Should a dying person fall in love?

@boyuancy (1708)
India
November 21, 2011 9:07am CST
For example if a person is diagnosed with cancer and has a few months to live, should he/she fall in love or get married? What do you think? Isn't it selfish or the person's part? What if the person has never experienced lve and wants to just once before he/she dies?
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16 responses
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
Falling in love takes times and does not fall in an instant but if a dying person loves unconditionally and falls for someone in an unexpected way, then she deserves it..but falling in love just because she or he wants to try to have it before going out of this dimension, then that is not pure love and I guess no person would want to accept that.
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• Philippines
21 Nov 11
If the other person or the one she/he loves agree to be together even to a point of marriage then i think no problem with that matter... He or she should live a life until he/she reached its end.. No wasted time if they enjoy and live a quality time of their life...
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• Philippines
21 Nov 11
I think the person should. There is no law against falling in love, and we only live once. I think it's only right that a person should experience falling in love, and as long as his or her partner is willing to let go within a very short while.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
21 Nov 11
nenyalorien ..I agree and the key is that both want it so why not bring as much happiness into everyday as possible. No one knows for sure when they will die...
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Nov 11
Should fall in love? Falling in love is not something you decide, it happens and it doesn't matter if you are dying now or in 1 week or 1 year.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
22 Nov 11
Okay sorry, what I meant was, if they are in love should the person accept to be in a relationship? Should he/she commit to the one he/she loves?
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
i think he/she shouldnt fall in love or getting married. if he/she still do that, i think it is selfish. if someone that have been diagnosed have no more tiime, i think he/she should keep away from any relationship. whatever the reason, i think it is better not to do that, you know, if someone have a close relationship, and one of them die, i think it will hurt the other. it will give bad impact to his/her mate. maybe will get depression. so it gonna be better if dont do that.
@brownny (66)
• China
23 Nov 11
if that person will have evn 1 min left to live he needs to fall in love hug do everything love is free to be in love its something special
@Galena (9110)
21 Nov 11
why shouldn't they? what happiness would you want to deny someone who is soon to die. yes, it's going to be hard for the person who is soon to lose them, but they know that going into the relationship that it can only last a short time. why shouldn't the remainder of their life be spent with someone that loves them. no one can choose who they fall in love with, and if it happens close to the end, then they shouldn't feel they need to deny that love.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Nov 11
Nobody should be denied the chance at love. Even if the person is dying that last bit of love and happiness is something to see them through. Everyone should at least be given the chance and opportunity to fulfill the wishes of love in their life even for a very short time.
@liumirror (138)
• China
22 Nov 11
I don't think the person should fall in love ,not to mention marriage. Unless, the parter know the situation,and he or she would like to love and marry with.Else it is unfair to the healthy person.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
21 Nov 11
boyuancy ...I don't know that there is a choice with the falling in love part, but getting married is another matter. If both agree and want it ..why not??
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
No one can stop a person who is in love is just a matter of dealing with it. If both parties can bear the pain if one them will die soon then that's fine. But for me if I am going to die anytime soon, then I will not fall in love to someone else for obvious reason.
@airkulet (2700)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
hhmmmn this looks like in the soap opera of Korean "Helena' Promise", for me there is no reason to be in love for I know that I will just hurt that person, but we cannot tell right, maybe it will just happen that we fall in love even if we hold on it.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
The person has every right to fall in love. It's a feeling that no one can control, it happens and if the other person loves the dying person too then there is no problem about it too. I don't think it would be a selfish thing to love. Have you seen the movie My Sister's Keeper? I suggest you watch it. It's really a nice movie.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Of course! everyone deserves to love and be loved in whatever way. The most beautiful experience here on earth is to take the risk of loveing someone, why do we have to put boundaries on dying people when we know that they deserve it???????
@Bellapop (1279)
21 Nov 11
It's not really a right to claim, but perhaps something that happens unexpectedly, and it can be really sad when it happens as the dying person and may the loved one knows that their time is limited and that their 'planned' future is not going to be that long. It really depends on the individual, how they think, what their ideals are - there isn't really any question of whether a dying person 'should or should not' fall in love, if it happens, it happens, for whatever reason, and at this point in time, the love felt will be felt even more so, the emphasis is greater, its meaning and significance will outweigh a whole lot else. Perhaps you could say that it would lucky for the dying person to fall in love, at least they will experience some love before they go, better this than not to have tasted it at all through your existence...
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
21 Nov 11
I think it's needed....They will know that they will die with in some months... In my opinion....We have to do the all wishes of that person...I thought this before seeing this discussion...Some people will have a big dream about their life,Partner,Babies etc....But If they caught by such diseases, On that time,There will have a big wish on their mind that will not happen in future...So If any people come ready to live with this person for some months, It will add the happiness of that patient....We should not separate the patient in any matter.....It will increase their grief....So be happy to them and give a good life to them....It will make them very happy....They will surely within some months....So help them to enjoy life....That's my opinion.... :-)