How do you meet people to date when you move to a new city?
By pviles2
@pviles2 (1)
United States
December 2, 2009 10:08pm CST
I've just moved to Austin Texas (for work) and I don't know anyone here. I haven't had a date in almost 2 months. In the past, I'd always met my girlfriends through my friends, but I don't really have any friends yet here... just a bunch of boring people I work with.
Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this before? I found a blog ( http://www.austindatingscene.com ) that explains how I'm feeling. Meeting people sucks!
Has anyone ever met anyone online with a dating service or anything? Did it work out well for you? Can you meet high quality people on there?
2 responses
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I've moved to several cities, but it's really hard to make new friends! Luckily, I think Austin is one of the more friendly places. Are you in a profession? I've always met people through work or professional networking activities. I've also found that joining community service organizations is a great way to do things. You tend to bond with people when you're all weeding a garden at a park or serving soup to the homeless. Church is another option (that my mom always pushes), but I haven't had much luck there. Probably because I don't go enough or really give it a chance. Just be patient and as outgoing as possible. I promise you that there are a LOT of people out there feeling just like you and would welcome a smile or a conversation from a stranger. Good luck, and be patient. Within time, you will make friends - but you have to put effort into it. It won't happen if you stay inside your house all the time and never interact with people. One other thought, Austin is a great place to join outdoorsy clubs, if that's your thing. And it also has tons of live music events. Both of those are good ways to meet people as well.
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
3 Dec 09
One more thought I had. Don't feel like you have to meet tons and tons of people. I've found that it just takes one or two - then you get to benefit from all of their friends. Hopefully that'll make it a little less overwhelming.
@GaryJoule (211)
• China
4 Dec 09
"...but you have to put effort into it. It won't happen if you stay inside your house all the time and never interact with people..."
Good point. Agree with you totally.
These months I've wasted a lot of time inside house and got bored day by day.
I'll follow your advice to go out, thank you.
@lynkshadow (299)
• Canada
4 Dec 09
Dating at work is not cool. Especially if they are boring. lol. There are sites online that are called meetup sites. They have them for most cities. You can join groups that have similar interests like over 30, travellers, whatever you most like to do. Have you tried online dating like plentyofish or eharmony? You can specify that you are looking for people in your area. Happy hunting!
