How do you keep in touch with your kids? Text? Phone? Other?

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
October 9, 2010 1:24pm CST
This just occurred to me. I keep in touch with my grown kids the most via text and thru facebook. MY mom however doesn't carry a cell phone and I don't think she would text even if she did. Do you think this is generational? I was born in the 70s.. the kids were born in the late 80s and 90s.. and the little one was born in 2004. I am fairly sure down the road that she'll have a cell phone too and I'll keep in touch with her via text and/or phone whenever she is not home. How do you keep in contact with your kids? If you're from a previous generation (40s, 50s), have you embraced the new technology, and do you use a cell phone to regularly text your kids and grandkids? I don't think this is going away... think iPhone 4G lol. So many people complain that nobody keeps in touch, have you ever considered it might be because you still want people to send you snail mail and call your landline? If I only have a minute, I can send you a text or an email or post on your facebook. I can do very little else in one minute
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I use Facebook for the most part with an occasional telephone call thrown into the mix. I agree that it most likely is a generational thing with your mom. I turn 60 in another month or so and to me a cell phone is just that, a phone. It's something I carry with me in case of an emergency and I do use it to text with Shelly but it's just a phone, it's no big deal to me. Shelly is 41 and the cell phone is like a godsend to her, she can talk and she can text and she can take pictures and surf the internet if she desires. She loves her cell phone, I just put up with mine As for the Apple Iphone, 4G or otherwise, you couldn't pay me to have one of those things. Too costly for something that would spend all of its time either sitting on a table doing nothing or in my pocket doing nothing while I walk somewhere
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Oct 10
LOL! I'm younger than Shelly, but not much. Back when my kids were teenagers, I had a cell phone but I did not text. When I first started texting, it took me almost five minutes to text my daughter ONE SENTENCE. So she responds about 4 literal seconds later with a bunch of teen textspeak that was about 3 times longer than the one sentence I had typed. She made fun of me for weeks after that - BUT I GOT BETTER! Now I have a phone with a touch screen and a slide out keyboard, and I'm just as fast as her, if not faster. I text and email from the phone, I browse fb and update twitter. It's a godsend when I'm not home, and I have a car charger with me all the time lol. I've noticed that a lot of people a generation before me are not really into the phone either, they want to know why we don't write letters and send cards any more. I don't have time - but I have time to send a text or an email I can send a text or an email while I'm waiting in line somewhere, I can do that when I'm at my daughter's school, if I'm at the store, having lunch, whatever. Having a bluetooth is great too for long conversations or if you get lost and your gps isn't helping. I don't have an iPhone, I tossed that in there for grins and giggles. I don't like apple, I'm a pc.
@foofermen (500)
9 Oct 10
I am still blessed with younger children so I get to talk to them face to face every day. I was thinking about getting them some walkie talkies though...
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
9 Oct 10
hey now there's an idea fooferman :)
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• United States
9 Oct 10
I was born in the 70's and as you we communicate via text and phone calls. I have a daughter by the way does barely calls anyone but can send 3000 text per month. I get cutesy pics and quick I love yous daily. If I do not hear from her in 3 days I panic as she has gotten me so use her constant communication. We all use Facebook and emails as well, but texting seems to be more common.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Oct 10
My kids seem to only call me when they want something lol. I text them because it's quicker and less intrusive, my daughter can text me or call me back when she has a break at work or is not at work. If I call her and she's at work, she doesn't answer anyway, so I'd rather text and then just hear from her when she sees it.
@ench815 (465)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I was born in the 60's but my kids are oh! so young. My youngest was born 2001 because I married late. Texting is okey but if you have a minute to spare, a phone call will be great because you don't only get to say what you want but also hear your children's voices. A phone call doesn't have to be long, anyway. I still appreciate a snail mail though. It seems priceless to me. Receiving christmas cards via snail mail surely makes a difference than receiving one through email. Well, to me at least. More so, if I receive a loving handwritten letter.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Oct 10
You aren't old... hehe. My husband was born in the 60s and we have a 6 year old. I have to laugh about this because he is not a 'phone person'.... he and I actually keep in touch during the day via text and email - text from his phone when he's not at work and email when he's at work, because he can't take his phone inside. That's one of the reasons I have unlimited data on my phone. I try to send real cards to people (with handwritten notes and signed by the fam) as well as christmas cards. I hate to say doing cards is not an easy or uncomplicated process especially if you have a lot of family that lives far away, and friends from where you grew up - that is also far away - as well as people you know because of the wonderful technology called the internet - that live far away too. The list becomes quite large lol.
