lot of ugly things about myself when finally I faced my anger and sorrow, but I'm better for it. So quit letting it mess up your life--face it, fight it, confront your issues and lay them to rest in peace.
12 Nov 09
Thanks so much, and i am so pleased you found peace eventually. Thankyou.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Nov 09
forestgold hi yes and its still painful to talk about, we are still homeless but I am here in Gold Crest and my son is in gov. sponsored housing in a nearby town still out of wo rk and looking for work. yes being homeless was a nightmare, being here in this retirement center is better but its not home by any means.so yes anger, despair, fear, then courage and hope and looking forward to better times.It was very traumatic and I wept a lot the first week I was here. now its okay but, well just leave it at that. okay.
12 Nov 09
Hi Hatley. So sorry hun, i hope things do get better for you, and really soon. That is a lot to deal with, must be very stressful. So sorry, and i wish you all the very best for your future x
• United States
5 Nov 09
Yes I have had several bad experiences that haunt me now and then.The latest one put me in a serve depression and really messed with my head and made me isolate myself from friends the thing is there are things beyond are control that happen and we are powerless at the time but you have to push through the darkness to get back into the lightt.The thing I learned is there are things you never get over,you just have to learn to live with it,accept that and it gets easier.I am finding out that you can't let it consume you or you are lost I have been there and it is a lonely and dark place.Writing it in a journal,expressing it acknowledging it will help you heal feel what you have to feel and let it turn to something else..something positive i hope this helps.This like all things will pass just don't give in.xxxx
5 Nov 09
Hi Lia, I know you have had some tough times to deal with lately, and i hope you are doing ok now hun. I think maybe all of us have things that happen, and can come back to haunt us, but you are right, we must try not to dwell on it. Thanks hun...
• United States
5 Nov 09
I am doing fine now.I hope you are too.xxxx
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Nov 09
I have, things that you have put in the back of your mind, so you can move on. I hope you can get a little sleep after you get the kids to school.
5 Nov 09
Hi Thoroughrob, that is very good advice, and you are right, i am hurting nobody but myself, dwelling on this thing. I grabbed a bit of sleep, i annoy myself for letting it get me down this much, so i really must now lay it to rest. life can be a b*tch sometimes, and i need to try to forget the incident, for my own sake. Thankyou.
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
I can relate to you. First of all I am not a bad person but if a situation requires for myself to fight physically I do it. It happen to me and my neighbors before. I don't care if this sounds juvenile and ridiculous, but the thing is I don't want other people mess with my life because I will mess with their life too, hard. There were so many incident like these before. And when I started to share the story with my friends even just to have something to share, the feelings come bac and its hard to erase. Even if I try to be busy I still remember the feeling I had there . I became angry, it will takes a week before the feeling is gone.
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
5 Nov 09
[b]Often, actually. The best thing, though, is always to pray for peace & move on. It may not happen overnight, but it will happen. I hope you find inner peace, dear. Maggiepie A TRAITOR DESERVES TO BE IMPEACHED[/b]
5 Nov 09
thankyou maggie, It was a major deal to me, and i have tried to put it behind me, but it is something that comes back to haunt me....just occassionally, but i am now going to try and lay it to rest, once and for all, i feel bitter, and that is not good for me. Thanks for your lovely responce.
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• Philippines
5 Nov 09
hello forestgold, yeah, it was this last friday. unfortunately since it was so traumatic, i prefer not to discuss it. i did wrote that discussion in a pad paper because i was in the cemetery at that time, but since i am not that frustrated anymore i decided not to put it in the discussion. well, that night was my last day so, there's no need to pro-long the agony
5 Nov 09
Thankyou for the response, i am not sure i understand but i hope all is ok for you now. x