Why Do People Start Discussions And Then Not Reply To Responses
By snoopyfan
@snoopyfan (1312)
United States
March 14, 2010 10:47pm CST
Hey everyone I notice a lot of people start all kinds of discussions. I also notice that a lot of the times they don't go back and respond to the people who took the time to answer your discussion. I am on here many times and the first thing I do is always check my discussions to see if someone new has responded. I try my best to always give a response. I feel if people are going to take the time to answer then I also need to acknowledge that person for responding. I spend more time on other people's discussions then always trying to think of new ones. I feel it would be nice if you are going to start a discussion to keep up with it and at the least thank the person for responding to the discussion.
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27 responses
@celticeagle (161083)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Mar 10
If you read the guidelines it doesn't really say anywhere that you have to answer them all. Although it is the polite thing to do it is time consuming. Thanking the person for responding is definitely the nice way to go. I am just saying it doesn't really say in the guidelines that we have to answer every one.
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I am more going the polite route I know it doesn't say we have to respond. I guess why start a discussion if you aren't going to discuss anything with the other people.
AmbiePam- some are hard to respond to as well depending on the question and how much effort the person puts in the response.
@lhadie (32)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
At times, people post a topic out of things that is happening to them. I mean, something that they got confuse or they need opinions. I posted once, and the purpose of it is just to gather one's opinion, and to open myself for others point of view. Maybe, at the time she/he can log in back, is the time where the issue about that things is over. Then, there's no need to go back with again...=)
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I hear you and that is another great point. So far I am getting a lot of great points from people. Thanks for taking the time to share your views. I don't go back to far on my discussions maybe the last week just to see what is going on.
Peace
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Hi snoopyfan! I can only speak for myself so I will. I haven't replied back to my latest discussion because it's a bit painful. I know I should've but I'm not sure as to what to say when things are different now from what they were then and in doing the discussion, it helped me relieve some of the pain that I had endured and the responses that I received helped me to understand a wee bit more on my situation.
Now in other times, I've posted an update on my going ons and sometimes I get so busy with life that I can't get back and answer right away or at all. My friends understand but that's just my explanation.
Right now I'm just trying to get my head on straight and enjoy things as they are now and is why I'm not on here much as of late but, I haven't forgotten any of you dear friends though! 
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Yes life does get in the way. It is always good to see you my friend.
God Bless
@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I try to limit the number of discussions I start, because I know my internet time is so limited, and I like to give thorough and well-researched responses. I may not respond right away, but I do eventually respond.
I imagine others are like me, where they will eventually get around to it, as it benefits them, commission-wise.
Some people just post like 20 discussions a day thinking that will make them money. But they don't get rewarded if they don't actively participate.
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Right I noticed that some people will have 5 or more discussions a day. I also understand they may not get back to right that second. Like people may be on for a short time and have to work or like me I will be hitting the sack in a few minutes. But you check back I do the same thing. I may have to take off and I will check in later. I also try and keep a eye on them because a new person could come on and see it a week later. I have answered discussions that were a week old. If I don't see anything catching my eye on the home page I may look at my interests and see what is going on over there. I try not to start a lot of discussions only when they pop in my head or if I notice something that I need to get off my chest. I enjoy responding more that starting.
Thanks
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
My number one rule here in Mylot is to post a single discussion a day. AND that I make sure that I've replied to possibly all of those who have responded. Like you, snoopy, I do check in once in a while. Sometimes, I still can't come up with the right answer to those who have responded to my topic. But I make sure that I will come back and eventually answer back to all of them.
@pinklady227 (285)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
I don't always start a discussion mainly because i first make it a point to check whether there are responses to the discussions i posted. Then i try my best to reply to those who responded to my posts. Although i have not replied to all the responses, rest assured i have read all those who responded to my discussions. Happy mylotting!
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I know some people will get 50 responses so I am sure that is also hard to keep up with. Thanks for letting us know that everyone's posts gets read.
God Bless
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@pcserver (392)
•
15 Mar 10
Maybe because they do not have enough time. And there is also no need to reply sometimes. It is not always obligatory to reply to someone's response. Posting under another person's response should be for some reason, not only replying just to write something thoughtless. I hate comments like "Oh, you are right" or "Thank you" . They are pointless and primitive. If you have something vital to write, just do it. Don't spam, because the site gives you money for discussing. But that is not discussion. That is called flooding the discussion.
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I am not spamming I believe it is polite to say thank you when someone is taking the time to respond. I also don't do because I feel obligated. I find it rude when someone is asking advice and they can't even take the time to respond to what was said. Again it is called a discussion so you should respond back. And no when I say thank you or you are right I am not being pointless. That is also very rude to say. Sorry I was raised to be polite to people.
