How time flies! Many of my friends have been parents. I feel the pressure....

My advice would be to wait. You don't mention how old you are. I got married at 20 and had my first child at 21. Now at 29 I have an 7 year old, 5 year old and 3 year old. As much as I love my kids, I'm really missing the life I didn't experience. I didn't get to have the college experience. Plus being married so young I didn't get to have the single time out with my friends. I was dating my husband right after we graduated, so was never really single. Then being married we didn't really have much time together to do couple things before we found out we were pregnant. It would be nice if we had taken the time to enjoy life because now with 3 kids we find it very hard to find the time to do anything but things for them.

Hi, Before you decided to get married,it is best to get ready yourself because after married,your lifestyle will change. You will have more responsibility and need to respect your partner. For sure,your freedom is getting lesser. When I was young, I also have the same thinking like you. I don't think I have the capability to start a family and be a mother. But now, I am already a mother of one boy for more than 3 years and I make it. Lot of my friends have their own family with 3-4 kids. Salute them!!How can they handle so many kids? But that is life...if you don't want to be lonely on your old times,then start to plan for your future..get a girlfriend,then get married and have a kid. However,always get ready yourself before commit to start a family.

miweikang1987, I like what you wrote on your opening statement of your profile which reads and I quote: "It is not our ability that shows who we truly are, it is our choices"; and I really hope that you will not only remember it but apply it to your real life. As such, I hope that you will need to remember to work on your social life and start getting to know people. Start a few casual relationships to enable you to choose. There's just no point hiding yourself in your shell or sit behind the computer and passively looking at your friends and world of guys pass you by. In conclusion, I just feel apt to quote the words of a prolific writer Helen Keller who once quoted: “Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” Take care and have a nice day.

Oh how wrong of them to marry for social pressure. When I was 21 I nearly fell into that trap myself, but something kicked in and I realised that I live only once and I cannot marry to avoid feeling lonely or for pressure. Have you ever opened a computer programme which has a wizard to help you work at it,in case you do not know how? That's exactly how some people live their life- they press the next button of the Computer Wizard, instead of closing the Wizard and discovering for themslves how the programm works. You live only once, and before you marry, you need to be sure to be happy with yourself. Take care. :)

Hi there!Yes, time really fly so fast. Yesterday, im only seven years old, today 33 already with a husband and one daughter. That's how i describe how fast the time flies. And when im single just like you, i also question myself and asked, am i too old already because many of my batch mates do have their own family already? I got married at the age of 26, and became a mom at the age of 26 too. I think its just the right time to enter into married life because i already finished my studies and be able to experience the single life because when you became a mother and a wife already, whether you like it or not, your life will be changed and so with your priorities. Do take time to enjoy your life, its best to be successful when you're young and single remember that. You're right for thinking that you think you're not yet ready to have a family, obey that thinking of yours, just enjoy your life and in time, you will be settling down too. Good luck!

Many of my friends had gotten married too, but some of them are single parents so it took off some pressure off me. Why be a parent when you are the one one working for the kid and the father is separated from me anyway? I'd rather be single and wait for the right one.

I have seen many friends getting married before me and sometimes I feel that either they are too eager to get married or I am being old enough to wait! But then when I meet them and they start narrating their marital stories I feel safe enough to wait.

Don't feel any pressure.If your are not prepare for marriage.It is better to wait.Under pressure you get married & after some yeras you may repent or miss your freedom. So think twice before taking any decision.Good Luck!

I once had a conversation with a taxi driver that hit me in head. While I was in the cab, I tried to make a conversation to alleviate stress created by traffic. We ventured into the world of parenting. He said this to me. My only ambition in life is to see may kids grow and be a part of their lives. See them through their first step. Watch them start to walk, go to school, walk the isle while recieving a diploma. He wanted to play with his kids as long as he can. He say, we can't always be here in this world to see them through their lives. Make use of the time you have, you will never know when you will be taken away. It would be blissfull see you offsprings carry on you legacy and start a family of their own and see your grandkids and play with them. It hit me like a flying foulball. And then, I asked myself, what do you want in life? Answer came pouring in as the days progress. Now, I am happily married with perky little boys. Now ask yourself, what do you want? If you want a family, will you be able to see them through or walk them through each passing day of your existence. Life is short my friend, live and spend it wisely.

Don't let the pressure get you my friend.., for marriage is not a race at all.., take your life one step at a time..,t here's no need to rush on things if you see others have settled down.., marriage is not an easy game to play..,=) with all the responsibilities you have to attend to.., better enjoy your single life for once you enter the sacrament of marriage., there's no going back..=)

...it would be best to think first before you entire a marriage life...it's not an easy life..it is a lifetime contract without expiration...so it is best that before we decide to marry someone, we have to double checked first ourselves if ever we are ready both mentally and emotionally and that we are prepared enough to face whatever will come along the way...

We're of the same age.We're indeed still too young to marry.But like what you said,two of my university classmates have been married and even born a baby.As far as i know,the couples are living difficultly,they even have no more money to buy milkpowder for the baby.I could hardly understand why they married so early.IMO,If you couldn't support a family,don't marry or even have a baby,especially in China.Otherwise,you're a irresponsible husband and father.

Don't feel pressured. If you do you might marry someone you realize you don't even like.

my advise to you, ENJOY YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE! ;) getting married is really hard. you need a lot of sacrifice and patience to deal with it. if you think you are ready to face all the ordeals marriage has to offer then go for it. if you're not, then don't. i believe, things will come in the right place and in the right time. things will go smoothly for you! ;)

dont rush things, time will come that youll get married someday, right now just enjoy being single and find the right partner for you a partner thats for a lifetime and also prepare yourself to be a wife and a parent to your future children,,i mean you should be stable with everything..