Do you always listen when someone is talking?

Philippines
November 5, 2009 10:28pm CST
Sometimes when I'm talking with a group of friends and someone's talking and I'm not really interested with what she said I often caught my self thinking of something else and not listening at all. Or when I'm in a seminar and the speaker is quite boring, I often entertained myself by writing anything on my paper than listening to the speaker. How about you, how often you listen to someone when who's speaking?
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24 responses
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I do listen when it is interesting talk and i do pretend to listen to even the person talk non-sense just out of respect. Because it is insulting to talk when the other lost its focus or reply with a statement that never answer your questions. It only mean the mind of the person is not focus to absorb the talk and her span of attention is diverted most of the times.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Truly..truly..and it is very annoying experience talking and the the other person seem to dry and not quite in focus in replying your question then suddenly make an alibi to go or reason out that he have other important things to attend. Then, most listener I think are interested to listen to a speaker who have a good diction,grammar and entirely, a charismatic speaker who know to arouse the interest of its audience introducing a balance between serious and humor topics which appeal more in general public. Have a great day!
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Yeah, it absolutely hurt someone who's talking and you're not listening. It makes him/her appear stupid and it degraded on his/her part. But it's not that bad when you really can't help not to listen intently to the speaker, it's not just your fault but to the one who speaks. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Sometimes i listen if there's someone talking. but it depends if he/she talk about important things. i dont listen if he/she talk bad things and planning crimes.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Well in that case, if someone talk bad things or planning crimes, I think it is better to listen to that person as you could do something to prevent that person from doing so, well that's what I think. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@diyphone (29)
• China
6 Nov 09
it is important to be a good listener when your friends want to say something,especially when friends want to give vent to his anger or happiness,
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Yeah, it is very important to have the ability and compassion to listen to someone especially if it's your close friends or family. By just being there listening to their grievances and pain you already solved half of their problem and you did make them felt better. I always give my best to listen to someone. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Sometimes I can't avoid to listen to some other conversations because I'm nearby and I can hear them talking. I'm not interested if they are talking about gossips I'm not interested to involved to it. If I'm going to attend in seminar or lecture I tried to listen but sometimes I get bored when the speaking is too boring.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Sometimes I listen to some gossip as to be part of the group, but I didn't share anything of what I've known as it only gives trouble to the person involved. When it comes to seminar or lectures, when the speaker don't know how to motivate and add some humor to his/her discussions then most of the time I end up writing on my paper and pretend to listened. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I always do my best to listen to someone when they are talking. When someone takes the time to confide in you, it is rude to not be receptive to them. It may be the moment that you don't listen that something important will not be heard.
• United States
6 Nov 09
i love the way you put that. it couldn't have been said better if i may say so myself. everybody needs somebody.
• Netherlands
6 Nov 09
Concentration is a hard thing. People will always touch on topics which you may think are interesting and also the complete opposite being topics which are not so interesting. Also, some people take a rather long time to spit out what they mean they would like to say. People thus never listen to everything when someone is talking. It has been scientifically proven that a person can not concentrate for more than 45 minutes at a time, so this is rather common. One thing is for sure though, the better a listener you are the more broad your perspective will be on other fronts. Listening is also having attention to detail which is also extremely important. If you improve your listening, starting with listening to everything other peole have to say, you will learn something and also your attention span will increase.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Thank you for sharing that very interesting information my friend. Actually I never know that a person can't concentrate for more than 45 minutes. I have a short span on concentrating and listening to other people. Well I'm not a good listener I think. And in your advice I will try, you're right having the ability to listen gives you a benefit of knowledge and wisdom. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
LOL. Same here, it depends who's talking, but in my case it's different. If the one talking is a friend then I will listen even though how boring it is, because I myself want them to listen to me when I'm talking. In cases like a teacher discusses or in seminars, most of the time I don't listen, I'll just be texting or draw anything that I think in a notebook or paper. LOL.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
LOL, well we're mostly like the same on some instances. When it comes to friends, I appear to listen but mostly my mind is drifting to other place. I just let my friend talk and talk 'til he/she got tired and fall asleep.LOL Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
7 Nov 09
well I am preety not much of a talker but yes, I do listen more to people but only if the topic of discussion interests me.I am working in a company and there are few people who simply just love to talk and gossip about their fellow colleagues or husbands or friends etc, this kind of topics,I find it useless.But, yes, if there is someone who needs a shoulder to cry on and I feel like he or she needs to talk then yes, I do listen to them patiently.But of course, if its a boring seminar or lecture, just like you, I would either entertain myself writing anything on my note book or let my mind wonder somewhere else.