THANK YOU! LOL
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
19 Mar 10
I have two ideas on this...the first is, if I see a discussion and there are no comments to the responders then I doubt that the poster is not bothering to read what people have to say. Just saying thanks doesn't cut it for me either. I've seen posts where the original poster repeats the same thing to every responder.
Secondly, why bother posting and not commenting on the responses when that is what we are paid for...I believe we are paid for what we write, not what others write.
When I post a topic, I try to react to what each person says and to comment accordingly. This tells them that I appreciate and value what they have to say in response to my ideas.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
19 Mar 10
You need to read the guidelines my friend. Sure, go ahead, thank everyone. That's hardly discussing things with the responder is it? It may seem polite to you but to me it's a cop out because the OP can't be bothered to make a decent comment about what my thoughts and ideas on the subject are. You may as well put a bottom line in your original discussion saying..."oh, btw, thanks to all those who respond." That will be polite and save you heaps of time.
And no, I didn't read your discussion because it's already been done dozens of times, which you would have known if you had checked.
Thanks for your comment and have a nice day!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
20 Mar 10
Also, we are not here merely to be polite to one another. Sure, we aim to be courteous and friendly with our dealings with each other and you do that nicely. Saying thank you to a response is the same as a member saying thank you in response to your original post. It's just silly and unnecessary. e.g. if someone had responded to this discussion of yours with "Thank you snoopyfan for this interesting discussion"...that's the same as you saying "thank you for your response". However I have a feeling you have a bee in your bonnet and are not about to back down on the "thank you" issue. A shame really because you are a good contributor. I understand that you have time constraints so just leave out the "Thank you" if you can't think of anything else of value to add to that person's response. No-one will stress over it and maybe you can think of something brilliant the next time.
As for not responding/commenting to old discussions, they are archived for a reason. I have been responded to on a discussion over a year old and the discussion has had new life breathed into it. You can respond/comment on discussions no matter how old they are. I've even been silly enough to add my 2 cents worth to an old discussion knowing full well the OP is no longer active. 
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
19 Mar 10
I am going to say this for the last time because no one is reading my responses and you are about the third or fourth person to make a comment about just saying thank you.
It is called being polite it doesn't matter to me if that is not good enough for everyone. At least I am taking the time to get back to everyone. If I want to say more I will if I don't I won't. If you are going to start a discussion you should be responding and not ignoring people. More people will respond and when someone says thank you to me I appreciate it.
It depends on how someone responds to my discussion and what I feel like doing at the time.
Have a great day.
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
If you don't have the time then no. I am not sure what everyone does and they do have their own lives to lead. And other activites that is a great point you may want to but time does not allow it. Thanks for taking the time for your input.
Peace
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
16 Mar 10
Yes, i have 55 responses for my latest discussion started, i took time and i responded back by thanking them all for spending time..I always do that.
I have seen many of them won't report back to my discussion answered to their discussion, but i will not take it seriously..but i will do my part in a quite impressive way that others will think that gunagohan will respond back if i respond to his discussion..
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
17 Mar 10
check out this discussion , this gave me 55 replies...
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2256785.aspx
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Wow 55 that is awesome you must have had a interesting discussion. That is great you took the time to get back to everyone. Have to give you a big thumbs up.
Peace
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I read your discussion I didn't go through all 55 but for me I drink both. Still awesome taking the time to get back to everyone.
Peace
@amjadmacs (467)
• France
15 Mar 10
Whatever you saying I agree with you. Who ever start a new discussion should try their best to add comments on the discussion he have started. Normally, I don't like to start my own discussion. I prefer to just add comments on other's post. But when I do start a new discussion, I keep track of it and reply any commented added to my discussion plus appreciate that person.. I always check my email and keep track of the replies posted on my discussion. By my email , its easy to keep the track of you're discussion.
@amjadmacs (467)
• France
16 Mar 10
Same here, I also respond to other people started post rather than starting my own unless I think it's a good topic or I like feel like to talk about it. Normally, I don't think it's good to start the same topic again and again. So I try to not to start a new discussion unless I got something interesting to talk about.
It's good you change you're preference to your inbox. Like I have iphone to whenever I receive any email, I know it instantly so this make more sense and easily to track responses on you're discussion on mylot. But, I reply using computer rather than my iphone because its more easier to type with computer board rather than iphone keyboard.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I am enjoying more responding to people than trying to come up with a good discussion. Unless I see something in the news or something on here will get my attention. I am going to change my preference to my inbox.
Thanks
@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
15 Mar 10
It's obvious that some people are here for the money ONLY. They create like dozens of discussions per day and don't even care to read all the answers, all they care about is the number of responses they receive to a discussion. I find it's very lame and disrespectful to members who are taking time to answer to discussion.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I thought I was going to make all kinds of money so I was always trying to think of discussions. Now that I respond more than I create I notice I am making a little more. You have to put the money second and then when you see it the next day it's like wow I made that much yesterday. I am now enjoying meeting people on here and roaming around the site. There are so many on line scams that when you find something that does what it says it does we go overboard. I am sure we have all been there done that in our early years.
