How long it'll take to trust a person?

India
August 18, 2010 12:18pm CST
I'll trust a person within few months sometimes few weeks of friendship. My friends will tell me im weak in this. We should not trust a person soon. Im unclear in this. How long we should know a person to trust them? Please share your thoughts.
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6 responses
• China
20 Aug 10
Trust is just an emotional insecurity felt by someone who has an intellectual phobia and interaction with the society. Trust varies from the complete submission to given away every information that may be used against you. the only trust people need to be assured is that of a relationship, its a necessity and it takes the test of time to determine how much you can trust someone, the trust you have on someone on the wedding day is stronger than you had on the first kiss and vice versa for example. Trust on other levels has certain importance e.g family,friend, their trust are always guaranteed unless they screw it because that's why they are there. I will always tell not to trust other people by default, let them prove they can be trusted and most importantly, why do you need to put trust in a stranger? it simply a no-no for me.
• India
30 Aug 10
Yes. You're right. We should wait for the moment that make us to think trust some one. We cannot trust people default. Relationship or any other bonding will give us more hope to trust.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
19 Aug 10
THere are some people who ae very trusting and talk to everyone. When I was close to your age and left college my lecturer advised me not to be too trusting. As we grow old , we get this feeling of ease in interactions and there is no particualr time limit for this.With some people you feel that you can trust the person and this happens within a short while.But, with some others you may not feel comfortabel even after a long time.THere would definitely be some signals in our interactions that would give us a clue .But in these complex days one needs to exercise caution.
• India
19 Aug 10
Yeah Kala,In these days its very difficult to believe others soon. It'll take more time. But i think we can trust them if we feel comfortable and we're closer to them and their family, like that.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
There's no definite time frame as to when we should or shouldn't (yet) trust a person. We can't build integrity (the core that will show if you can be trusted or not) over night. It will take a longer time to prove yourself to a person that you are trustworthy. However, in your case, it is ok to trust a person a little but do not put all your trust.Give him a benefit of the doubt that he can also betray you or the benefit of the doubt that he is worthy of your trust. Know that person slowly, little by little, trust will be tested by time. You'll see and feel if you did the right thing trusting a person so easily.:) Goodluck.
• India
18 Aug 10
Yes. I agree. We should not share or most personal things to person who is known only before few weeks or months. It varies what all we can share and what we should not.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Aug 10
That is really something that varies from person to person. A lot of people, you can pretty much figure out to trust them right away. Then there are other people that you really cannot tell for a long time. There are people that I have known for months, but I really do not know them. Of course, that could be that it was because that I do not really have been around those people enough. So it is just one of those things that vary. I think that its just the best thing to use your common sense to figure out how much you should trust these people. Even in the best of times, some people might seem trustworthy, but they could be deceiving. In many ways, the person that you should trust the least, is the one that will seem like you should trust the most. Not always but it does happen a lot of the time.
• India
18 Aug 10
Hmm. We've to analyse a lot it seems. So we should be careful always even with the known people.
@Bellapop (1279)
18 Aug 10
It's really difficult to say, there is no set amount of time, it's really the quality of the time that you have spent with that person. It depends on the level of interaction you have had with that person, and what has gone on. It depends on the actions and behaviour of the person, and when you feel you can trust that person, you will instinctively know without having to ask. Hope this helps! :)
• India
18 Aug 10
Yeah Belapop. It depend on how he behaved and how closer we're. any way i understood that we should not discloe our personal to them. we'll know about one person after long experience.
• United States
18 Aug 10
Maybe a couple of months
• India
18 Aug 10
Hmm. Might be.