once a cheater, always a cheater..
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
September 1, 2010 1:19am CST
Do you believe in that? That there are no second chances when it comes to cheating. That if someone cheated you, you can never forgive them? Because once a cheater, always a cheater. That if they cheated you, they will cheat you again and again.
Your thoughts?
3 responses
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
14 Nov 10
I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. I believe people can change but they have to REALLY want to change. If a person cheats and never gets caught it is likely they will cheat repeatedly. But if they cheat and the other person finds out and decides to give them another chance with specific guidelines then I believe it is possible they may change. But if the person doesn't change after a second chance it is likely they may never change.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
Yeah it really depends on how deep the relationship you have with your partner, because it will all be just a waste if all those years are thrown away without much thought. Any outcome would have to at least benefit both parties and there should be compromise.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
FOr a person to change it should come from within and that the person should be willing to sacrifice things in order to change himself. Trust is very difficult to earn again and for that to happen, change is definitely necessary. There is always a second chance I also believe in that but what if its the 3rd, 4th or 5th time already? What would happen?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Sep 10
The likely hood is quite possible. Although unless the person truly understands that after cheating they have to prove themselves and do it well, they will always be condemned.
Some no matter how much they try can never change and even when they truly want to as it is that much easier once they have done it and have never been caught.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Well yeah anything is possible but when trust is broken it would be difficult to trust again. But maybe when a person has learned from his or her mistake, it would be less likely that they would cheat again. Some who wants to change and had already changed has already been typecasted by people as a cheater even though they have already learned their lesson. It is sad that people think this way, but those who have been cheated on, we cannot blame them because they have been hurt so badly.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I will not generalize and say that once a cheater, always a cheater. There are people who learn from their mistakes. I want to believe that everyone is capable of changing for the better. I want to be positive that way. That is not to say that they shouldn't be punished one way or another. They should reap some consequence of their decisions. But to flat out say that all cheaters will cheat again. I don't think that's fair. Just my thoughts. Cheers!
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
I understand, well that's the saying goes, that once a cheater, always a cheater. Me too I want to believe that after a cheating has been that the person will learn from their mistakes, and that hey will face the consequences of their actions. Change is the only permanent thing in this world and I also believe that anyone has the capability to change for the better.
