If the couple was told by doctors during the fourth month of pregnancy you will.

@singup (666)
Malaysia
December 25, 2010 12:06pm CST
If the couple was told by doctors during the fourth month of pregnancy you will have a baby with Down Syndrome Do you abort or continue pregnancy? this question made me and my wife confused and when try to answer it we always try to skip the main point ? but if you are in that satuation with your wife ? please in details Explaine What you will do when you hear such thing ?
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9 responses
• United States
27 Dec 10
I was fortunate to have all healthy children and grandchildren. But if I had not then I would still have had them and knew I was going to be living a different life. I could never have an abortion, for any reason. AND there is always the chance that the doctors could be wrong, bad test, etc. I would be praying everyday for a healthy baby. and I would be sharing my prayer request with others. You obvious, from your replys, don't want this baby, but what about what your wife wants? I think it is EASY for men to say "abort!"...it isn't their body that the unborn child will be RIPPED out of!!! My sympathies to your wife!
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• United States
27 Dec 10
Your responses are over and over about how people will look at you in pity, to me that is being self absorbed! You talk about how you feel, you never mentioned your wife, and was this now or before? you arn't clear on it. Also your response was all about YOU nothing about your wife! What I am saying and I have seen it happen is not always are the test correct! A friend of mine, her cousin, was told that the baby would be born totally deformed, but she had the baby and it was born perfect! I have 2 grand DAUGHTERS that were suppose to be BOYS! They sure are cute little girls! So have you already had the child or are you still waiting and wondering what to do?
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 10
Your sympathy is not enough. Maybe because you did not live with the experience and months of worry and sorrow waiting to give birth to a sick child. Do you like the look pity on you and your husband in the eyes of others because you have a sick child Then I do not like dropping the matter to myself, why not discuss the subject and there is a general topic.
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 10
Not one of them Fact I've been watching the series speak on this issue and how the wife refused to abortion, which led the pair into a psychological and divorced her violent I imagined myself if that happened to me like this case how to behave my wife and I This is the whole truth Thank you for your contribution and I hope that you forgive me if it hurt your feelings by the way Christmas2006 this is video for my daughter http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V6EfAiT2M8k
@petersum (4522)
• United States
25 Dec 10
A Down's child is the most loving gift you will ever receive! Well worth any problems that may come with it.
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 10
you look as a wise man but can you answer these questions Do you live pity on you in the eyes of others? How you felt when you hear the news? What says the wife to her husband? What a man says to his wife? How are behaving with the family of the couple? Do you accept the situation and you will be brave? How will the community to your son or daughter ? How grown up A Down's child? Everything possible to come from your imagination to this question please write and explain how would be handled in detail because this is a difficult question to me?
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@petersum (4522)
• United States
25 Dec 10
I am sure there will be some Down's children in your area. Just visit them and their parents. This isn't something to learn about from the internet. A Down's child will brighten up your day - guaranteed!
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@petersum (4522)
• United States
25 Dec 10
3honor - you are probably right but one last try. Go see and hold a Down's child - then see if you have any questions or doubts afterwards!
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 11
If in that position I would continue with my pregnancy. I would let my down syndrome baby be born. I would care in loving way to him or her. I was in a similar position when at 8 months pregnancy I was expecting a baby with spina bidifa and hydrocephalus. I was offered an abortion and I said no way. I let my darling little son be born. I had a home birth and then he went off to hospital in an ambulance. He stayed in the special care baby unit for for three weeks. He had an operation to close the hole in his back and then another operation to put a shunt into his head. He now is three and a half years old. He goes to a playgroup for disabled children and there are some down syndrome children there. The down syndrome children I find really lovely.
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
hi maximax8 Let me Thank you for the reply What can I say You are a very strong woman Maybe being a man is unable to cope with such circumstances I see myself down :( Do you face a difficulty in your life because of your child? Do you think your life was better without this child ? Do you recommend others to do the same Or go abort? I hope to hear responses from you again..
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
5 Jan 11
With out a doubt I would continue the pregnancy. I do not believe in abortion what so ever unless the pregnancy is a threat to the mother and an abortion will save the mothers life. Other then carrying on with the pregnancy I am not quite sure I could handle all that comes with a Down Syndrome child. I grew up with a few of them and it can be quite challenging although very rewarding. I have a lot of patience but with 4 children already I just dont think I could handle it. I would probably concider adoption.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
It would be a very hard descion to make. I think I would try to raise the child. Every child deserves a chance. I think it would have a lot to do with what was going on with my life at that point in time. I would want to make sure I could devote 100% of my time to the child. If I couldnt then I would give them up for adoption. They need the up most love and care and if I couldnt give my 100% of my time then I wouldnt try to raise the child.
@singup (666)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
With out a doubt I would continue the pregnancy I would probably concider adoption. ?? your answer make me confuse are you going to accept or not?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Actually, this would be a question that there is no doubt in my mind the answer to. Of course I would choose to continue the pregnancy. The reason for that is that I firmly believe that we are never dealt more than we are equipped to deal with. We were chosen to be the parents of a special child and for that reason I think that it would be a sin to decide not to continue the pregnancy. I'm lucky that both of my children were born without disabilities, but I opted to not even have the tests that determined if there were genetic abnormalities with my pregnancies because I already knew what the answer to that question would have been for me.
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
hi dorannmwin i wish good health for your family but decide in such case need both acceptance from you and your husband too do you think he will have the same thinking?
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
3 Jan 11
If the doctor after necessary investigations like USG says that the baby would be a victim of Down Syndrome, he himself will advise the couple for an abortion and the couple should follow his advice because no one desires to give birth to a baby that would be a burden both to the family and to the society. But one thing that I should mention is that Down Syndrome usually happens in pregnancies after forty years.
@singup (666)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
hi DoctorDidi first doctor can not give this kind of advice for sure :) the doctore will let the partents to decide for themselves. i think you need to forget about doctor advice and give us your real answe if you are one of the parents are you going to have the baby or going to abortion ?
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Well, that's a decision that I think the couple has to weigh and consider very carefully and decide what's best for them. There are many who couldn't imagine terminating a pregnancy for any reason, but there are also those who know that they don't have the patience to raise a child with any disability. My son has autism, and he's the light of my life. But many of my family members have said that they don't know what they would have done in my position. That they don't have the patience to handle it. Some people just know that they couldn't handle a child with special needs.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
25 Dec 10
lol...Well, for starters...it would be a decision between me and my husband But I know, right away without even thinking about it that if I was faced with such news, I would continue with the pregnancy...that's a life, and I could never, never have an abortion. Initially, I would want a second opinion, and if results were conclusive, I would research, research and more research to find out what I could do both medically and physically to improve my child's' life.
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 10
Difficult to predict how things will be To speak on the subject is not someone who actually experienced Frankly, I may have pretended that courage when I discuss such a topic But when it is a reality I live with my wife and our child The rest of life thinking maybe I will many times Before they took any action in this matter
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28 Dec 10
i dont know what i would do as i dont think i would be able to cope
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
hi tichy1231 for that reason i post this discusstion lOL