My Christmas wish
By Debs_place
@Debs_place (10520)
United States
December 22, 2009 5:15pm CST
My house needs repairs; my washing machine, dryer and stove are all over 20 years old. My boiler is a wreck. My windows might as well be plastic bags.
But I don't want anything for me this year. I want a bicycle for my husband for Christmas. You see last year, his son was killed by a hit and run driver. He was a fine, young man who was in the Air Force. He was on his bicycle in Wichita Falls, Texas when he got hit.
He was left in the road to die.
Every day my husband looks on the Wichita Falls newspaper website in hopes that they found the person who killed his son, he found out this past summer that they have a 100 mile bike ride that he wants to ride in to bring attention that no one was arrested in the death of his son. He got his old mountain bike out of the garage and started training on it. I think the riding and the goal to do this was helping him heal. A few weeks ago, the bike died. And now with another Christmas without his son, he seems to be getting sadder and sadder.
My CHristmas wish for him to get a bike so he can continue to heal and get to Wichita Falls.
What is your Christmas wish?
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17 responses
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Dec 09
Hiya Debs,
My one wish above all others would be to see all Families reunited just for one Day one measly Day and all the Homeless seeing themselves rehoused with dignity which is something they lost along the way most of them through no fault of their own.
This would be my wish. I know it´s a double wish it´s two wishes in one.
Hope all your wishes come true. Really sorry to hear about your Son and your Husband.
We have passed through a similar thing and my Husband still grieves many years on.
But apart from that I hope your Husband heals too heres to that coming true.
My problems are very insignificant compared to what I´m reading here.
I feel for you both.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Thank you! As I said above, I wonder what it means when we want so much for others and nothing for ourselves.
As for the homeless, it is often through no fault of their own that they are like that. We live in a tough world. My husband and myself at one time both had good jobs. We were downsized (what a polite way of saying we got screwed), I had almost 25 years into the company and he had over 20 years. Now, our total salaries with OT are less than I was making when I got downsized. We could not afford to move, but with less than 1/2 the income we still have the same mortgage and taxes. We are just weeks away from homeless as well. Our savings are gone, we live paycheck to paycheck.
I don't know what happened in your life but give your husband lots of hugs, it is what I do and it is all I can do!
Thanks and Merry Christmas
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Dec 09
That is a beautiful and giving Christmas Wish and I hope that you can get a bicycle for your husband, or if not you can find a way to have people pitch in for one for him. It's very sad that his son was killed, and I am truly sorry for him... With Christmases passing without his son, he's sure to be more upset, and without knowing the killer, he has no justice, no closure.
I lost my brother two years ago, but I couldn't fathom the loss of a son or daughter.
My Christmas wish, well I haven't really got one. Other then peace of earth, I can't think of one, maybe that justice be served to all who need it!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
22 Dec 09
IT is amazing how at sometime in our lives we want less for ourselves and more for others.
Merry Christmas and Thank You!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 09
Wow, has it really been a whole year since that horrific and appalling incident my dear friend? I do remember well your discussion about it. I hope you get your Christmas wish, life can be so cruel at times and we need to cling to happiness and hope as well as being strong in faith. My Christmas wish would be a miracle I would wish that my mum regains her health, it is upsetting to see her suffer every day, she still manages to put a brave face when all others would have given up or dispaired, I know I certainly couldn't cope with what she has to cope with, taking umpteen pills every day to keep her alive, an ulcerated foot as well as being deaf in one ear and having my father, she deserves a medal, but I would love for a miracle. I do sometimes despair at what life we are given my friend, but may I take this opportunity to thank you for your friendship and wish you happiness. Wolfie hugs x
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Dec 09
Hiya wolfie,
Where have yer been? I hope that your Mum regains her health too I´m sure she deserves a Medal.
Have yourself a great Christmas over there in merry old England I miss England terribly.
Hugs Sue.xxx
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Wolfie, I hope your Mom gets better. It is amazing how much we as humans can take both mentally and physically. I too am deaf in one ear, and that becomes minor compares to the other things in our lives that can go wrong.
I did suggest to everyone that they buy him a gift certificate from the local bike shop but he has lost 75 pounds and his Mom just wants to get him new clothing. She just does not get what is important to him.
I am getting him a gift certificate from the bike shop for Christmas. I am getting the same for my son who want to ride in the bike ride with my husband in support of him. (And they say that children of divorce are screwed up and blended families don't work!)
Have a Merry CHristmas and Thank you.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
oh gosh hon this news is so sad, I wish I could help financially but my son and law just lost his job, and he has a wife, 4 kids and the 5th on the way. I never have any money to spare, when I was much younger I used to help out every one I could. Now people help me.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Winterose..thanks, I know what you mean. A few years ago my husband and I were employed in a different industry, now our salaries together are less than I was making. Our savings and reitrements are gone just trying to stay afloat.
I feel awful for your SIL that is a big burden he has to bear. I hope he finds a job. The economy is tough.
Thanks and Merry Christmas to you.
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@AmbiePam (85992)
• United States
22 Dec 09
That my heart won't break reading this post. Man, that is awful! I remember last year, but of course as time goes on I forget a lot of what I read on mylot. And talking about his bike...I tell ya, if I had any money at all, I'd send some towards his getting a new bike. I am SO sorry!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Thanks, I appreciate the thought.
But what is your wish?
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Dec 09
3 hours is quite a trip. Can't you go one day and then spend the night??
My Mom and sister and brothers etc are about 350 miles away and it will not happen this Christmas. I know how you feel about being without them on Christmas.
