Does my mother love me? Do I love my mother?
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
August 16, 2010 6:03pm CST
I know for a fact that my mom loves me and I love my mom. Our relationship is a combination of parent/child, friends, confidantes and mentor/student. However, there are two incidents that made me wonder how other people see their parents.
On one season of America's Next Top Model, one of the models told her roommates that she did not love her mother. Instantly, everyone started accusing her of being ungrateful and evil and things like that. I thought that their reactions were a bit extreme especially if they did not know the full story. I don't know the full story, but I would have asked the girl why she did not love her mom before attacking her. You never know how a person's relationship with their parents is.
Then I have my cousin. We were having a deep conversation once and she told me that her mother does not love her. I found this extremely ridiculous and ludicrous since I know for a fact that my aunt has bent over backwards for my cousin since the day she was born. My aunt sacrificed so much for my cousin and put up with so much because of my cousin because she loves her. Then again, my cousin has a warp sense of love to begin with.
Are you confident in your relationship with your parents? Do you know your parents love you? Do you love them? Why or why not?
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@shutong (42)
• China
16 Aug 10
Love is meant to be felt,rather than to be speculated and calculated.Love is emotional rather than rational.The love of mother is the greatest in terms of all species on earth.The effort to bring a child up is beyond our imagination.Besides mothers are ordinary people not sage.No one can be perfect, So love our moms and don't demand too much from her.We will not know exactly the love of a mother until we become mothers and fathers.
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@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
I think it's impossible for a mother to not love her child or a child to not love his mother. I learned from our psychology class that the moment the mother touches her child when he was born, a psychological and emotional bond will immediately be made. Because of the 9-month long period the mother carried her child, their touch triggers an unbreakable emotional bond. That's why those who let their child be adopted or want to separate from their child don't want to touch them because they know that the moment they touch, they'll never want to part from it again.
Anyway, there are just instances where you could hate your mother. But it doesn't mean you don't love her. You're just hurting for what she's doing or what she has done. This, I'm speaking from experience. My mom did something to me which made me hurt a lot. I thought I hated her, but I always feel the need for a child to love his mother in spite of whatever she does. 
@jeffrynov (130)
• Indonesia
17 Aug 10
I don't think so jerikjames I assume you are telling a good words regarding this question in behalf of your studies but somehow reality doesn't seem fit to your remarks, you write "it is impossible for a mother to not love her child..." I correct this sentences Mother and her child is a love bond without a gap in between but in other relation such economical and parental disturbance or any other internal case Mother and Child bond may be broken as well as mother itself nature emotional through her child it is about faith and psychological consciousness, there is even a mother who cooked her own child and serve it on a plate ! what do you think of this case ?
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
To begin my story I am not raised from my own family by my parents and sisters as well brothers. I live to a poor couple with no child and since they are newly wed during that time they cared as i am their child. I feel the true love of a mother through my poster mother and the love coming from a poster father. They love me. And i love them also. But from the love of my real mother, I feel that since i lived there after my primary school until my 2nd year in secondary level. I feel the love for her also as it is because we have blood relation. And her care through my financial need and support coming from them. I also feel the love from them. Thanks and happy day!
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Well, for youth who thinks they were not loved by their parents, probably because they feel that they were controlled. They are always being told what to do which they consider treating them like a child and this makes them feel suffocated. They're exaggerating their parents' way of protecting them. Time will come they will realize all what their parents are doing. Not all of us have been parents yet but for sure, we've all been a son/daughter to them. There are always a conflict in a mother-child relationship, but there's one thing sure, the root why these youth feel that way is because they are loved by their mothers.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
17 Aug 10
I know that there are disturbed human beings that unfortunately become parents, and if they make a child really unhappy, like regreting for even being born the love is gonna end. Okay maybe a child will love his/her mother forever, but there will be so much resentment there, maybe hate that the love will no where to be found.
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
ob course I love my parents and my parents love me more he molded me since birth, she guide me in my ups and downs, she send me to school to have a bright future that not like them that our grandmother not want them to go to school coz they want them to work so that can provide their financial assistance. My mother don't want to be like her that that finished her elementary only. I'm not what I am now without my mother effort
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 10
Hi,
I love my mother so much and we have a close relationship
with each other. I believe she loves me alot too.
I am the youngest in my family and since I was a kid, my
mother has pampered me alot and I am very happy to be born in
this happy family.
Although I have been away from my hometown for more than 15 years,
I do visit my mother(my parents and my siblings) once a year,when they
have free time, they will come over to visit me too.
We always keep in touch through phone.
I never quarrel with my mother,always respect her and she is the
best mom in my heart.
I miss you ,Mother!
