The neighbor's from downstairs is making me furious!

@cream97 (29087)
United States
March 12, 2010 11:09pm CST
Every time he hears the slightest noise, he will come and knock on our door. Or he will bump the ceiling very hard. I mean the bump is so hard that it scares me and my kids. When my two- year-old daughter was rocking in her seat, it was not a very loud noise, but to them it was. So someone from his apartment hit their ceiling very hard. I started to call the police on him because he is disturbing us. He does not need to hit the ceiling that hard. He should act more like an adult. There is nothing that we can do anymore. My husband and I both talked to this man about our apartment. It is not sound proof and we have no carpet on our floor at all. I know that he has spoken to the manager about the noise because he told us so. But, she has not said anything to us. This man is very annoying. If we have told him that we will do our best to keep the noise level down, then he should try to work around what irritates him. He is bothering us now. I mean we are allowed to have quiet time up until 8 p.m. And sometimes my kids can stay up a little longer. But, I will give them something to drink or a light snack to eat, so that they will go back to bed. It is very hard, because we are doing our best to stay very quiet, but it is hard when my kids want to move around. I can't confine them to a chair all day long, it would be impossible. I don't understand why this guy hits his ceiling so hard. He is making more noise than we are. I wished that you all could hear how loud he thumps the ceiling. It is just crazy! Should I call the police on him because the way that he is acting is just whacko!
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19 responses
• China
14 Mar 10
Like I said in your other thread, this man may have some mental issues, bring it up with your manager, he/she should be able to understand and may or may not be able to put a stop to the man's ruckus.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I'd go about my daily business and try and forget this "gentleman". Maybe you'll get lucky and the guy will move out.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Hey cream! I understand exactly what you are going through! I have a neighbor who is a psycho too! She lives diagnolly to me and I can hear everything SHE does and she is a nothing but a piece of trash w h o r e! I have put up with her crap for 30 years! Every tenant that has lived underneath her directly has had a problem with her and 4 tenants moved out because of her! She is the cause of alot of noise and she throws things and bothers everyone! She has a piano on the second floor, no carpet and the landlord says they can't do anything about it because she pays the rent! Bullsh1t! So I know what you mean when you talk about someone being an absolute whacko azzhole! She is the worst tenant ever! I have tried screaming at her when she is being a W h o r e and she doesn't even get embarrassed! She throws things on her floor which is my ceiling diaganol and my girlfriend who lives directly underneath her! She just is such a beotch! We have called the police and they won't do anything! In fact, they said they know her and know that she is a whack job and won't even respond to our calls about her! So, you think you have problems?
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Hi, Opal26. Sadly to say, yes, I feel that I have problems. I still have them. They won't be solved until I move out or this man and his family moves out one.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
13 Mar 10
I would jump on the floor everytime he hits the ceiling like that. Maybe that will make him stop. What is wrong with this guy? Doesn't he has a life or something. Damn idiot. I would lay on the manager's neck if i were you. No one can live like that, it is a disgrace to hear people behave like that. TATA.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi, saphrina. My husband suggested that I jump hard on the floor when he hits the ceiling very hard. That will show him to quit hitting the ceiling so hard. Two can play this game.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
13 Mar 10
I told you so. Now start jumping up and down and please make sure that you do it properly and don't forget to enjoy yourself. TATA.
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@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
14 Mar 10
That is incredibly annoying. The only thing you can do is draw it to the attention of management. This is exactly why I hate apartment living. Thank God He provided me a house so I will not ever have to deal with that again. In my first apartment, I had the most rude neighbor. She would bang on the ceiling in the wee hours of the morn and sometimes call the police on me for walking around my apartment in high heels. Mind you, I was sound asleep. On weekdays I went to bed around 9pm because I had to work in the morning. Of course no one did anything about it at all and the police advised ME to move. In another apt. building I lived in, there was a guy that would steal my laundry soap and once I forgot to get my clothes out of the washer. They were gone. Another apt building I lived in, there were gangs around and they vandalized all our cars. I feel your pain, and I hope that you can get into a different situation. If you have to live in an apartment, maybe find one that is only 1 floor so there is no one below or above you. I hope your living situation improves.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Hi, rosegardens. I am very sorry about your past living situation. That was mean for those people to do to you. I do hope that mines will get better sooner or later too.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Hi, rosegardens. I can applaud happily to this! May we have good neighbors from this day forth too!
