My daughter's Kindergarten teacher is very confusing to understand.
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 8, 2011 3:39pm CST
This is my oldest daughter's first year in Kindergarten. She is at a new school now. I am really doing my best to keep my cool with her new teacher. Last week during the morning time, I sent my daughter to school with all of her school supplies that her teacher instructed her to send on a school supply list. That same day, my daughter came back home will all of her school supplies that was supposed to be sent to her teacher. The teacher did not write me a note or called me by telephone at all. So, I told my husband about it and he just went up to the school, the next day and dropped off our daughter's school supplies to the front office. That same day, my daughter did not return back home with her school supplies at all. I am assuming that her teacher had received them already. Now on yesterday, my youngest daughter got a hold of my daughter's ziplock plastic bag. She tore the bag to pieces. This bag contains my daughter's F.R.E.D. reading book. The book was not torn at all, but just the ziplock bag. I wrote her teacher a note, explaining that her ziplock bag was torn. I told her that I would send my daughter's reading book in a plastic bag. I did not have a ziplock bag at home to put her reading book in. Well today, her teacher sent back the same book in the plastic bag, that I sent myself. Her teacher did not send her book back in a ziplock bag. Okay, this is why I am confused here: I don't know what is what anymore. If the teacher does not want what I am sending back for any reason, I truly believe that she should send me a note, or call me about what she has decided. I am not getting a response from her and this is not good at all. Her behavior is unacceptable. I have already spoken to her upfront about us communicating and it just seems like, she just chooses to do things her way. I have called my daughter's school, so tomorrow morning, the school principal is going to give me a call. If my daughter's teacher is going to continue to act this way, then this is not good at all. If she by chance, happens to become offended by my actions as a parent, I will kindly ask the principal to switch my daughter's teacher for another teacher that is much more communicative and respectable to me as a parent. I just feel like her teacher is trying to ignore me on purpose. She can't be doing things as this, because it is very important that she responds back to a parent without giving me the cold shoulder. I refuse to put up with it, because I am not a game player. I am about being mature and I am not going to play any childish games with her teacher. I just don't have the time for it. No, not again this year, especially!
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11 responses
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Sep 11
Hi cream, what you have done is right! I too am teaching and in my school for students until the lower primary levels which is until a child is 7-8 years old, the class teacher needs to send any important communication through the students class diary, duly signed by her.The parent is instructed to check the same every day and take note of what is communicated.This is to make sure that nothing is missed, children being too small at that stage to remember and communicate...I feel that the class teacher has a duty to at least write a note when she send s the school supplies back.It shows a very irresponsible and lax attitude on her part and she must be taken to task by the head....all the best and happy mylotting
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
12 Sep 11
My son also started kindergarten this year.
Thankfully, I think my son was put in a good teacher. This is her first year teaching, as she was just a teacher assistant last year. She is also young, and I think a fresh graduate, so she is still very idealistic. And want to do everything right. We had a meeting last week to sort out these kind of things.
It sounds like you also need a meeting with your daughter's teacher.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
11 Sep 11
Wow!! Personally since your daughter is just in Kindergarten this should not be acceptable, and I do not blame you for being a little upset. With something like this, your teacher should have things she expects and expect everyone to do like she would appreciate and not just the opposite of what everyone is doing especially when it goes against what she was saying she expected. Sounds like there is an issue there that really needs to be dealt with somehow.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
8 Sep 11
There's definitely a communication problem going on here,but I'm not sure who's getting the wrong idea...The schoolteacher should definitely be sending notes home with your daughter about things you need to send or supply if you're not in a position to talk to or email her..
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
I am not a parent yet, not planning to be in the very near future, at least yet, but I do understand your point here. I just hope you could work this out without making anybody uncomfortable. There could be reasons behind this, maybe the teacher would realize this if given the second notice and the second chance. Good luck on this.
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@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
9 Sep 11
Sometime a note can do a good job but there are time direct communication will work even better. In your situation, it is better to call the teacher directly instead of hoping for reply from her. Sometime, when someone is busy they tend to forget about what they should do. I think that is why she did not tell your what to do or what she wants. So, make a call to her and the things or confusion can be clear immediately. Hope this will help.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
8 Sep 11
It would be best if you can work this out between you and the teacher. Maybe if you call and if you can't talk to her yet leave a message for her to call you back. Then discuss the concerns you have.
Many times when we have the children change classes other repercussions come from it. One being that teachers stick together for the most part and this teacher may say things to your childs new one that may cause her not to treat your child right. It has happened before. Also I know your child has done nothing wrong but may start thinking any time they have a problem with a teacher it's okay because they won't have to stay there you will move them. This happened with one of my grandchildren. In fact both instants did.
Then there is the problem with the teacher, this way of her doing things must stop. If she does you like this then she is doing others this way and the only way to make her respect you and your wishes is to confront her. This has worked out best for me each time.
good luck dear.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
8 Sep 11
You did the right thing by sending a note into the teacher. The teacher should have sent you a note back or even an email. Unfortunately we have to constantly keep on top of these teachers by notes or email. If things don't get resolved then definitely speak to the principal.
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@celticeagle (160806)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Sep 11
I guess I fail to understand why it is a problem for the teacher to send the book back in the plastic bag. I would do the same thing rather than put it in another ziplock and have the other daughter rip up again. I think the teacher did well saving another ziplock from perhaps being ripped up again.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Sep 11
Yes you are right that teachers need to communicate and value the fact that parents as responsible as you do exist. It does sound like the teacher has a personal issue going on, not necessarily that you or your daughter have cause for this. But apparently something is not right as most teachers if certain things are expected one way then they would surely communicate in some way so that the child is prepared.
Being that you have initiated the communication, I would think she understand that this is an important thing to do. Oh gosh I do hope you can get this resolved real soon as your poor daughter is going to be sad and confused.
I sure hope they understand that you really only want to be a responsible and proactive parent. Schools need this from all parents and with the many busy parenting offline schedules they will not encourage more to do so.
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
8 Sep 11
I don't know if I'm reading what you are saying right or not. If I am when my kids went to kindergarten or other grades sometimes teachers had so much students that they would tell the kids to take their school supplies out of their backpack and put them up and sometimes kids don't pay attention to that. I wonder if your child didn't take the supplies out of her backpack instead of the teacher putting them back in the backpack.
The teacher might have thought maybe you don't have a ziplock bag right now to put the book in and you might get one later to put the book in when you get one. She might of not wanted to start putting it in a new ziplock bag everytime one gets messed up since she might of not had any extras to put it in and didn't want to constantly do that and figured you would when you could. That is my experience with school anyways and I've been dealing with kids being in school for 17 years now.
It is very important for teachers to get a hold of you. My experience is a lot of times they don't when you write them but sometimes it is easier to talk to them when you call the school in the early morning just before school starts and ask for the teacher and if you can't ask what time you need to call back to talk to her.
I don't know if the first day of school if you went in the classroom with her and asked the teacher where she wanted the school supplies or if you seen the supplies be put up or if you took your daughter to school and they did that later on. I don't know the situation completely LOL. I hope you have a better week!