@hisxshorty (124)
• United States
23 Dec 09
My only Christmas wish this year is to be truly happy. I've been struggling with emotional battles this past year and it's like I just can't find what makes me truly happy. My biggest wreck involves my family. & its true when they say "the one you love the most hurt you the deepest". This Christmas I just want to find my well-being and just be truly happy. I want to wake up every morning & just want to smile. This is my only wish this year.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Thank you. It sounds like you are struggling with depression. My husband is as well, I can see it in his eyes. It is hard to be happy and I wish you the best.
Thanks for your wishes and I hope you find happiness.
Merry Christmas
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I hope you get your wish. It is very thoughtful of you. My sister was killed in an automobile accident when she was 19. It was so hard for my parents to pick up and keep going. I pray that he can find peace and they finally catch the person that killed him.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I hope your parents are doing better now though I realize it is a pain that will never really go away. At this point, I think it will have to be up to killer to turn themselves into the police. Though I hope my husband is never alone in the room with that person for their sake.
As he has said...when they hit his son, it was an accident. WHen the left him lying on the road, it became murder!
Thanks and have a Merry Christmas
@GardenGerty (157907)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Deb, I really have no wish, or maybe my wish is just to be clear headed about a decision I am trying to make. I do hope, with all my heart, that somewhere you husband will get a bike.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Dec 09
My wish for you is that you make the right decision. Good Luck in that. And thanks for hoping I get my wish. As time moves on, I will keep you all informed.
Thanks and have a Merry Christmas.
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
23 Dec 09
What a lovely discussion. You have bought tears to my eyes, Debs. Your husband is a great man, and you have every right to be proud of him, and by chance if he sees this discussion, I certainly think he will be proud of you. I hope they catch the hit and run driver. I am not a Christian, but if I have a wish, I hope your wish is granted.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Thank you at every level. It is because of people like you that recognize and respect other people's beliefs that the world will become a better place.
I hope you have a wish. Because i would love for my husband to have a bike and more than that I would love to see justice for the killer of that young man. Another thing that bothers me is that this person killed, they could do it again.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
i wish for peace throughout the world, my hubby to find a job and my health to get better. i also wish for suffering to be a thing of the past. my dad passed away early this year and my hubbys aunt is dying of lou gerhigs disease. christmas is not always a happy ocassion.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Here's hoping you get your Christmas wish and your husband can get that bike. How about placing your wish on that Wish Upon A Hero website? People have wishes all the time and post the there and often someone comes through to help out either by donating something they don't need anymore or by outright donations that one can set up through Paypal
My Christmas wish is just to have some of the negative things going on in my life right now resolved in my favor...no nothing dire, but have a lot of frustrating things going on in my life right now
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Pye, Thanks that is a great idea. I will have to check that out. If you have frustrations in your life, I hope they get worked out too. No one needs more frustration.
Thanks and have a merry Christmas.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hi Pye,
I was just coming over here to tell her the same thing. I'll never forget your post about this site and it's wonderful!
My only wish right now is for a decent job and I hope she gets the bike for sure!
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
23 Dec 09
As Pyewacket mentioned above, please try the "Wish Upon A Hero" website. They work miracles there and I hope you get your wish for your husband. If I lived by you I'd find one somewhere and give you your wish.
I'm very sorry to hear about his son, very sad indeed.
Hope all goes well and sending good thoughts your way for a warm and happy Christmas!
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Here is the website for you......www.wishuponahero.com.......I have no affiliation with this site.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
23 Dec 09
My wish is now yours. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, and to think that nothing has been done about it. I hope that you can get funds to get your hubby a new bike so he can at least have some solace.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Dec 09
One of the radio stations has a Christmas wish. I wrote to them but I am not holding my breath.
Thank you for contributing your wish.
I am giving my husband a gift card toward that new bike but it will not nearly cover it.
Thanks and Merry Christmas.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hey Deb~ I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's son. That
is truly a sad story. I think that is a really wonderful thing
that he is doing with the bike ride and I think that will be
a great gift that he will truly appreciate. That is such a
miserable way to lose a child. I lost my brother 22 years ago
and my Mom has never gotten over it. I hope you can get your
husband the bike and he can do that ride in honor of his son.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Well, I just went today and bought a gift certificate for my husband and another for my son who wants to ride the ride with my husband. My husband is my son's stepfather. My husband's younger son also wants to do the ride. This goes to show that the children of divorce and in blended families can care as much or even more than blood relatives.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
23 Dec 09
Since I am not a Christian, I dont have any personal wish but as per the true teachings of Jesus, I wish for peace and love in this plannet AND specially (that's why I am responding in fact) I wish a bike for your husband...if nothing else, the untiring zeal of a wronged parent to see justice done against the killers of his son, has to bear fruit, has to see the light of the day.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Bless your heart Deb, I think that your wish for Christmas is one of the most heartfelt wishes that I heard this year. I really hope that somehow your husband was able to get that bike for Christmas. Or perhaps in the New Year he will come across a bike. It really does sound like that is what he needs to get the closure that he desires.
As for me, my wish for Christmas this year was to be able to spend time with my entire family. Some of my dad's siblings are getting older and I don't know when or if I will have the opportunity to see them again. We were able to spend time with most of them, but not all of them. I would really like to see the entire family together once again.
@ladymetal80 (191)
• United States
23 Dec 09
My Christmas wish is that we have the money to fix everything that's wrong with our house. We have a propain stove, that has a busted line on it, so I can't use it, the Kerosene tank which I use to heat my house with has a hole in the line that sucks the kerosene into the house, and my water keeps freezing up. Asside from all that going wrong on the same day, I have 4 kids that live with me...I have to find gas money to take two of them one direction, and the othyer two the exact opposite direction, on the same day. I really am at my wits end with the whole thing, and my kids are celebrating Christmas late due to lack of money, oh, and one more lovely thing. I woke up sick as a dog this morning and have no money for medication. So, My Christmas wish for this year, Is that I will get everything fixed and have money to spare.
