How do you stop the pain?

Hi ROsie, There was a time when my hubby was not "available". He went to work at 6am and came home past midnight. He was cheating on me at that time. I felt the hurt. I cried, I felt lonely and heartbroken. This person I love is out enjoying himself. he didn't even care if we were fed or clothed. At the same time, I was also angry and the anger made me stronger. After some time passed, I could see certain patterns in his behaviour and I decided to have fun when he wasn't home. I was not doing my child a favour by crying in front of her, moping around at home. I contacted friends and relatives and told them to ask me along on their outings. They were more than willing to have our company. They picked me up and even sent me home. My daughter and I enjoyed ourselves a lot. After awhile, I knew who my true friends were. These were the people I would want to be with, not with someone who didn't care about me. I didn't care anymore. After awhile the pain just left, not completely though. It will never leave completely. But you will notice that each piercing through your heart gives you strength to carry on and focus on your loved ones. You just need to know that other people care about you, even if this person doesn't. You also need to know that there are some people who depend on you, so you have got to push on. Cry it out if you need to. For me, I have cried enough. But still, I do feel the pain from time to time. I wish my situation is as clear cut. If it is truly over, then I would focus on moving on.

You cannot stop the pain in the wink of an eye. If you have to cry, cry it out for as long as you want. The pain will go in time. Every wound heals in time. You will be able to move on. And when that time comes, you will be able to laugh at yourself.

its not the end of the world.....somewhere out there someone will come and love u more than the man who leaves you does, i've been through the same situation and yes at one time u feel torn apart but u have children make them your inspiration to move on. love life go out and make friends.just always remember that hes not worth making ur life a mess.

You cant stop the pain the you are feeling right now. Nobody can. They said that time can only heal the pain and I believe in that. Not for the rest of your life you will feel the pain. Eventually it will go away. I understand what are you going into now. I am pregnant and my partner leave me. i have to be strong for my baby and i wont let the pain ruin my life. I know that my boyfriend is not man enough to face his responsibility, what else if we build up a family right? I just focus on he things that would help me and not into things that can affect me.

as you said you have already a kids., make them as one of your sword of strength to fight the pain that you are going through as of now., think that you still have your kids much needed you this time., all you have to do is to pray and ask for help from above to release the pain and suffering you have encounter.,

The pain stop if you are on rest or your body is relaxed. I stop the pain by using sleep method or by listening to music. If I am still in pain I divert my pain into something that keeps myself busy.

hell0 there! well, being in pain from someone who has left you is something that we all hate and that we all avoid happen, butit doesn't depend only of us, because there are two sides in this story- on the one side are we, and on the other are oru partners and no matter how hard we try not to break our relationship the other can always do it, just because she/he thinks it must be ended! So that happened to me several months ago, when I decided to move up in another town, because of my university education and my girlfriend, who is already my ex one, decided not to come with me, she said, it was better for her to stay there, and just then I raelized how fake it all was, hoiw fake her love to me was. well, I was like blind, I didn't see my friends passing by me, I didn't hear them when I talked to me, I even didn't want to meet them, which was really very sad, because they were really good friends. I thought the pain will never go away and I will alawys feel it in my heart, but I was wrong and that, or maybe better to say is the ones who have helped me, were exactly my beloved friends, who have always supported me and helped me and never let me fall down. They started coming every single day at home and take me to their places and make me feel better- I played some PC games, we went out for a walk, we went play football or volleyball or some basketball. we went fishin', or we just went swimming to the near river. They tried to make me think about some other things and never look back to the past, where my broken heart still was. nowadays I am really very thankful to them, because I know how much they have done for me and I really appreciate it!

hi rosie you should move on.. i know life is not fair to you but we go on with our lives. it does not end there. i hope you make urself happy by taking care of ur kids or doing some other stuffs that can make you busy i know the pain cannot stop easily but it will heal slowly.. =) gud luck my friend

i'm always tired because of computer and sometimes this is the cause of my pain in my body. sometimes i felt so bad feeling. i will stop this pain to rest more time and more relaxation. i hope i will stop addicting in computer to prevent bad feeling. always take care to your health and to your self. be happy.