Peace
@marguicha (217118)
• Chile
15 Mar 10
In some of my discusions I answer some of the responses but not all of them. I don´t usually answer a response where the only thing I can add is a thank you. I´d rather use my time in answering those threads where all of the people involved in the answer start opening new lines of thought.
But then, I don´t make more than a couple of discusions a day. As they are so few, I check over them and comment on most of the answers, even if it´s not done the same day.
Take care!
@marguicha (217118)
• Chile
15 Mar 10
I have found other benefits besides that one. You start to really know people, you make friends with them and learn from them. That is very rewarding in every sense.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I do think it is easier to have a few discussions than a whole bunch in a day. It makes it easier to go back and forth and check out the responses.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I totally agree with you on this one, its way better when people respond to their discussions after people make a post. I think sometimes it depends on the time frame of the post. Like how long the post has been on the website. Because sometimes, I forget to respond to the old post I've made and stuff. But you know what I have noticed these can be recent discussions and weeks will go by and still no response. I'm not sure, most of the time I notice that they are new and maybe they don't know that, if you acknowledge the people that respond to your discussion, you get paid for that. Maybe we should inform the newbies that you earn also from responding to the people who have responded to your discussion.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Money is a bonus just answering back is being polite. And I do understand not everyone can depending on how much time they can dedicate to this site. As long as people are trying their best is all we can ask for. If they are starting a discussion and not interested in what people have to say then don't bother starting a discussion in the first place.
Peace
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
16 Mar 10
If you don't want to go back just be a responding person. There are many discussions where you can just do that and still earn money. I check for the same reason what did they think of my response did it help them?
@nonersays (3329)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I don't respond to them immediately, but when I get some time (baby's quiet, hubby isn't on the computer) I try to go and respond to all my new responses at once.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I am sure he is a beautiful angel. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I see you have your hands full. How old is the baby? I would say the baby is more important than my lot.
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
15 Mar 10
My purpose in starting a discussion is to get everyone else involved in discussing something I found interesting. I don't get on the computer much and don't have the time to answer every single response. You shouldn't take it personal.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
No I don't take it personally same when I think I am coming up with this great discussion and I have two responses. You never know what is going to be a hit or a miss. I still have fun coming on here.
Thanks
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
15 Mar 10
I have noticed it too. I admit that sometimes I am a culprit too. i committed the same offence. WEll people may think that the greater number of people replying to your discussions will help you to earn more which is a fallacy. you earn for discussions/comments / replies that you post only. Lately I am doing the same thing. sometimes I post two times or more in the same discussion. After all mylot is supposed to be a placed for discussion and not for question and answer type of forum
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I notice I have enjoyed going back and forth with you. I am sure we all do that and once I get a better job I may be the same way and not always have the time to be here. Now I have all of this time and my dog doesn't mind as long as she is sitting near me.
Thanks
@AmbiePam (86393)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Do you get the responses sent to your inbox? Since I always get the responses to my discussions to my inbox, it is so easy to know how many people responded, and makes it easier to respond in kind. Of course I don't respond to each response left, but if it merits answering, I certainly reply. I've never done a discussion where I left no corresponding response. It is such an easy thing to do. I probably reply to at least half of the responses left for me in my discussions, if not more.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
No I just look on here when I come on and try to remember what page I left off on. I think I will turn that notice on it might be a little easier. Thanks for the info.
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@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
15 Mar 10
There are many people like this. They start discussions and then just leave them there without paying any more attention. They seem to feel that others have the obligation to respond to their discussions, but they themselves have no share of the obligation to comment on the responses. I have nothing to say but shame on them. If i respond to someone's discussion and receive no comment or a thank you, i'll respond to his discussion no more. No matter how interesting that discussion may be, it doesn't deserve my attention.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I still respond I get caught up in the topic I see where you are coming from. It can be discouraging for people who are trying to participate and get no response.
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
15 Mar 10
Hello, Snoopyfan. I think the problem is some members are under the mistaken belief that they get paid for starting disussions, when of course we get paid for what we actually type. You can identify the people who never respond, because they will start lots of discussions every day. I don't bother with them, because I don't want to talk to myself, and that's what your doing if you respond to someone who doesn't comment back.
@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Yes it does get frustrating sometimes. I have responded to some where they are having a problem and I never hear back and I see they respond to their friends only. That is also a little rude. When I first came on here yes my main goal was to earn money. NOw that is second and I am enjoying getting to know people by responding to their discussions my nest egg is getting bigger. I am starting to be like you and if I see the same person start a lot of discussions and not respond I go somewhere else.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
15 Mar 10
its true,we should be giving the respones to the discussions as its ones generousity to answer the person!i try my best to give the answers!
