They Made My Son Write an Apology note
By ladym33
@ladym33 (10979)
United States
October 6, 2010 5:12pm CST
Sunday night my son went over to a friend's house where the family purchased a pay per view profressional wrestling event. They also had over a few other boys as well. The boys are all 13 years old. I went to pick up my son and the fight was not quite over yet so they asked me if I wanted to stay and watch the rest of the last match, my son did not want to leave in the middle of it so I stayed and I had my youngest child with me. Apparently earlier in the night one of the other boys left his skate board in their hallway and the mom had tripped on it and injured herself, so she was kind of angry at that boy. While I was there that same boy threw his cell phone at another kid and hit him in the chin. He did not mean to hit the kid in the chin, the kid that got hit is much bigger then the other one and took the phone and would not give it back to the boy who threw it at him. The mom was yelling at the boy who threw the phone.
After the fight (the one on the TV) was over we were leaving and the boy would not give the other boy his phone back and he needed it to call home about a ride. My son tried to intervene just a little and asked the kid to please give the kid his phone back. That was my son's only involvement in this whole thing, I was standing right there I saw the whole thing. I then called for my son to go, he thanked the parents for having him over, I thanked them as well and said goodbye, and they smiled and waved good bye to us. The next day at school the kid whose home it was said that his mom said that my son and the boy who threw the phone had to write them a letter of apology.
First of all a letter is a little much to ask someone to do don't you think? And why my son? He didn't really do anything wrong, he was just trying to help diffuse the situation, and he was polite about it? I can maybe understand wanting a letter of apology from the boy who threw the phone, but I think they over reacted when it came to my son. Do you think these parents went to far as far as my son is concerned?
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12 responses
@nicole00 (141)
• United States
6 Oct 10
If all this is true yes it went to far. The parents shoule be mad at the boy who through the phone and the boy who took the phone not at your son when he was just trying to calm things down. The other two boys were rude and disrespectful for even trying to start a fight in someone elses house. As for making your son write a letter? That mother must of came in on the end of the confusion because she needs to look into what really happen before she points figures at the wrong one.
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@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I think this is really weird. What happens if he doesn't write the apology note? Kids will be kids. I would never expect a friend of my child's to write an apology note. This is especially weird because your son didn't do anything. Is he going to write the note?
@Drumman (305)
• United States
8 Oct 10
Those parents are crazy. It sounds like they cannot control children and have no business having a houseful of them under their supervision.
Did your kid write the letter? He should have written them an apology letter that said "I'm sorry you feel like things got out of control. Try being an adult next time and see if that helps."
@elperdido (33)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
If i were to choose. I will not let my son write a letter of apology.
the situation is clear(based on your story) that your son didn't fight with any of the kids and he just did the right thing to offer help.
If you are afraid of losing the friendship with the family, then so be it. cause people like them should not be called a friend and they might give bad influence to your son.
I hate it when people tell you what they want cause they just want it that way without considering other people. it seems that they hated your son for helping their son's enemy. And if we're to base it in any society helping is the rightest thing to do.
It is so childish to intervene with the kids fight too.
It was kind of your son to write an apology letter without any hesitation and that gives me an impression that he is properly raised.
I'm just confuse though. the host family asked the kids to apologize to them(that is quite demanding) in our country whenever we are trespassed or offended we don't ask people to apologize cause that is commanding and the apology wont be sincere after all
Is that how it works in America? very odd.
@TheDankestFish (1)
• United States
7 Oct 10
This truly is a strange dilema. Not only have they falsely accused your son, when he was doing the right thing, but they have also gone as far to comment on your own, and the other boy's parents ability to parent. I understand a note when it is asked to be written from a third party, such as you for instance, but asking him to right one to themselves says to me they dont think you can discipline your child. In addition why did they not say something face to face? Are they for some reason nervous or scared at what your reaction would be? I am sure they somehow thought they were doing the right thing, but there are very few situations where you should tell a parent how to do their job, or try and teach a kid other than your own a lesson.
@GardenGerty (158296)
• United States
7 Oct 10
I am with you, it is a bit much, but not because a letter is too hard to do. I think it is too much because your son was not a perpetrator. He was not causing trouble, and you were there, and would have been having him apologize on the spot if he had caused trouble. I personally think that watching pay per view fights does not lead to calm and rational behavior. Having a lot of teen or pre teen boys over is asking for things to be out of place and for kids to act like kids. The behavior was not appropriate, but it does happen.
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
7 Oct 10
I don't get what they were expecting to accomplish there by having your son write an apology to them...You were there,you witnessed what happened with him,if there was any issue with his behaviour throughout the evening,while you were there was a good time to address it.....I take it Your son wasn't involved in skateboard kid's actions,either with Mom falling over his board,or him throwing his phone at this bigger kid?..so Your Son was a bystander while the Adults were losing control...Did you hear did Skateboard Kid get his phone back?
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
Of course the kid would say your boy has to write a letter of apology! That's the normal chatter of a 13 year old boy. Don't get all in a knot until you hear from the parents. I'd just let it ride, and forget about it.
You might want to suggest a more appropriate TV program for your son to watch, Especially at that neighbors house. A wrestling match on TV could break out into a fight in the living room during a Commercial break. (And nearly did!)
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Sounds like you need to speak to the parents and ask why they think your son has to do this.
@emi285 (2)
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7 Oct 10
If I found myself in this situation, I would call the parents personally and see what is going on. If they are rude enough to want a letter from your son who did nothing, I would tell him to write it something along the lines of "Dear Mr. & Mrs. So&So I am so sorry that you are pig-headed enough to ask me to apologize for acting responsibly while I was a guest in your house..." but that's just me, I am a little rude when it comes to how people treat my children, especially if they do no wrong.
