What's your view of those married couples who choose not to have children?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
January 5, 2012 4:54pm CST
I'm just talking in general-(not about abortion). Couples who hve made the decision not to have children. I feel that if a couple doesn't want to have children then that is their decision. Others shouldn't make them feel bad because they want to just enjoy their life as is.
9 responses
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I agree it's there decision. A child should be brought in the world because they are wanted and it's a happy thing. It should not be because others say something.
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
6 Jan 12
it dose take a lot. that with average kids. then you have kid who need more.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Yes I agree that certain children need more. I know that more daughter requires a lot of attention. So I tell myself that one child is enough. She already keeps me very busy.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Yeah it's important for parents to be happy about the decision they made to have a child. No one should be pressured into having a child. It takes a lot of responsibility to raise a child. So a couple has to decide for themselves if they are ready for such a step.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
7 Jan 12
I think that it's fine not to want children. In fact, I think if you don't want them you shouldn't have them. They are big responsibilities after all and too many irresponsible people have them.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
7 Jan 12
I agree with you. There are way to many irresponsible people who have kids. It always amazes me how people who can't handle or raise there children properly have so many. Children are a lot of responsibility and deciding to have them should be thought about carefully.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Apr 12
I agree with you. People shouldn't be hard on couples just because they decide they don't want to have children. It is completely their chose. We have to respect another person's decision even when we may not exactly agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I think that it is their decision and let's face it, it may be the mature one to make. Marriage is one step, but having children is a huge step and it takes a special kind of person to really be able to raise children properly. Given all of the news coming out about all of the horror stories about parents who are unable to properly raise their children, which is likely only a fraction what really occurs, perhaps they are the intelligent ones.
Some people are not cut out to be parents. That's not really a problem, unless of course they have children. Then it does become a slight problem for sure. However, these people who decide not to have children are more fit to be parents then those who have them but are unable to raise the properly. Still it is not a decision to be made lightly.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Yeah I agree that having children is a big responsibility. And no one should be pressured to do this. Not even spouse or partner should pressure for a child. It takes a lot of effort to raise a child and it should be a joint effort no one should feel that they really didn't have a chose in the matter. There are so many individuals who have children left and right and aren't fit to be parents. I do believe that it is a mature decision to not have children if a couple doesn't want too.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
I think in general, some people who have decided to get married wants to have their own family too. But, deciding not to have children is the couples choice.Maybe they have their own reasons or they want to enjoy life more without any burden on their part. For us who have children, it's the fulfillment of being men and to see them grow, especially if they turned out the way we want them to be.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Apr 12
Yeah it is a great joy to see our child/ren grow and mature. I think that it is good for each couple to talk about what they want as a family. If they want their family to be just the two of them or if they want to add little ones. Whatever decision they choose is up to them. And it is respectful to let them decide for themselves without any pressure either way.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
12 Apr 12
If the couple decides not to have children that is their decision. Like you said other people should not make them feel bad or disclude them from things because of it. Raising children is not for everyone and some people are happy without children and in a way respect people who have that ability.
@min8esign (167)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
Some might have their own reason, may be they are too afraid, by having children their career would not run smoothly so that they choose not to have any children until their career has settled.
@dwayneeeboy (169)
• India
10 Apr 12
Giving life is blessed but if a couple decides not to do so, its their own choice. Maybe they aren't financially secure, or probably they aren't ready for a child as yet. But, as for me, I believe bringing a child into this world is divine. Be fruitful and multiply
