it dont what she does men dont hit women
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
January 14, 2010 8:33am CST
the other night i found out my neice's husband had punched her in the back. at first i really wanted to jack him up, but i didnt i told i am going to approach as a friend and he needs to get help for his anger issues before he serouis hurt her or thier daughter. he did threat to kick the baby in the head a few nights ago.
then i approach him as her uncle and told him do it again or if he feels like it come and punch me and i would be her. but i will hit back.
he claims she smacked him with his cell cord and it hurt him, my thing was come on now yeah she shouldnt have done that but hurt him wuss.
my thing is men dont hit females and if it happens once it will again, if he do it again he will see the old me come out and i will get in his face and make him angery enough to swing on me and i will put him down.
whats funny he said well you do have a bad back and neck. i told i know how to hurt people and i can do it without feeling bad about it.
10 responses
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
14 Jan 10
he did threat to kick the baby in the head a few nights ago.
Yea know..as much as I DESPISE domestic violence..its that above statement that would scare me even more than him punching her in the back! THAT IS SCARY!! I think you and maybe a few select other close ppl need to sit down with your niece and have a very serious heart to heart talk with her because hitting her is bad enough but he THREATENED HER CHILD!!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
14 Jan 10
WOW so even his family is looking out for her..THATS huge and could be seriously beneficial if an intervention of sorts needs to be done...that whole threatening the little one though, man that would make me knock some teeth down some throats...I have ZERO tolerance for abuse of any kind but just the thought of someone threating my kids makes my skin crawl and my head spin..
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
14 Jan 10
yeah i told him i will make room in my house for her and the baby. and i know everyone else in the family would do the samething. and i told him next time i will not be nice about it at all.
they live with his parents and i dont think they know about it, but they told her if she breaks it off with him she can stay and he have to leave.
@tap0991 (2766)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Yea I have gfs and girls hit me but never hit them back. Just restrained them so they couldnt hit me again or if i deserved a few hits from them just took it.I mean they patty cake cant go on forever hahah.
IF this guy does it again and man threatening to kick the baby is really really messed up, I would start to one encourage your niece to learn some self defense and two I would go over there and just beat the heck out of that guy.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
14 Jan 10
oh yeah i told her in front of him if he dont get help to deal with his anger issues she needs to leave and she wont be out on the street. and the next time will be the last time and if he ever do anything to my great neice hes not going to like me anymore because i will hurt him.
but no one should hitting anyone for any reasons at all female or male. i broke up with a girl over this she kept hitting me so i was left her
thanks
@cokyjazz (429)
• Australia
15 Jan 10
I admire that you confronted him about it.I was in a relationship where i was hit and verbally abused for 6 years and everyone turned a blind eye to it..like it hadn't happened.Men like that need to be put in a situation where they are powerless and in fear of their life.It sounds like he had no sense of guilt at all. There is never a good reason to hit a woman.A real man would walk away if he got angry and come back later and talk it out.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
15 Jan 10
oh i am watching it with a close eye. his parents told my neice if they break up he have to move out not her and the baby.
since he knows that i know about it, he knows i am watching. i told him already if he feels like he needs to hit her or the baby come and hit me i will even let him tie my hands behind my back and he will still get his butt whip too.
but he knows about my pass and how i used to be, used to love to hurt people specaily those who hurt my family
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
14 Jan 10
The thing I've seen in abusive men is that they get more angry and violent when a family member intervenes. It's almost as though they want to show the world whose boss. These people do need help and unfortunately the same aggressive behavior they show doesn't go down well with them when others show it back. If possible you need to take his hand and personally take him to a therapist. He won't do it on his own and neither will your neice push him towards it. Avoid getting into heated arguments with him and be gentle. He is ill and the only person who knows that is you.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
16 Jan 10
For a woman to leave a marriage is very difficult. It doesn't matter what's happening in the marriage she somehow does not get the courage to do so. Have you spoken to your niece? What are her thoughts and attitude? DO you feel she wants to stay but have him get help and become better? If so, she won't be the person to take him to therapy. For all we know she herself might be too scared to suggest such a thing to her husband. It has to be someone else. Someone the husband either respects or has a tendency to listen to. Or someone who enforces it on him like the law. At the end he needs help whether or not your niece stays with him. He should not be left as is to continue to harm.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 10
Scary 
why can't we live in peace where there is no people hurting each other .... but it's never been right that man deserves to hit the women especially the babies
in every excuse, it never been right, how can people have the heart to be that rude 
why can't we live in peace where there is no people hurting each other .... but it's never been right that man deserves to hit the women especially the babies in every excuse, it never been right, how can people have the heart to be that rude 
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
that would be so hurt to see your niece being hurt so badly with repetitive abuses their is a need to intervene or at least call an authorities to settle those disputes for becoming troublesome for both couples.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
You did the great job, yes men aren't suppose to hit women.
And as the uncle you have all the rights to protect your niece from being hurt physically.. just be very careful,he once threatened his own child, what more you.just be very careful friend..be vigilant. Good luck.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
14 Jan 10
I can understand that you want to protect your niece and her little baby, BUT, please be carefull. Normally in a situatuin like this, if any outsider, whether family or friends, start to interfere it will only make things worse. Believe me, if i could and i knew where to find him, he will get a hiding from a woman that he will never ever forget. I actually hate men who lift their hands to women. But to get back to this nasty problem. She has to leave him. I know, easier said than done. Next time and after that it will only get worse. If they feel that they should work this out, both of them, they should both go for counseling, as most men will not go alone. I really hope that this issue will be resolved, as so many go threw this.
