Is flirting a skill to learn?
@roger_nautilus (335)
Philippines
December 10, 2009 9:17pm CST
I was just wondering, some people are realy good at it. well, can you give some techniques that would really work?
5 responses
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
I think it's more like charisma than a skill. I'm pretty sure a lot of things can be learned and then executed, but in order to actually invoke a response from the person you're flirting with, you have to have the X Factor (and that depends on each person differently!).
If there was one technique that I think is crucial and very effective, it's the simplest and yet the toughest one to commit to: make eye contact. Your eyes would show your interest on a person.
Good luck!
@roger_nautilus (335)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
well, actually eye contact does work for someone. But whenever I'm already in front of this girl, it seems that I can't even look at her in the eye. I mean, it's not that I'm shy or whatever. Do you think flirt in the text messages would work?
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Sending SMS or "text messages actually does work for a lot of girls. That's because you make it a point that they are reminded of you through out the day. Also, girls are pretty much addicted to attention :D
If it's just flirting your after, sure text messages might get you somewhere. But it won't get you as far as real, honest to goodness conversations over a cup of coffee or pizza!
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
11 Jan 10
Flirting is a skill and style. You can learn it, and in the process you develop your self confidence.
You want some hints. Eye Contact. Test the waters. Start small, with a wink and smile. As for flirting through texts, that is a waste of time, if you want to develop a relationship with a girl, you need to talk face to face. If you just want to fool around, make the texts extra dirty.
Cheers.
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
27 Dec 09
I think it is a skill to be learned.some people are just good at flirting.they are natural in it.other have to learn it.I am not really a good flirt myself.I can't flirt because I am scared that whoever I am flirting with will not respond.I prefer being flirted with rather than do the flirting.
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think it's a skill. I've heard lots of tips on how to flirt and they lead me to feel it's something that can be practiced and mastered.
But it you really like someone, and you relax around them (no sweat right? lol) I think what naturally happens is you start to flirt with them. You start to complement them and stuff. The tone of your voice changes, your facial expression lightens up. Like when your talking to an adorable baby or kitty. lol
So I guess that means either:
Some people practice a lot OR
Some people can be calm and open around crushes.
