Mother Shifting to Panic Mode!
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27562)
Philippines
June 21, 2010 6:19am CST
I was talking with a fellow parent this morning. She told me that some of the high school classmates of our children had born babies already. 
My daughters don't even have boyfriends nor suitors. But I realized too that it is but normal for teens to have crushes and undergo courtships. And my daughters are 18 and 19 years of age. My two girls are still talking about Iron Man and Hunger Games! Gosh! Shouldn't they be talking about boys?4 people like this
7 responses
@Nickfyoung (323)
• Australia
23 Jun 10
Charm, my wife, brought up two daughters on her own and they came with us to Australia. The eldest has just got married at 29 and the youngest has her first boyfriend at 28. She was just fussy and did not mess about with anyone unless they were exactly right. You have plenty of time yet. Enjoy them.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I'll keep the advice in mind always. 
It's just that sometimes I think that I might be too old to play Lego by the time they give me grandchildren. 
It's just that sometimes I think that I might be too old to play Lego by the time they give me grandchildren. @Nickfyoung (323)
• Australia
23 Jun 10
Those grandchildren, when they come, are going to keep you young.
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@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Hi eileen...
I'm 21 but I still love actors and heroes myself. I had boyfriends and single now. My sister is 16 and she is now a mother of my 1 year old nephew. It really depends. Are you open with them,? maybe they are just shy to tell you...
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Very open yresh. We keep no secret. I know the friends and the activities. 
But you are absolutely right. Everything comes to pass in the right time.
But you are absolutely right. Everything comes to pass in the right time.@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
That's very nice to hear communication is very important. My sister got pregnant because of that. She rebelled.she and her boyfriend were staying together at 15. My papa got disappointed. aFter the baby went out they talked and made peace. Now we get to share our views and talk more. I love it now. That's a plus communication in prevent early pregnancies.
I'm glad with what's happening with you and your family.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Jun 10
eNJOY YOUR DAUGHTERS & HOPE THEY STAY THE WAY THEY ARE FOR A LONG TIME. tHEY HAVE PLENTY OF TIME YET TO KNOW THE BOYS.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Are you panicking because they are not talking about boys or because you do not know if they are being courted or already have boyfriends?
I remember when I was their age I did not talk about boys in front of my parents. I would have been mortified to let them know who I liked. I could only ever talk to my mother about make-up and clothes and I was pretty close to her being the only girl in the family. For boys, I talked to my cousins who were my best friends. I am sure that between the two of them, they have their boy secrets.
But if they are not yet interested in boys, well, consider yourself lucky. The hormonal changes that we go through the teenage years make it more difficult to handle teenagers.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Panicking because I do want my daughters to go dating prospective boyfriends. I do want them to experience how to relate to boys. There's just the three of us in the family. We talk just about everything. They truly have no crushes yet.
@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Introduce me to your daughters so you wont be panicking anymore
Just kidding. I'm in my mid 20's and yet there still times where I think I look and feel younger. I still love watching Anime's and stuff. I'm sure your daughter have crushes too or they both have not found the right guy who suddenly change their lives and make them head over heels. I'm sure it will come to them, age really doesn't matter
Just kidding. I'm in my mid 20's and yet there still times where I think I look and feel younger. I still love watching Anime's and stuff. I'm sure your daughter have crushes too or they both have not found the right guy who suddenly change their lives and make them head over heels. I'm sure it will come to them, age really doesn't matter1 person likes this
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Ohhhh, I am so sorry hex, if not for kingparker down there I would not have read your reply.
My daughters will kill me for this but we will be somewhere at the College of Music during the Lantern Parade. It's UP tradition and we sort of enjoy it every year. Right now, the elder one is writing her thesis and the younger one is reviewing for the National Medical Admission Test (Dec. 12), so both got their noses poked on the desks.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Nov 10
Puberty is part of the process, and most of them probably already think about boys. When I was 14, I think of my beautiful classmate too. I guess that is a normal process, but don't get pregnant too early though.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Come to think of it, I also didn't think much about boys till I was working already. I suppose I am not the normal one. Even then, I only thought about having a boyfriend because my colleagues were pressuring me to entertain suitors.
But I have two brothers and plenty of male cousins. Their friends come to our house every Friday night and played guitar and sang songs at our swing. So my sister and I, as well as my female cousins are friends with the boys.
My college male friends were super duper chummy with me. I never thought of them as boy friends. Perhaps they befriended me for another reason but I am glad we just stayed as friends. Some of them I still keep in touch todate.
Perhaps my daughters are like me. They treat their school boy friends like brothers.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
21 Jun 10
Hi Eileen,
Well 18 and 19 year old's taking about Games?? Well that is something out of the normal. But Iron man i can say that he is cool and even a 50 yr old would talk about that movie.
But looks like ur Gals have a world of their own rather than a good social life! Invite their friends for a weekend Barbeque and Check out how your gals are in school.
I believe your gals should start mingling with people, by that i do not mean that they get dates and have a baby like the others, you mentioned, which is really stupid and dumb, That's too much resposibility for a person who was just curious or wanted to go with the tide!
Anyways, Hope for the best Eileen,
Cheers and have a Great day!
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
gamesurfer, the Hunger Games was by Suzanne Collins. It is easy reading, they said, but highly heart arresting. And my two girls had been attending the debut parties of their friends. I had been their chauffeur for the past two years. The gang stays overnight at my house or my sister's after the shindig. The boy friends are just like brothers. There is one or two who I think are okay but my daughters say I have no taste.