• India
9 Nov 09
Yes,i always listen first then talk when someone is talking to me.
@kunizzul (1066)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 09
well i always gives some attention to other people when they talking unless i hate what they says.
• United States
6 Nov 09
I work with a couple of ladies that talk non stop and it is always about themselves!!! After a few months of working with them I have gotten to the point that I pretty much just tune the whole conversation out and nod my head a few times and so far it has worked.. I just start thinking about things that I need to get done and hope that some thing comes along so I can leave without just walking out!! Most of the time with anyone else I try to listen to the conversation no matter how boring it may be.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Oh, you're job must be quite interesting. And working on listening with people all the time is quite tough. As for me, it's hard not to able to talk while working. I need to release what I feel through talking. You must have loads of patience. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the week!
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
yeah i listen when somebody is talking in front of me, but sometimes when i am not in my mind or sometimes when i am not in the mood of listening, i just shift the topics to get to a more interesting topic.
• Canada
6 Nov 09
o goodness no! I try, I really do but it's really quite hard at some times.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Yeah, it can be really hard sometimes even though you want to concentrate and focus to the one who speak. But it hard to listen all the time. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
18 Nov 09
i always listen when someone is talking to me and I always give my opinion regarding their feelings...But being a listener I have to wait for my turn to talk.. I never tend to interrupt when someone is talking because it's a way of respecting him/her...
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Nov 09
i try my best to listen when people is talking to me... but it really depends on my mood... i might not be able to do it all the time... i think it is just a matter of showing some respect to the speaker... i wouldn't like people to not listening to me when i am talking... so i make sure that i don't do that to other people as well... take care and have a nice day...
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
6 Nov 09
if i know what something or someone is all about when it comes to something and i don't agree than i don't listen. its some of the same old things.
• United States
6 Nov 09
To be a good listener, with our friends, and family, is a wonderful trait. It clearly shows that we are interested in others, in what they do and say. When we are not, it can reflect us as being very self centered, and only concerned with ourselves....and when we want someone to listen to us, we shouldn't expect them to be there for us. However, when attending a seminar or an event that requires someone to get up and speak, it is often hard to keep focused on them, if they are quite boring. That's when I doodle on paper, and listen at the same time...lol...it helps to let time go by fast.
@coolsudan (313)
• India
6 Nov 09
i am a good listener . thats the reasong a spend a lot time listening and teking advice from others than giving it myself . i thaught that this was a good habbit and that u should be a good listener but i have come to notice that if u have to get in the spotlight u have to speak more and after listening to all these years i have rather lost my confidence in that . there are so many better speakers , i rather listen to them all than to give my usual "everybody knows it" type of comment.i am changing a lot and i think i can change my habbit of keeping quite but the listening part wont change i guess . its a manufacture defect hehehe
• United States
6 Nov 09
It depends on how tired i am, and if what they are saying interests me or not.
• United States
6 Nov 09
well i'm always up for learning something new. you can learn a lot from people if you listen. i have a tendency to react like that when someone is lying and i know their lying. i don't have a high tolerance for a person that lies bad. but when someone is speaking that i know i can learn something from i tend to listen. some people do have a short attention span and in reality they can't help it. or you may have a social disorder of some type. i'm not good in crowds but if i'm around my friends and family i'm all ears and full of conversation myself. i have to be interested in the person for me to be interested in their conversation.