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• United States
15 Mar 10
Some people are just mean and miserable so they take it out on others. It is a shame that anyone would have to go through what you or I have been through. May we all have happy and good neighbors from this day forth!
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• India
16 Mar 10
Hello we need to keep good relations with neighbors, because in emergency they are the first to help, but many neighbors are most inhuman and ill behaved, just by habit i think, when things become unbearable, it is better to contact police Bhuwan
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Hi, Professor2010. You are right about this. This is my last option, but I may have to just do this if he does not stop.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Sometimes there are people on this Earth that are so unhappy with themselves and life around them that they do not know how to be friendly and enjoy life. Even when the slightest thing happens they tend to always blame others. Personally this reminds me so much of why we Sold our Condo and now own a house. It can be quite frustrating when you have a neighbor creating a lot of havoc and no one can ever really do enough about it to stop them.
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@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
As far as I know this man just moved in right? So from the very start he should know that there are children above and it is very possible that they will make some noise. I would like to assume that your kids are not the type who would just run around and make very loud noises even if you keep on reminding them to be careful with the noise they emit. I'm beginning to feel irritated as well here. Now this is what you're suppose to do drop your chair as often as possible, walk like a giant, carry some sticks with you when you walk and hit the floor as hard as you can. In other words, make him crazy with your noise until he moves out. He's a real wacko. Add to your list an everynight dancing with your children and friends. Grrrrr. I hate him to.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 10
He's lucky I am not his neighbor. Me and my husband would definitely make him go crazy. As we have a new audio set up here huh he'll give up and move in the mountains.
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@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
11 Jun 10
I know a person who had the same problem, until her husband got tired of it. They had three children and a couple moved down stairs. The man would bang on the ceiling every time the children so much as laughed, finally the husband decided that he would fix the situation, he told the kids to scream every time the man did that, and when ever the man was really quiet in the middle of the night the husband turned his music up. The guy downstairs decided not to bang anymore so they cut out the excess noise, and the man downstairs found it was pretty quiet after all.
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@cybersoft01 (1284)
• India
13 Mar 10
Maybe this man bumps the ceiling and make the loud noise just to make you feel how irritating and disturbing a noise is when you are studying or doing some mental work. But this is not the way he should do it. He must accept the fact that if there are people around there has to be some noise. I have had a neighbor like you and they always complained whenever we watched TV and there was nothing we could do. Thank god they have already shifted!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi, cybersoft01 I just wished that this neighbor that is living under me will just shift too.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Yes someone needs to let him know how it is. Evidently he's someone who isn't used to the apartment environment and should be living somewhere on a secluded island or he's not used to kids. I can sort of understand his discomfort because I lived in some apartments for a bit underneath this couple with a small child who thought he had to stomp around the entire place at god forsaken hours and this is when my first child was just a baby and hard enough to get her to sleep. I wanted to go and tell these people off but I didn't. It took me time to get used to it and have patience with them.
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@allknowing (130518)
• India
13 Mar 10
How about telling him to sing the following lyrics for you. The only words he needs to change are up instead of down and above instead of below: hey girl whatcha doin down there dancing alone every night while I live right above you i can hear your music playin i can feel your body swayin one floor below me you don't even know me I love you chorus Oh my darlin knock three times on the ceiling if you want me mmmm twice on the pipe if the answer is no oh my sweetness means you'll meet me in the hallway oh twice on the pipe means you ain't gonna show if you look out your window tonight pulling the string with the note thats attached to my heart read how many times i saw you how in my silence i adored you and only in my dreams did that wall between us come apart..........
