I said stop smoking and drinking Dad !
By christine888
@christine888 (303)
Philippines
April 25, 2011 8:56pm CST
I love my dad but I guess that love never comes back to us. He has been smoking and drinking since his teenage days and now he's turning 58. He always complain of his arthritis, chest pain and he known to be hypertensive. He has a maintainance med but due to his hard headedness he only takes it when he is not feeling well. I told him a hundred times to quit his vices but he never listens to me, to my mom and to my grandparents. He never tried to stop, all my uncles had done their best to quit but him I don't know. Maybe he was just afraid of the the withdrawal syndrome but for God sake he's not only killing his self but he is including us. We always inhale the smoke of his cigarette at least 5x a day. I keep on reminding him to smoke outside since I am complaining that I can't breath. He is just too stubborn, hard headed father. I had convinced him couple of times that we need to regularly consult a physician but he always refused and claims that he was totally fine and he don't need a doctor at all.
Huh! I too tired, what else could I do?
4 responses
@cmang83 (285)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 11
Hei Christine, may be can try this way. Boycott your father. Give him a last warning. If he still repeat, then ask your whole family to boycott him. Don't talk to him. Ask you mum not cook for him and etc until he stop all that.
My friend had tried this to her father and it's work. Although her father still smoke but he will only smoke outside.
@ohsodianne (433)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
I think the best thing to do is never to stop trying. I actually wouldn't know what to do if this was for the case for me as well but I guess I never will stop scolding him. I really wish your father would stop with his vices for his and your family's good. Best of luck!
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
I know how it feels. My dad also smoke a lot. He would only stop when he's in the hospital. He has already been operated in the throat but went back to smoking after several weeks. He said that he already cut back on his smoking nowadays but he just can't quit. I guess because he's been smoking since his college days and his 65 years old now, he can't put it out of his system. All we can do is encourage and sometimes force him to stop but it has to be his decision and determination for him to successfully quit smoking.
@purple2sie (24)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
I can relate to all your frustrations and resentments. You know, we cannot just tell our dad to stop smoking and expect that he will quit easily. Once a professor told me " I will just quit smoking if I want to." Even if you let him do all those ways to quit from smoking but he didn't come into a realization that no one can help him quit but his own self then it will be useless. It takes a lot of self-determination to be succesful in ceasing from smoking.
