Why do some neighbors often gossip about other neighbors?
@sweetcatastrophe (112)
Philippines
January 30, 2011 2:18pm CST
Whenever I passed by my street, I could not help but overhear my neighbors talking about other neighbors. Sometimes, they gossiped about their neighbor's living room, how they saw the room because the windows were open, how the bathroom was so messy the last time they visited, etc. Other times, they talked about their neighbor's life, how the wife met up with another man the other night, how the husband never came home for two weeks, etc.. Usually, it's about something negative or awful, then they would snicker around and talk some more. Why though?
I wonder if my neighbors talked about me and my family. Well, perhaps. I don't mind though as long as it won't do us any harm. I certainly am sure that my family and I never did anything indecent. Well, gossips are gossips. It can be true, it can be false.
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@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
31 Jan 11
Unfortunately many people have nothing better to do than to talk about others,they usually ignore their own flaws and speak all sorts of bad things about their neighbours,which probably gives them a certain kind of pleasure,otherwise I can't explain why they do that.If I were in their place I would try to do something useful in my free time,such as posting on mylot,for example.Anyway,I don't really care too much about them;if you pay attention them,that means you should go down to their level of intelligence.In my opinion the best thing to do is to ignore them;this way they will eventually get bored and talk about somebody else.
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@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 11
Yeah. That is true. Maybe as we always see each other it make it the easiest things to gossip about. I am sure we cannot gossip about somebody ten row away from us because we might not know what is going own to them.
But for our neighbour which live next door to us, we can see whatever they do everyday.
And strange as it seems but true in my opinion, we find it is difficult to really love our neighbour. We seems to always find fault in them. Sad but true.
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@sweetcatastrophe (112)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
We always find fault in them because we are insecure about the flaws that we have. There are still people who love and respect their neighbors. But those are the people who grew up with praises and lived a simple and happy life as far as I know. Those people who were neglected and deprived are usually the ones who want to deprive others the good impression and reputation.
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@cadguy08 (1224)
• Canada
30 Jan 11
Welcome to Mylot dear! That's the nature of Pinoys life and character that you cannot erase on them. They put you don't like they are Talangka mentality and even white or other races they have the same mentality as Pinoy have . I encountered a lots of them in my entire life and by means like in work environment there are too many of them. Just ignore them just mind your own self who cares about them they don't do anything in their life just make others life difficult but in reality they are the one who are getting all difficulties in their life, Mabuhay Me and you hhehehehe!!!
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@sweetcatastrophe (112)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
Mabuhay!
I guess you're right. The best thing to do is to just ignore them.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
It is human nature to trace bad things in any anything and particularly the human beings leave alone in neighbors.Very rarely people notice good qualities in co human beings and praise them.Even if do not have any thing to comment upon they will say you are proud etc.That should not cause us any tension.You have no control over their thoughts and speech and how can you prevent them from taking anything good or bad about you or anybody.You can ignore them and avoid further irritation...All the best
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
30 Jan 11
Because they want to know that they can never 'earn' popularity ... that it is given & taken-away without respect to reason. And they want others to know that they know these things.
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@sweetcatastrophe (112)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
That's true. Perhaps they're not happy with their lives. They wanna know if other neighbors aren't happy either. Sometimes, they gossip about others just to put them on the spotlight, thinking they could hide their flaws.
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@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Hi. I don't know if we can do anything about gossips. It seems like it's already ingrained in us humans. (Do animals gossip? :) But what I'm exasperated about are the gossip columnists and gossip shows who make a living propagating gossip. Oh, well, freedom of speech.
@justmeh (188)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
..hmmp well were the same...our neighbors are also like that...they talk lives of other people whether it concerns them or not..and sometimes the worse scenario would be they become the reason that a family can be broken...but you know what the sad part is they love to talk about other people but they hate it when the people they've been gossiping before will be the one to make and spread gossips about them.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
4 Feb 11
In some cultures, gossip is a way of life. And if you're not part of the people making gossip, then odds are you are part of the subject that they talk about. I think these people suffer from low self esteem. And the only way they can feel good about themselves is to gather up, and make other people look as if they have worse lives than theirs.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Awh that is terrible when they do that as it is not nice to carry on and make fun of people and or laugh at others misfortunes. I am one who despises gossip and will not take part as I too wonder if they do that about others surely they are capable of doing so about me.
I will make any excuse to excuse myself from the presence of those doing so while I am around.
@celeste2224 (160)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
I think that there are some neighbors who doesn't have valuable time to spend but to gossip. This is one trait that I hate the most,talking about others behind their back. Even my mother if I hear her talking about her relatives I scold her, I tell her that she shouldn't be talking about them behind their back. I just think that these people who loves to gossip around so much are those who doesn't have their own life that's why they talk about their neighbors. I really think that they should be doing much more than just talking about other people. How I wish that they would come to their senses and just think about whats good for them and for others.
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
31 Jan 11
Because those people have no life so they have to butt into someone elses.And later it becomes their nature.
I hate gossip!!!!
@loveandpeace (470)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
Well, gossiping other people is really a time wasting. If they have some issue to discuss then why not speak to the person themself instead of talking behind his/her back, no use. Maybe your neighbors have nothing to do to fill their time. Nothing harm will come with the person they're gossiped about.