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi, allknowing. This is very funny! Ha! That would be a good and silly song to sing to him. He is very annoying.. Maybe this song will get him to shut up some.
• United States
14 Mar 10
This is what is called a form of harassment and it should be dealt with before it gets out of hand. Since talking to him has not worked, your next step is to write an official letter of cease and desist. Keep a copy for yourself, give one to him, and one to your landlord. Also, talk to your landlord on this matter. If the harassment continues after this, you can file for a restraining order on the man to keep him from bothering you. The man should know when kids are involved you can't lock them into a cage. They need freedom to play and to learn. And in apartment living arrangements, it's very hard to keep the noise level down until bed time. Besides, he's being hypocritical by banging that loudly on his ceiling.
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@vine88 (1031)
• India
13 Mar 10
Well, I read you and yours friends opinions. First of all, some days you just wait and see. How long he is going to do this? Let him do as long as he likes. Don't take tension/stress in your mind. If you take stress or tension in your mind, that is not good for you. You just relaxed. Just heard noise , you just smile upon idiot man. I think he is in tense, His mind is not okay. Let him be mad. Let him in stress. One day he will take a rest.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Hi, vine88. Yes. You have a point here. I will wait patiently to see how long he will take a rest too. Hopefully, it is not so soon. Because if so, he may end up losing his own mind.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Mar 10
It seems that talking in a civilised manner with this guy has not worked. I would try to talk to your manager first. I hope that the manager finds a solution. I would explain all this to the manager. Kids are not statues. Although noise level should be kept down as much as possible, kids are kids, they run and play. So acceptable noise should be tolerated if it is done during normal hours and not when its resting or night time. If things don't improve I would call definitely the police, that he is threatening you and making your life a misery!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Mar 10
cream97 I sure would call the police as you guys have done everything that was humanly possible.he sounds like a nut case to me. Since the manager has not said anything I would go ahead and call the police as he scared your child and you, and he is acting like a spoiled little brat to me. He should realize that children have to move a round as they are just little kids,not adults, and cannot stay quiet 24 hours a day. He must be really a bit wacky.We went through that with the lady from hell but the landlady was a right bit#h and made us leave.Do call the police he has to behave himself too.
• India
13 Mar 10
That's very sad that the old stupid brat is behaving like a wild donkey as if the only noise is been created by everyone else and he is not,he must be taught properly by the police department otherwise he will continue to do so what he is doing; and I am afraid you too will go through the same or bigger trauma what I am going through in a different way (My discussion "The darker side of Gardening....")presently for the last 3-4 or more months.(http://www.mylot.com/w/keywords/gardeninghttp://www.mylot.com/w/keywords/gardening) Its unfair to tied the kids to the chair or expect that the lower apartment will get changed or move out,Its better to speak for the last time to the person very gently even you can call him for a coffee and get friendly,if still he does not change his attitude then the call to the police is the last option that remains in your hand.
• Singapore
13 Mar 10
You haven't done anything wrong. If he prefers quiet environment, he might as well live in solitude far away than where is he living right now. Of course living in an apartment will mean that you will not have the quiet and serenity you would want to as there are people living below and above you. He is crazy doing those antics (hitting the ceiling) if he think you're noisy. He as well create a disturbance to you in return. I suggest you call the authorities to report and settle the matter. I pity the kids as they will not enjoy the freedom they should have if the man downstairs is more understandable than he is now.
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@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I had the same experience as you.. We were living in an apartment and we are upstairs.Our place is made of wood and every thing you do it will really make a sound. We were very young back them.My neighbors downstair doesn't really do like what the guy did. They would just slam us with a hammer if me and my sibling get really naughty and get all over the place.They understand us being children but if they feel everything get's out of hand they knock.
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