I feel bad for her...

I hope you and your sister understand that your Mother has depression and it is pretty much out of her hands. I use to do the same thing when my daughter would come home. I regret it now, but it is the only way I could deal with things back then. I was also going through the change of life and not doing to well with that either. Enjoy your time with your sister.

That is sad.....you would think she would love seeing your sister! I hope that they do get a bit of time together before she has to leave again!

Hi LovingMyBabies, I am not a depressed person so it is hard for me to understand your mom at all. I just love it when all my daughters are here together. I'm sure depression is a very hard thing to deal with so I think it would be wrong to judge your mom in any way on this. Maybe you could explain to your sister a bit about what is going on with your mom so that she doesn't take it to heart. She came to see you as well so rather than focus on your mom, I hope the two of you have a great time together and make the best of it as hard as that may be to do. I'm sure your mom would feel even more depressed if she felt she ruined your holiday.

Is your mother having social anxiety issues? If she is in her room and not having visitors then your sister shouldn't feel bad.

hey, all world are going threw financial crises these days how long we cannot be affected with this. all the mother needs to understand that their children too understands the world, they also know how the thinks are difficult these day. mother needs to get normal as thing will come back to normal. cheers

I think the real problem here is why your mom is depressed? Depression is a serious problem that could lead to something else. How long does your mom feeling depressed? Hiding in her room and withdrawing from people is a sign of depression. Maybe you should talk to your mom about what she is feeling. i hope that your sister and your family would understand your mother.

This is too bad. Sometimes family is just stressful, isn't it?

Hello... In the present situation, I think it is good that your sister didn't see your mother against her wish... Depression is like poison... I have suffered from depression for years, and I know, if we people decide to go into a shell, we will not let anyone into our shell... Please don't be angry with your Mom... She needs your help... Depression is not easy to cure... In fact, for years, i have not found any solution for my own mind getting low...

That makes me feel bad for her too. I think if I were your sister my feelings would really be hurt. But at least she got to see you and the rest of the family, right?

Well if your mom has clinical depression issues isn't your sister aware of your mother's emotional and mental health? If your sister knows about your moms issue she might be understanding instead of offended because your moms in her room because if your mother has depression it's not personal is medical I'm sorry that you are dealing with such stressful issues but I recommend that you sure your sister that it's not personal and that you are happy to see her, and deep down your mom is happy to see her also Enjoy your new year.

when your sister to have financial problems, it is normal to not feel good to take it a little serous and you become bad. This is very nasty. but you know I just tried to create their little serene atmosphere instilling courage, courage to fight let's think positive. success. happily welcome the new year.

hi then you should go and talk to your sister. At the place of being online and posting about things , you can go and spend some quality time with your sister, as you have told that she visits you people only once in a blue moon. If your mom is having depression problem then dont worry your elder sister will surely understand. May your mom gets well soon. take care.

Hope she can understand your mum's situation. Depression can take someone down and act negatively even without intending to do so. Hope you mum can get better and spend more time with your sister and her daughter.

hey lovingmy babies, all across the world is in financial crises these day, and as the times is passing the situation is getting even worse. may be this circumstances are not been digesting by mother. although she does not want to express her pain to her children that why she is hiding her inside the room. she needs to understand that her children are grownup and they to understands the whole scenario.

I think that you and she need to visit about this. Let her know how glad you are that she came and reassure her that your mom's absence is not because of her. It is good that you understand that your mom is depressed, but you cannot say what she "should" do, because if she could choose, I am sure she would choose to be happy.

It is normal for old people to be sensitive on petty issues. They are like babies who hungers for attention. It is hard to please old people and takes a lot of soothing words to pacify their adult tantrums. I hope she realized that your sister is there to see her and she reciprocate her presence by coming out of her hibernation.

There is a commercial that shows how depression affects not only the people with depression but there loved ones as well. This is a prime example of this. I am sorry your mom is not up to seeing your sister today. Maybe next time she will feel better!

That's really sad. Specially if your sister came from afar even if it was financially difficult for her. I just hope that when your mom feels a lot better she would appreciate the effort her daughter made. I also hope you made her understand that it wasn't her. Just the sickness that all of us succumb to once in a while. Happy New Year to you and your family!

It's New year so I hope everything will be fine with you there. You should try to cheer up your mom because it is the start of the New Year.

Hello LovingMyBabies, Its really sad that your sister hardly has seen your mom though she came all the way despite of having financial issues your mom should understand it that she has come to your place and does not know herself when she will come again to her place.