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
9 Oct 10
My daughter and I are very close. she calls me just about every night from her cell phone to my landline phone lol...I know it would be convenient for me to have a cell but people who are always on their phones while driving, shopping, and doing whatever else, soooo annoys me that I chose not to have one...My son moved out a couple months ago but he makes a point to come home to eat at times and to collect his mail and thats about the only time we make contact....hmm not sure i'm answering this rght but thats my story and i'm sticking to it hahahaha
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@fireant (26)
• Poland
9 Oct 10
Texting is the easiest and least intrusive method in my eyes.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Yep, it's easy and quick and sometimes I will phone someone after they respond because they can talk and can't text, other times people will call me after I text and I have to decline the call and tell them I can only text... lol. If I'm in the car, I can talk on speaker, but if I'm at the school or other places, I really have to keep my communication silent. Texting has been a godsend as far as that goes.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I love texting and facebooking to keep in touch with my family and friends. It's easy, you get to talk to them all time. I think if my parents where alive they would text and facebook. My biological father lives in Germany and he text and facebook's me all the time. I think it's more fear of the unknown that keeps people from keeping up with all the new things that come out.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
I rely so much on the net to contact my kids. Yahoo has a facility that make it possible to talk to them at no cost. Otherwise I rely on facebook to get in touch with them. I only use cell phones to call them when the need arises cos my kids are overseas and the charges are quite high if I were to use the cell phones.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Oct 10
I text my oldest, the twins don't have a cell phone yet.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
10 Oct 10
Mommyboob i mean boo...sorry! Well i dont have kids and i live with my mom and dad so we just talk face to face.My one brother lives in another city with whom we talk on phone and on internet.
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I'm lucky to be born in a generation where cellphone has become a necessity. My mother and father are in their 50s now and they have learned how to use cellphones. We find it really very helpful because cellphones keep us in touch with one another even if we live far away from each other. Now I am 8 months pregnant and I have a strong feeling that my little girl will be carrying her own cellphone at a very young age. This is not because cellphones are "In" nowadays but we really need it for communication purposes.
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
We leave each other messages on paper. I read them when I wake up and leave a message to her as well. I also send sms to my daughter. I am not afraid to show how I feel about my daughter since I believe that my love given will produce a stable environment that produces acceptance and care. My mom and I also communicate through FB and sms as well as emails. Constant communication is needed to make relationships work.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Hi there... for me, I always in contact with my family, children, wife through yahoo messenger, skype (thanks these technology). I think no problem if you are late 60's or whatever, the thing is your eagerness to contact them. If you are from late years you are the one who upgrade to the new technology children or if you want to reach your oldest - you must downgrade yourself in order to reach them without any problem. Some says try try until you succeed.
• United States
10 Oct 10
Text is the way they will answer
• United States
9 Oct 10
I think it depends on the individual and the distance. For instance, my mother and I see each other nearly every day. I still spend a few nights a week with her and we talk on the phone every day. My mother attempted the Facebook thing, but with everything she has going on, she forgot about it and it just disappeared. She's had a cell phone for pretty much as long as I can remember, though. On the other hand, my grandmother lives on the other side of the country and is in failing health. She can't speak very well so my mother can only call her about once every other week and even then it's touch-and-go as to whether she'll be understandable.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 10
hi mommyboo I am elderly,in my 80's and use both my email and my landline phone to keep in touch with my adult son and my best friend Nelda. I do embrace current technology but my landline phone is cheaper per month than the cell phone I do not have. I have a good computer and an almost new monitor and I email a lot. I seldom use snail mail too slow. I was born in 1926 but I have pretty much kept up with modern times . I am also on Facebook but like mylot a lot better.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Before snail mail is sufficient to communicate with love ones. But now that we're in a high-tech era, wherever we are, we could be able to reach for them. We usually communicate through computer via webcam. Cellphone is also one of the best, in just a blink of an eye, we can hear them laughing, crying and joking with us. Nowadays, no matter how far, it seems just an inch away to reach them out.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I use the telephone (land line) to try to reach my adult children. Failing that, I email them. Neither is as successful as I'd like, but I'm no technohead and I don't think I'll get much past email.
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Some parents prefer a short chat rather than nothing at all.
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
9 Oct 10
mommyboo hi... My husband & I bought my daughter her Iphone 3G about 1 year ago because when she went out with her friends we don't want to hear from her with a long list of excuses why she didn't call... She's 18 yrs old now but when she goes out for long hour we still expect her to call us or we call her & when we can't get each others call we text, texting always goes through.... My husband & I both have cell phones, but his recently can't receive calls but I always text him to call me, it works that way... I think something is wrong with his phone because not only me but also other co-workers have complained.. He uses his a lot for work... I like to send him small messages when he's at work & he responds with texting too... My 3 year old is learning because my daughter everyday when she's home she let him play games that she downloads for him & educational puzzles which he learns too... I blame her because now he complains a whole lot now when the phone needs to be charged & we take it away from him, it drives me crazy... I hope he doesn't learn the phone part yet & many more years before he learns it.... I think with the technology now it's great & easy because now you don't have to go around looking for a pay phone & here in my country it's high to use the pay phone... It's much easier to carry your own cell phone for emergency calls & for benefits to your family as my husband is always checking up on us if we're okay... Have a great day mylot friends....